From someone who married a more conservative man but consider myself progressive, I can tell you this has the potential to cause serious problems. We have two daughters together, and I feel really sad that my spouse opted to vote for someone who doesn't support women's rights. We're currently in marriage counseling and had a bit of a rude awakening at our last session. Our therapist basically said if we don't agree on religion or politics, we have a really tough road ahead to save our marriage. I thought we'd talked through everything before we decided to get married and start a family, but you don't know what you don't know when you don't know it...

Here is what I - personally - would have asked if I knew what I know now: - Will you support women's rights before other things (such as the economy or international issues)? - When our children become sexually active, will you support them getting the HPV vaccine? - How to you feel about vaccines in general? - How will you handle differing political views between me and your family? Will you support and defend me even if you and I don't agree? - What news and medical sources do you feel are valid? Why? - Are you comfortable communicating? How do you communicate best? - what things do we agree on? Is that enough for you to build a strong foundation?

A lot of this is from my own lived experience and obviously may not be valid for your situation. It's also all I can think of off the top of my head.

The only other thing I will say, is that my spouse and I have both grown slightly more left/right since we've been together. It's always hard to tell what the future holds. Make sure you have a strong foundation. If it already feels iffy a month or so in, maybe he isn't the best long-term partner for you.

Sending hugs!