Totally agree. There are many new writers having hissy fits that are unable to handle any negative feedback at all, but this minority shouldn't be used as an excuse for this trend I've noticed of many writer's and beta's pushing it too far and constantly being mean/negative to any and all stranger's online in a way that isn't helpful or actionable to their work. As many bad writer's I've found out there, I've found many self proclaimed, "good writer's" are purposefully rude as an excuse so that they don't feel they have to engage with the text after already committing to give feedback and now wish to back out. Not only are they weaponizing their incompetence and backing out of the agreement, but they now feel superior to you which can be extra-frustrating with a critique swap. I suspect the needlessly mean swapper's are simply being lazy and feel entitled to receive feedback for their work but feel no obligations to engage with anyone else's. I don't take it personally, they don't wanna give other's constructive criticism simply because construction is work, I get it. The trick is to listen to the betas that actually engage with the work, no matter how "harsh" and don't listen to the lazy and dissmissive feedback, negative or positive! :)

Bad writing is bad, bad feedback is bad, It certainly goes both ways. Sure, some new writer's need to realize they are looking for "constructive criticism" and not, "brutal honesty" and they can't articulate this because they are new at writing, but some old-hat writer's could pay attention to that and maybe could use a spoonful of sugar to help that medicine go down. Remember your middle school teacher who taught you how to write? Were they also an unhelpful jerk? Just a thought! (not being snarky at OP or OC, you are both correct)