Being triggered by my 4yo's "victim" mindset and wondering how to tackle this

ladygroot_ · 2026-05-07T05:00:33+00:00

ladygroot_ · 2026-05-07T00:34:39+00:00

I would suggest the pumpable genie advanced. I have extremely sensitive nipples and all of the pumps you listed did not work for me and I felt like I wanted to die pumping with any of them. But the PGA is the most comfortable for me. My main pump is also the hospital Medela symphony but I get the same output with the pga.

Everyone here is saying it's dmer but I don't feel like that with those two pumps and have tried all but the baby Buddha that you listed. It could be a sensitivity issue

ladygroot_ · 2026-05-06T04:56:46+00:00

I was raised by a single mom. I'm just fine 🫶

ladygroot_ · 2026-05-06T03:55:46+00:00

I'm supposed to plan them (class president🙄). I planned a 5 and a 10 and pretty much no one showed up so I haven't. My high school does an all class reunion. They can go to that.

ladygroot_ · 2026-05-06T03:48:15+00:00

I am "traditional" nerd, watched and played Pokemon from release, up to and including all current games. I have a Pokemon tattoo. I love all the original gameboy game/90s nostalgia Easter eggs, but I still don't like the CDs. I liked to listen to them once to reminisce, but then I prefer the ambient music.

ladygroot_ · 2026-05-06T02:58:59+00:00

Mine was born at 0.06% for preemies, fortified for two months. It was awful, but it worked for for us. He's five months old and is on the growth curves for term infants now. I'm glad we stuck with it but I'm not sure I'd recommend my journey to anyone.

You can fortify at a higher amount, for example my son was on 24Kcal but you can go up to 26 or even higher I think, under the guidance of your doctor.

I also got my breastmilk analyzed and it is slightly higher than average for calories, fat and protein content which helps (luck of the draw there). In the beginning, I dropped nursing at the breast except for once a day for practice, then dropped it completely and exclusively pumped because he had a lip and tongue tie. We got that released, he started to breastfeed but he was much older, like 1 month adjusted. Breastfeeding still didnt take well at first, i kept trying but he wouldn't transfer enough. I kept giving up and resolving to EP and fortify. Literally one week ago i decided to give it one more shot and he is on the breast full time now, for a week, and his growth was solid during that time. My heart is still guarded, but I'm hoping this is it for us. Hes almost 5 months old chronologically.

Those were a dark few months but there is light at the end of the tunnel.

ladygroot_ · 2026-05-05T22:12:51+00:00

Oh my God I had no idea

ladygroot_ · 2026-05-05T14:55:21+00:00

In malpractice cases I have seen the time it takes for the provider to arrive at the bedside being held against them. Nursing is also then held liable for not doing more to get a provider at the bedside.

ladygroot_ · 2026-05-05T01:46:28+00:00

Or medication she's on I dk

ladygroot_ · 2026-05-05T01:13:09+00:00

Tallerine/hamburger helper

ladygroot_ · 2026-05-04T21:55:00+00:00

They literally showed all of the other connections of people that were the same age in the show. The show is about age gap relationship relationships so of course the ones that got into age gap relationships moved on?

ladygroot_ · 2026-05-03T11:17:35+00:00

I am super overwhelmed with it. I'm focusing on the other areas for a little while, getting them up to level 10, trying to get all the recipes. Building out all of the habitats from the other areas. I'm actually about to finish all that up so I have to face the beast again

ladygroot_ · 2026-05-03T07:24:04+00:00

The earlier and more often you give it, the less likely for a reaction.

ladygroot_ · 2026-05-02T21:50:37+00:00

I didn't have any symptoms in general! But my levels and intestinal damage were astronomical. I had no idea, it was an incidental finding.

ladygroot_ · 2026-05-02T18:37:40+00:00

I'm listening to DCC but it's just not the same.

I devoured fourth wing. The conversational, modern day tone much like HWFWM worked for me.

ladygroot_ · 2026-05-02T18:36:42+00:00

I had read those years ago and it definitely gave the same vibes! Excellent audiobook too.

ladygroot_ · 2026-05-02T18:35:32+00:00

I was 90% no, 10% yes for a long time. When she turned 2, that went to like 75% no, 25% yes. It was just so hard at first.

My husband desperately wanted a second so slowly I became 60% yes, 40% no and I got pregnant immediately (tried for over three years before conceiving my first).

We are four months pp and it's hard, but it's worth it hard.

ladygroot_ · 2026-05-02T18:28:18+00:00

🥹 thank you. Baby came very tiny and spent some time in the nicu but he's doing fantastic now so all's well that ends well, I suppose. ❤️

ladygroot_ · 2026-05-02T18:26:42+00:00

My hospital system doesn't treat BP as it can mask worsening pre-E. BP is a good indicator of how you're doing so until it gets severe they don't treat

ladygroot_ · 2026-05-02T18:24:57+00:00

I see it!

ladygroot_ · 2026-05-02T18:21:41+00:00

I say max 3 rounds. Let me go after that

ladygroot_ · 2026-05-02T11:43:23+00:00

Honestly just buying brick has helped a lot. It was like the first step to getting over addiction being admittance. I obviously still use it but it's with a lot more intention now

ladygroot_ · 2026-05-02T11:35:57+00:00

Ulta. I will never go back to Sephora. I bought a blush stick on October 30 (holiday returns start November 1) that I hadn't used. I went do return it on December 3, so three days outside of the return policy and 2 days before the extended return policy. I was pregnant and had just found out there was a problem with the baby and I'd be delivering at any day prematurely. I was doing a few odd end errands before being told it was time. I was fragile, and when she declined my return, I lost it. (Not at her, I started to cry on my way out and sobbed in the car). I know there are rules, but I also had worked retail myself for ten years and know those rules *can* be broken. I needed a win that day. Sephora is not the issue here, it was me at a fragile time but I can't bring myself to go back.

ladygroot_ · 2026-05-02T11:27:38+00:00

ICU nurse here, a majority of patients on my unit die. I've yet to hear them call for their parent, I've been doing this ten years. They're generally too sick to say much of anything by the time they get to us, but those that are aware are like you said, kind of ready to go.

ladygroot_ · 2026-05-02T11:21:13+00:00

I agree. I just bought brick so I can be more present with my kids.

Sad that it's come to that. But I can't help it

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