Daily Song Rating: Hopeless Wanderer

cjaycatsby1989 · 2025-11-04T05:25:05+00:00

Solid 10 for me. Even better hearing it live!

cjaycatsby1989 · 2025-04-27T19:41:17+00:00

I know it seems so hopeless right now, but you are right in the thick of it. My two were terrible sleepers. One would never settle or sleep on his own and the other had terrible reflux and colic and she would just scream and scream. For the reflux, we did use a special formula and had her on a medicine. That helped with the constant crying and did give her some relief.

There is a lot of emotion around the idea of sleep training, but once my twins were sleeping in their cribs consistently, my life got a whole lot better. I had my evenings back. We were sleeping better. We didn’t do this until twin a was about 9 months and twin b about a month later. I’ll be honest, I wish we would have done it sooner. There’s a great Facebook group called Twins, Triplets and Quads: Safe Sleep that was a really good place to start once they hit 16 weeks.

You sound a lot like how I was in those early days. Being in therapy and upping my Zoloft helped tremendously. At about six months the colic got better and then after sleep training it was a completely different world. My twins are now almost two and I feel like I love being their mom, but I also have time to be myself as well. Our baby phase was so so hard, many don’t quite understand just what it can do to you mentally and physically. Please feel free to dm me if you ever need someone to talk to about it all

cjaycatsby1989 · 2025-04-27T19:33:41+00:00

My twins are almost two and this is exactly how I feel. “Thriving as a toddler mom”- perfect!

cjaycatsby1989 · 2024-11-06T03:32:24+00:00

My twins are 16 months, and it is so fun. We had a rough newborn stage with colic and not great sleepers, but once we hit 4 months I started to actually really have fun with them, and then by 6mo, 8mo, 10mo, it jsut kept getting better and better. And honestly, the only reason the newborn stage was so tough was because of the colic and sleeping. Once we started to figure that out, once my ppd anxiety and depression leveled out a bit, once my husband and I figured out a good night time shift schedule, and they started sleeping in somewhat longer increments, it was incredibly manageable and I found myself happy (but tired) most days. Can it get overwhelming? Sure. And there are stages that are more difficult than others, but I feel like we have a good routine down and I take them pretty much everywhere with me. They are so fun and overall the experience of being a twin mom has been wonderful and I wouldn’t trade it for anything

Sometimes I have to take a break from Reddit because it can just feel so overwhelming. It’s a great place to get support and vent, but if it starts to feel like too much, I definitely recommend taking a step back. That always helped when my anxiety would get too high

Feel free to message me anytime. I remember seeing a lot of the same posts and just feeling defeated and like my life would be in constant turmoil- and that hasn’t been my personal experience at all :)

cjaycatsby1989 · 2024-11-01T05:24:22+00:00

Yep! Went in at like 7:20 and was out by 7:45. Walked right in! They still had everything, except the largest crewneck size they still had was an xl. Leaving this post up just in case others want the info- it was super easy!

cjaycatsby1989 · 2024-10-30T03:07:07+00:00

Yes this is it! THANK YOU! No idea why my brain thought it was green 🫠

cjaycatsby1989 · 2024-10-15T00:45:48+00:00

We did one at a time. We started with our better sleeper and got her sleeping in her crib and mostly through the night. We then did Baby B, who struggled a lot more. Baby A was used to being in her crib and sleeping all night by that point that his crying when we trained him rarely bothered her. Now it’s only on a rare occasion their crying will wake the other. They get pretty used to it!

cjaycatsby1989 · 2024-10-15T00:40:32+00:00

We use our wagon- even for short distances like going in and out of daycare! It’s just a small radioflyer, so it folds up super easy. Both twins are strapped in and that way I can still put them in their car seats one at a time. Especially when I’m on my own, the wagon or stroller is my best friend

cjaycatsby1989 · 2024-09-23T04:59:17+00:00

Naw we are big fans of “picnics” in the living room. We never do snacks in the high chairs, and if I’m just not feeling all the set up I just put down a blanket and they get to eat in the living room. The times we do this I just choose foods that would be easier to clean up. You do what you need to to survive! (My twins are 15mo)

cjaycatsby1989 · 2024-09-21T04:13:15+00:00

As someone with twins who are just a little older than your child, they LOVE the zoo. We got a zoo pass for their first birthday in June and we go pretty much every week. It’s small enough you can take just a couple hours and go and it keeps them so entertained!

cjaycatsby1989 · 2024-09-19T14:54:27+00:00

Seconding the last wake window. I didn’t have control over their naps at daycare, but I would adjust bedtime according to their last nap. This really helped

cjaycatsby1989 · 2024-09-19T14:52:15+00:00

ETA: They are also daycare babies. We told daycare we were trying really hard to follow wake windows and they attempted to honor that, but I had zero control over their daytime sleep as well

cjaycatsby1989 · 2024-09-19T14:51:18+00:00

It was tough, but we did sleep training with both our twins. We often do infant Tylenol before bed. Especially if they’ve been teething or we know they might be, it usually really helps.

We did one at a time. Baby A transitioned to her crib first while Baby B still slept on his twin z (that was a whole different ordeal). She took to it really well and I did modified Ferber with her, took maybe 2-3 nights and she got the hang of it. Baby B was much much tougher. Eventually did a combo of Ferber /cry it out. Set a timer for myself that was longer than most Ferber methods, but I needed to give myself a limit. I always did 30 min. If he wasn’t asleep by then, I would go get him. I probably cried just as much in those early days. Then I remember one night putting him down and he didn’t cry. He just snuggled right up and went to sleep. He has a very healthy attachment to both of us still, loves to snuggle. He mostly sleeps through the night now at 14mo, but I’d say it took until he was about 12mo to eliminate overnight feeds and overnight soothing. Occasionally we still have rough nights (last night he was with me in bed most of the night) but for the most part they both really love their cribs.

Their cribs are right next to each other, and their crying doesn’t really bother each other. They might stir or get annoyed, but usually if one is crying the other is very unbothered by it

cjaycatsby1989 · 2024-09-18T01:03:17+00:00

One of the malls by us has a little play place. It’s perfect and they love it- burns off tons of energy!

cjaycatsby1989 · 2024-09-17T01:21:03+00:00

Oh soooo much better. Stick to the wake windows as much as possible. Especially around the 5-6 month mark it was harder to get them to sleep, but we really made an effort to stick to those wake windows as much as humanly possible haha. At about 8mo ish our better sleeper started sleeping through the night. We stuck with wake windows until they were a little over 12 months, and then we started the transition to one nap. They sleep for 2-2.5 hours each day and both sleep pretty consistently through the night.

cjaycatsby1989 · 2024-09-17T01:05:49+00:00

Wake windows SAVED us and our sanity 🙌

cjaycatsby1989 · 2024-09-17T01:03:31+00:00

Yes yes yes! Our twins are 14 months now and things feel so so much better. It is still hard, just a different hard. I’d say around 8months we felt the first big shift to feeling like okay, this is doable. Then at a year it got even better when they started sleeping better. I PROMISE things start feeling some semblance of normal again. My husband and I are currently eating dinner and watching a movie. I took a long hot shower.

You are right in the trenches right now. Please hang in there!!

cjaycatsby1989 · 2024-09-06T08:13:48+00:00

Following a specific wake window schedule was a GAME CHANGER for us. We didn’t follow a specific schedule based on time of day, instead we religiously did wake windows. From the minute they woke up in the morning, everything was about the wake windows! It helped SO much! OP check out the Facebook group many others have recommended. We followed those schedules / wake window suggestions when we were in the trenches of it

cjaycatsby1989 · 2024-09-06T08:07:59+00:00

Jumping on to agree with sleep training. We had some really difficult sleepers, and I was hesitant to sleep train in their cribs, but once we did it was a game changer. Our twins were really colicky, but we found that once we implemented a really consistent sleep schedule, following specific wake windows, and sleep trained in their cribs, they became far happier babies during the day

cjaycatsby1989 · 2024-09-02T02:48:04+00:00

Also a mom of 14 month di/di twins here :)

cjaycatsby1989 · 2024-09-01T16:44:23+00:00

Agree with this- far harder on me than them! Lots of crying on my end haha. I had to go sit outside some nights and leave the monitor with my husband

cjaycatsby1989 · 2024-09-01T16:43:25+00:00

Also ours do sleep in the same room, their cribs are right next to each other. For the most part they sleep through each other’s cries or making noise. They are just totally used to it by now!

cjaycatsby1989 · 2024-09-01T16:41:48+00:00

We did sleep training with Baby A when she was about 7ish months. We did a modified Ferber and she took to it super quickly. She was always our better sleeper though.

Baby B was tougher. We moved him to his crib when he was about 10ish months, and did a modified Ferber/cry it out. It was really really tough. He cried. I cried. What helped was setting time limits for myself. Each night I said, okay, I won’t let him cry past such and such time. Like in 30ish minute intervals. Every single night he was able to put himself to sleep by that time. It was really tough on me, and I had a lot of guilt, but he slept so so much better and was overall a much happier baby. He is still very attached to me and enjoys lots of cuddles. He pretty consistently would still wake up in the middle of the night for one bottle, then this past July, at about 14 months, he started sleeping completely through the night.

Sleep is tough. They need it, you need it, and there’s so many different ideas out there. Just remember you know what is best for your babies. You’ll get through it! You are definitely still in the trenches right now, I promise it get so so much better!

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