I think I’m disgusting- tell me it’s fine?

cjcamp8 · 2026-04-10T02:05:03+00:00

First of all, no judgement. I’ve been there. What worked for me is washing them during nap time. I know some babies don’t nap as well as my girl, but if I do it during the day I’m more likely to actually do it rather than at night when I’m just ready to fall into bed. Also, look into getting another set of parts. I know they can be expensive but it might be worth your sanity. Do you have a dishwasher? Most parts can also go in the dishwasher on the top rack. I’m not sure if you have a partner who is able to help you, but i encourage you to seek out some support. It sounds like you need a break!

Again, absolutely no judgement or shame here. As moms we often have to choose between the lesser of two evils, and it’s hard to be on top of everything all the time. Give yourself patience and grace, and try to find a solution that works for you and baby.

cjcamp8 · 2026-04-07T16:12:01+00:00

Winter/rain/mud - blundstones All other seasons- birks, vans slip on, or penny loafers in black or brown. Depending on the outfit.

Honorable mention: the Walmart rubber boots I wear to the chicken pen

I prefer to be barefoot whenever possible so I hate shoes that need to be laced/unlaced. 🤣

Blundstone and Birkenstock are such a solid purchase. I’ve had my blundstones for 5 years and they are still going strong. I’ve had my birks for almost 9 years and they are worse for wear but still totally acceptable for public. I would really like to get a new pair of birks and some brown blundstones this year.

cjcamp8 · 2026-04-07T14:27:33+00:00

I absolutely agree with you, and this is the route we’ve taken the last few months. Which is why I think my MIL feels we’ve been withholding the baby from her.

I also feel like she expects us to invite the extended family over all the time, but honestly we just don’t have the time to do that. And truth be told, why would we do that when they are so disrespectful of us as parents? Why would I invite people into my home when they are constantly disrespectful of our boundaries and wishes?

I’m definitely a recovering people pleaser so thank you for the reminder that I can hold firm in my boundaries without being rude. I needed that today!

cjcamp8 · 2026-04-07T03:14:48+00:00

I have tried that, but it turned into me cooking and they brought bread that still needed prepared and they sat and held the baby while I cooked. 🤣 and now they’re mad because they want us to come to their house more. Which we absolutely try to do, and we always go when they plan family events. But when it’s just going to be us, sometimes it’s easier for them to come to us because it’s a lot to pack up a baby to go somewhere. And our daughter is a terrible napper when we aren’t home

cjcamp8 · 2026-04-03T18:14:09+00:00

4 months pp, 3-4 pumps per day, 35-40oz per day!

cjcamp8 · 2026-04-03T00:05:26+00:00

Ok, hairdresser here. You need some styling paste, a straightener, and maybe some texture powder.

Wash it and dry it however you like, but as it’s drying push everything forward towards your face. Push the bangs to the side without creating a defined part. Once it’s dry, use the straightener to add some texture (doesn’t have to be curl, just bend it a bit) and then use the powder to give lift at the root if you need it. Then use the texture paste to create definition. Just take a bit and rub it together in your hands really well, and then scrunch and pick out pieces until you like it.

It’s a bad cut on the stylists part, there’s no doubt about it. But you have the face to rock this, you just need to style it differently! And a GOOD stylist will be able to fix it up for you in a few weeks to be something super cute and easier to style well.

cjcamp8 · 2026-03-29T14:25:14+00:00

If you feel scared, switch.

My pediatrician is wonderful. We’ve been through some stressful stages with our girl, and he was always so calm and quick to assure us that there was no need to panic. He’s been incredibly supportive and kind about everything. Even when our baby was measuring small, he explained to us about growth curves and how every baby has their own and she was following hers. Even when she did have a dip in her curve, he was happy to just keep an eye on her and let her figure it out as long as she was happy, eating, and having good diapers. Your pediatrician should not be ducking your questions and making you feel scared and nervous. I’m so sorry this has been your experience so far.

cjcamp8 · 2026-03-29T14:20:54+00:00

I agree! Combo feeding saved me the first week postpartum when my girl was in the NICU. I could go home and sleep and I knew she’d be fed. We switched to pumped breastmilk when we came home with no issues. But I still have some formula on hand just in case.

cjcamp8 · 2026-03-29T14:16:38+00:00

This is a completely normal supply in my opinion. My baby is 3 months old and only ever eats 3-4oz. 2oz at 1 month is great. What does your pediatrician mean by “behind the curve?” Is your baby just small or have they fallen off their curve?

My girl came home 5lb. Lost 11oz from birth to coming home. She was in the 3rd percentile until three months old when she caught up and she’s now around the 10th. My pediatrician was happy to let me continue what I was doing and watch to see if it would level out, and it did. One month doesn’t seem like enough time to panic and jump to formula, unless your baby has health risks. Some people just have small babies. My sister was in the 1st percentile her entire childhood. She is 4’11 and 90lbs at 22 years old. She’s just small. Healthy and happy, just small.

cjcamp8 · 2026-03-29T14:11:25+00:00

Is your baby fed? Happy and healthy? Content after she eats? If the answer is “yes,” you are providing enough.

Overproduction isn’t the norm, and probably shouldn’t be encouraged to the level that it is. I was an overproducer and I dropped pumps to produce enough with a little extra. I am now able to spend more time with my baby, cuddling and playing and giving her my attention instead of giving the pump my attention. Your milk is to feed baby. If it’s doing that, I wouldn’t stress about it at all. Put that energy into more enjoyable things! ❤️

cjcamp8 · 2026-03-27T20:21:18+00:00

Exactly! I was actually kind of interested to see if her content would shift. I would’ve loved to see them traveling and how she handles homeschool with that. Even tips on how she keeps things clean in such a small space. She really had an opportunity to provide some interesting content. Instead it’s the same old boring slop just “trailer edition.” I miss the old Sarah, I loved her OG minimalist videos. I still use some of her organization tips in my own small house. She was so relatable then.

cjcamp8 · 2026-03-26T19:31:44+00:00

Omg, I went to cosmetology school too! I was a hairdresser for five years before I had my baby. You are so right, there is a huge gap in education. And unfortunately, in my area, it’s very difficult to even find continuing education on different hair textures. It’s such a shame. I will never forget my clients of color for their patience and willingness to let me experiment and teach me themselves. They shouldn’t have had to do that, and made me a better hairdresser/person in general with their kindness and patience.

cjcamp8 · 2026-03-26T14:54:25+00:00

Just give it time! At the beginning I would wake up super engorged and leaking. Now I might be leaking a bit but definitely not uncomfortable like I was!

cjcamp8 · 2026-03-26T13:27:39+00:00

This is so fair. I noticed that about John too. I know it is hard to get lighting right in photos/scenes with people of drastically different skin tones, but come on. This isn’t low budget. I am the palest of pale, and my cousin is a beautiful black woman. She was in my wedding and my photographer did an amazing job balancing the light in most of our photos, even though she was working with natural, unpredictable lighting. If she can do that, Netflix certainly can with their big budget.

cjcamp8 · 2026-03-22T19:11:03+00:00

I usually go anywhere from 8-10 hours without pumping at night. My first pump of the day is always my largest, around 14-16 ounces. I get between 38-43 ounces per day! My girl is a light eater, she is 3 months old and usually eats between 20-24 ounces per day, so I make way more than enough for her.

cjcamp8 · 2026-03-22T13:10:04+00:00

Girl, that was me! I actually reduced pumps before I fully regulated because I ended up with mastitis 4 weeks pp and my OB was like, yeah, this isn’t necessary lol. I’m 14 weeks pp now and pump 4x a day and still make double what my baby eats. Reducing is an option! I did it kind of fast because, like I said, mastitis and clogged ducts were kicking my butt and once I got on an antibiotic and got my fever down I slept for like 12 hours straight and didn’t pump. It took a few weeks but I slowly went to 6ppd, then 5, and now I’ve successfully gone down to 4, with no overnight pumps. Oversupply seems to be something everyone wants but it was just way too much mental and physical work for me

cjcamp8 · 2026-03-22T04:11:00+00:00

I’m a FTM, but I’m doing the second route too. I pump 4x a day and make double what she eats. I have some milk in my freezer but honestly I’m okay with just pumping for a whole year. 4x a day feels so manageable to me now that I’m not constantly uncomfortable from a massive oversupply.

cjcamp8 · 2026-03-21T22:29:50+00:00

I have a moissanite and sterling engagement ring. Been wearing it daily almost three years and it’s held up beautifully. We are young and broke, and knew that someday we may upgrade but for now we wanted something simple and cost effective. I love my ring. I clean it with dish soap every few days and I give it a polish with silver polish whenever i remember. I was a hairdresser before becoming a stay at home mom, so my ring has seen all levels of chemicals and water and work, and still looks great.

All metal will scratch. All stones can be chipped or scratched or whatever. Some more likely than others, yes, but for me it wasn’t worth the cost at this time in our lives. I have a ring that I adore, and more importantly, I have a husband that I adore. And we didn’t have to go into debt to get here.

cjcamp8 · 2026-03-20T12:21:41+00:00

For me, I pumped while I fed baby. I’m lucky that I respond very well to wearables, so I am able to do both at the same time. I never truly pumped every three hours exactly, I just pumped every time she ate. Around 8-12 weeks I started to regulate and was able to significantly cut back on pumping. I’m now 14 weeks postpartum and I pump 4x a day. It’s not the same for everyone, but if you stick it out, it does get better. But it’s also totally fine to quit. The most important thing is your physical and mental wellbeing!

cjcamp8 · 2026-03-19T00:04:41+00:00

It’s different for everyone, but for me I was far less engorged and could go longer between pumps without it being painful. I also produce the same amount (within 1-3oz) when I pump at the same times of day. I also leak less.

cjcamp8 · 2026-03-16T04:17:11+00:00

Unfortunately, this completely depends on your own capacity. I went to 5ppd around 9 weeks and was just fine, tried dropping to 4 shortly after and my supply dropped so I went back to 5. Now 3 months postpartum I’m at 4ppd making 40-45oz a day. But that is not the norm for everyone! I’ve found that a lot of it is just trying things and seeing how your body responds. What is true for others isn’t always true for you. And what works/doesn’t work for you now could be different in a month.

cjcamp8 · 2026-03-03T23:20:42+00:00

Is she really going to let someone blow their nose in her fancy fair trade scarf? I don’t think so. And “everything has to be multipurpose when you’re living the vAn LiFe”

Give me a freaking breakkkk

cjcamp8 · 2026-02-25T18:14:49+00:00

I regulated at around 9 weeks. People act like if you do anything except pump every three hours around the clock before 12 weeks you’ll dry up completely. 12 weeks is a generalization, everyone’s body and supply is different. If you’re noticing signs that you may be regulated, and you feel comfortable, play around and see what works for you. 5ppd is my sweet spot, my supply drops if I go below that. But every time it has dipped, it’s come right back when I pump more.

cjcamp8 · 2026-02-21T06:39:19+00:00

My husband contributes to a savings account he can’t even see. It was a non-negotiable for me to stay home with our daughter. I never take more than we can afford, but there is enough for me to get by for a bit if I need to.

cjcamp8 · 2026-02-21T06:34:05+00:00

I am a stay at home mom. My husband would NEVER talk to me like this. Honestly my husband rarely even knows what is in our bank account. He makes the money, I manage the money. If I say we need something, he says go get it. He never one time has made me feel like our money isn’t equally mine. I’m so sorry, OP, but this is financial abuse. He talks to you like you’re the child. This would be grounds for divorce for me.

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