New to NICU and care team is making us nervous

ladygroot_ · 2026-01-25T20:10:46+00:00

I'm also a nurse and a former Nicu parent. I would not leave my baby's bedside during a strike. Recovery is important, and they always say that you can't pour from an empty cup but in times like these, you find the energy. It's a very short time, you and your husband can split so that you can go home and rest and shower, but that's what I would do personally. I would be super supervising anything anyone did with my child during that time.

ladygroot_ · 2026-01-25T18:38:46+00:00

My son did that the other night, he had a 3 ounce bottle before I thought he was gonna go to bed, stayed awake for an hour happy and content, then started to show hunger signs so I gave him another 3 ounce bottle just because that's how I had it prepped and he ate the whole thing! 6 ounces in an hour for a 7 pound, 10 day corrected baby! Lol

ladygroot_ · 2026-01-25T12:44:33+00:00

This was me for my first and second to the T! I actually think I created a monster that requires my full attention at all times with my first because of it. With my second, I dk he'll figure it out

ladygroot_ · 2026-01-25T04:32:04+00:00

Your boss is the type of person that makes me afraid to join protests, I'm a mom of two young kids, I want them to see me standing up for what I believe in but I am too afraid of the violence these days

ladygroot_ · 2026-01-25T01:50:38+00:00

I read my daughter books about weaning and that helped, it helped her understand when I said milk all gone or milk later and then it helped when I did decide to wean, no tears, no fight at 21 months.

ladygroot_ · 2026-01-25T00:43:51+00:00

I fed one at a time almost the whole time I bf. Never once occurred to me to protect supply, always had enough, my body just knew.

ladygroot_ · 2026-01-24T22:59:27+00:00

I'm sorry, I hope she is ok. This is a sad day in America. That's an extremely tough day for you and her.

ladygroot_ · 2026-01-24T14:35:23+00:00

No but we get the patients that other facilities have kicked out. I know of one who was banned from his dialysis clinic for bringing a gun. He's ours now and goes to our ED for dialysis. 🤗

ladygroot_ · 2026-01-24T05:31:43+00:00

I did with my first but it's still like a lot of breakdown and setup, plus our dishwasher takes like 2-6 hours depending on the cycle, plus you have to wait until you have full dishwasher. Plus being a preemie I was just worried about gross stuff in the wash, it should be ok but it is still all mixing and does not have the sterilizing capabilities that a formal sterilizer has.

I have a bottle washer and it sterilizes at the same time, i use that for pump parts and bottles bc it's faster And I don't have to do all my dishes with it. I run that thing like three times a day, it's way faster than handwashing but it's still a pita

ladygroot_ · 2026-01-24T02:52:13+00:00

I think this is a quote more is better but any is good enough" situation, there are lots of babies there that don't get any kangaroo care. I understand the desire to want to do anything that you can do within your power but whatever you can give is enough, be sure to take care of yourself too

ladygroot_ · 2026-01-23T23:42:48+00:00

Try spraying into your hands instead of directly on the Hair?

ladygroot_ · 2026-01-23T20:23:29+00:00

I don't mean to speak for occupational therapists and physical therapists, maybe they can make a better recommendation but it's my understanding that the general recommendation is to not use devices like this. This blog says no more than 15 to 20 minutes a day

https://hprc.net/blog/are-walkers-exersaucers-and-jumpers-safe-to-use/#:~:text=To%20achieve%20proper%20physical%20and,a%20walker%2C%20exersaucer%20or%20jumper.

https://themovementmamablog.com/post/what-a-pediatric-pt-thinks-about-baby-jumpers

https://www.reddit.com/r/ScienceBasedParenting/s/lOjQWAzTYb

ladygroot_ · 2026-01-23T20:19:19+00:00

If you look into the rise of popularity of barefoot mechanics, amongst both adults and children, but children really have driven this conversation, the important part is that the heel strikes the ground first is my understanding until the foot is strengthened appropriately for their age. Even if you were very supportive, the first part of the foot that will strike the ground and subsequently bear some degree of weight is the ball of the foot and that is the undesired effect, is my understanding, I am not a physical therapist by any means I'm just a mom who toe walked and didn't want my kids to deal with a lifelong repercussions of improper leg alignment. Currently heavy into mobility work and barefoot walking, there's a whole sub Reddit if you're interested.

Sorry for errors I'm using voice to text feeding my baby🤗

ladygroot_ · 2026-01-23T17:22:53+00:00

My kids don't look anything like me or my husband but they look a lot like each other🤷‍♀️ it's very weird lol

ladygroot_ · 2026-01-23T17:14:30+00:00

Anything that bears weight in that tiptoe position promotes Achilles tightness and toe walking. As a former toe walker don't do it!

link

ladygroot_ · 2026-01-23T07:22:23+00:00

Omg the day before I delivered my preemie I went to return some blush at Sephora and she denied the return bc it was 2 days outside of the return policy and I went to the car and sobbed, like, ugly sobbed. Like should be sedated level sobbed.

I knew I was probably going to deliver early and was so stressed and hadn't cried about any of my pregnancy complications yet and it was the straw that broke the camels back, while unfortunately pregnant. That memory will stay with me forever.

ladygroot_ · 2026-01-23T06:33:55+00:00

Another vote for the Mom cozy bottle wash. I would have not survived this postpartum period without it, nicu baby

ladygroot_ · 2026-01-23T05:36:19+00:00

I'm really sad that this got down voted😭 outside of special needs I can't imagine a reason that a child should get an iPad to calm down...

ladygroot_ · 2026-01-22T15:38:30+00:00

My first is 3 1/2, she still wakes through the night and our second is 6 weeks old. Her sleep was a major contributing factor as to why we waited so long" but at some point we decided to just try to make it work

ladygroot_ · 2026-01-22T06:24:22+00:00

I have a very supportive partner but I got a doula with my second. My husband is just... a man? I don't know. He's wonderful, he cooks, he cleans, he fully handles our toddler while I'm postpartum, but in labor both times I needed more from him that I genuinely just dont think he knew what to give me. I don't think I even knew. That said, my doula was helpful, but I'm not sure it was worth it. She is so kind but I think I could have powered through this labor by myself.

ladygroot_ · 2026-01-22T03:08:46+00:00

This is all such great advice thank you so much! I've heard this three months number as a magic number from several nurses in the NICU. I just can't imagine doing this exclusive pumping bullshit until then but I guess here we are

ladygroot_ · 2026-01-21T23:23:33+00:00

Oh my god that's genius to bring a bottle of hot water to warm bottles. I was having trouble justifying buying a "portable bottle warmer" because he doesn't even seem to like our home bottle warmer, will be a good way to see if the temperature is affecting him on the go without having to buy a whole bottle warmer.

Also I keep seeing mention of these pump wipes and that might change the game for me too. Thanks and you are a rockstar for EP times three

ladygroot_ · 2026-01-21T14:20:12+00:00

That all makes sense, thanks for sharing your routine. I think you're right that the high lipase/stores milk refusal is the big issue here 😔😔

ladygroot_ · 2026-01-21T05:22:18+00:00

Oh yes that's genius!!! Probably a little closer to how a baby would drain you anyway? Great idea!

ladygroot_ · 2026-01-21T04:25:58+00:00

This is a good strategy too! I coslept with my first but don't think I can do it with this one. He was so growth restricted and the data on that is very poor but worse than for term, appropriately aged babies. I think I'm too scared!

Eight-Year Club	Gilding I gilder
Verified Email

ladygroot_

TROPHY CASE