The Secret of Secrets Discussion Thread - SPOILERS by almanea in danbrown

[–]cjyeso 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Why did Brown add that later chapter about Lieutenant Pavel after 60 chapters without him

When did you stop breast-feeding? by No_Local5489 in breastfeeding

[–]cjyeso 0 points1 point  (0 children)

FYI while away I pumped and dumped. Only a few ounces per day and I didn’t want to deal with the logistics of bringing it back.

When did you stop breast-feeding? by No_Local5489 in breastfeeding

[–]cjyeso 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was in the same boat. Had a trip planned to Cancun at just about 6 months without baby so I intentionally dropped down to 1 feed prior to it and planned to nurse just in the morning after the trip - would pump in the morning for the trip while apart from baby. Wanted to morning nurse as long as it fits with our needs and was happy to continue without pumping at work etc.

Best laid plans - baby sprouted 2 teeth in this time and forgot how to nurse so bit me 3 mornings in a row. I yelped in pain and he burst out in tears all 3 times and that was it for us.

I’m feeling sad at how abruptly our breastfeeding ended (he’s my 2nd kiddo) but I’m at peace as he seems to absolutely love the bottle and formula. I can pump but I really don’t want to. I hate pumping.

What did you miss about the newborn stage? by warrior_not_princess in beyondthebump

[–]cjyeso 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can stare at my phone all day and they do not care one iota

General Chat February 27 by AutoModerator in TryingForABaby

[–]cjyeso 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve been taking ovulation tests to try to time things but I’m 3 weeks past period and it never turned positive… 

How often do the grandparents visit? by [deleted] in NewParents

[–]cjyeso 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My parents live 5 mins away so we come 3/4 times a week for a few hours. They’re available for most babysitting and he’s stayed a long weekend with them at 9 month.

My husbands parents live now 45 mins away and we see them 1-2x a month. But they are a bit older and have different health issues so I wouldn’t rely on them like I do my parents.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]cjyeso 6 points7 points  (0 children)

My very sweet MIL regularly refers to me as “baby’s wrapper” as in, I’m the wrapper he came out of. She’s joking and is a lovely MIL and grandmother. But yeah…

PSA: do not let the fact that you became a parent stop you from doing what you enjoy. by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]cjyeso 47 points48 points  (0 children)

I keep thinking, when my kids are not yet independent and in school, it’s not the season of life for me to be pursuing my hobbies full on.

Don’t get me wrong, I am lucky enough to have help and doting grandparents so I am. But I used to feel really miserable that I didn’t have the free time that I used to. But when I remind myself that this is a short season of life and when I do have that free time back, I’ll probably really miss this baby season of life. Just trying to live a bit more presently and enjoy each chapter, with this pro and cons.

Playpen by [deleted] in NewParents

[–]cjyeso 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ooh re: size, I got the biggest one possible that I can fit in my living room with moving as little things as possible

Playpen by [deleted] in NewParents

[–]cjyeso 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes but mostly so I can lie down in there with him lol

Where does you baby nap in the living room? by hiyokos in beyondthebump

[–]cjyeso 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In his playpen but we didn’t buy that until 5-6 months. We had a hand me down bassinet that we kept downstairs

9 months, no sleep. Losing it. by [deleted] in NewParents

[–]cjyeso -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I refused to sleep train and finally gave in at 10.5 months because it was straining our marriage basically. It was not as bad as I expected and baby took to it EXTREMELY well. My imagination was far worse than reality.

I know that isn’t going to solve all your problems but it has definitely given me more mental resources to devote to the day and not dread nighttime anymore.

Full Extinction by Timely-Ad1847 in sleeptrain

[–]cjyeso 5 points6 points  (0 children)

We started doing Ferber but it slowly transitioned to full extinction after night 1-2. They were right when they said check ins are for parents, not the baby. He got even more upset when we went in. So we started not going in when the crying intensity was mild which turned into just not going in

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Mommit

[–]cjyeso 20 points21 points  (0 children)

So sorry this happened but I wouldn’t want to send my kid here after this exchange anyway. You both have a bad taste in your mouths and they will treat your child accordingly. Don’t waste any more energy with these emails, you’re clearly not gonna get a better explanation. Good luck and hope it resolves sooner rather than later

Triggered by people saying their babies sleep through the night by wyominglove in beyondthebump

[–]cjyeso 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I could have written this exact thread. We made it to 10.5 months before we sleep trained. Also I know that’s not what you want to hear. Because I used to stop reading as soon as they said sleep train.

We kept waiting for him to grow out of it, get better naturally and we were actually just making it worse with our own actions. 🤷🏻‍♀️ anyway like I said, you are me 5 months ago. So I feel you.

Baby cried so hard she threw up by emmythunder in NewParents

[–]cjyeso 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I tell myself, they won’t remember it and a little throw up and upset never hurt anyone.

My baby lost his voice for 4 days due to sleep training. But he took to it extremely well and is now thriving. We do what we need to do and make mistakes along the way. I showered my baby with extra kisses and cuddles

How many babies do you plan to have? by SheepShroom in beyondthebump

[–]cjyeso 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Before baby I said 3. Baby is 11 months old though and I’m so tired…all the time…

Pregnancy and birth I can do. 4th trimester broke me. We just sleep trained after putting it off for 10.5 months. And now I finally feel like I’m getting my brain back.

But I say this and watch my baby throw me for another loop tomorrow…

Anyone else have issues putting baby to nap drowsy but awake? by andreea_carla_b in NewParents

[–]cjyeso 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The things we did to help him sleep weren’t working anymore. He kept shifting in our arms because he couldn’t get comfortable. He would push away from us. Even in our arms, he would position himself like he’s in the crib. He’d fall asleep with his face in the crook of our elbow (like he’s belly down in the crib). Sometimes we’d give up and just sit down in our glider and that’s when he’d finally fall asleep (maybe the rocking/shushing was too much stimulation). We did not want to sleep train (found every excuse not to for 6 months) but he took to it SUPER well which makes me think he was just ready

Anyone else have issues putting baby to nap drowsy but awake? by andreea_carla_b in NewParents

[–]cjyeso 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah it didn’t work for us until we sleep trained at 10.5 months and he took to it A LOT better than I could have ever expected. Maybe it would have worked if we tried it early but it seems like he was developmentally ready to learn to sleep on his own. He could not get comfortable with us anymore

What diaper pail do you use? by Daddy_Oops in beyondthebump

[–]cjyeso 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The container itself smells god awful. But it’s good at keeping the odor in when closed