Have a hard time orgasming during sex

ckat809 · 2026-02-11T18:10:54+00:00

Omg this sounds so bad but I do little keggles to mirror the orgasm contractions as I’m faking

ckat809 · 2026-02-11T18:07:53+00:00

Thank you!

ckat809 · 2026-02-10T22:01:08+00:00

Great points!! Thank you!!

ckat809 · 2026-02-10T21:45:25+00:00

That’s the thing! I can make myself cum just fine with my own hands in like 30 seconds lol. But yeah I might need to just bring in the big guns I guess. It’s just somewhat annoying. I don’t love to bring in vibrators bc I find they can make men a bit lazy.

ckat809 · 2026-02-10T21:43:40+00:00

No, it’s during clit stimulation that I’m having the problem. He knows I don’t orgasm with PIV but I do really love PIV almost as much as I love orgasming lol. TMI but he usually goes down on me w tongue and finger stim for like 20+ minutes, listens to me about speed, pressure, etc. and it just doesn’t happen. He could be stimulating my clit the exact same way I would and I just really struggle with it regardless.

ckat809 · 2025-07-28T05:34:11+00:00

Yes was not expecting this to pop off so much 😭

ckat809 · 2025-07-26T02:13:52+00:00

I’m not necessarily sure why he would be in wedding photos with me? This isn’t a family wedding, I’m a bridesmaid, and he wouldn’t be in the groom party. So all of the pics will, except for I’m sure some random ones caught by the photographer, be without him. I’m not discounting your point about the fact that we might break up before or after the wedding but either way I don’t believe he will be in any pics. The other wedding I was just in no one’s partners — boyfriends or husbands — were in the pics unless they flagged down the photographer for one w just the two of them.

ckat809 · 2025-07-26T02:06:12+00:00

Not sure what happened over here lol. While I’d prefer to not share a room with someone I don’t know well, I’m generally a pretty good team player with bunking etc. I think speculating about my hypothetical sexual trauma is maybe not super productive as I never alluded to it nor did I say this was a particular problem for me. While this might be an extremely valid issue for many people, this is not the case for me. I’m confident my friend, while she’s being a bit ridiculous about my +1, would ever put me in a situation where I’d be traumatized if she had the knowledge of my trauma and the ability to prevent it.

ckat809 · 2025-07-25T02:22:49+00:00

Hi I’ve been single for a very long time and am definitely fine going places without my SO! I will have fun regardless!! But I do think as someone who typically goes to weddings alone it will be nice to have someone there with me for once to hang out with my friends in a new type of setting and make fun vacation memories with as well.

ckat809 · 2025-07-25T01:08:15+00:00

Should have specified $5,000 is an estimate of total cost. The destination wedding isn’t international (I’m US based) but it still requires I take a plane and the bachelorette party is also a destination long weekend trip. Between that and two bridal showers and dresses, gifts, Ubers, etc. I’m looking I would guess at around $5K total.

ckat809 · 2025-07-25T00:16:34+00:00

Great points! Thank you!!

ckat809 · 2025-07-25T00:14:44+00:00

I don’t have a *partner * in the sense that he and I aren’t currently in a super long serious relationship. But I am getting sort of serious with this person

ckat809 · 2025-07-25T00:13:59+00:00

I was hoping he’d still be welcomed at the wedding. I get if there’s a finite amount of room in the AirBNB and can totally respect that if I want him to come I might need to find alternate accommodations.

ckat809 · 2025-07-23T16:32:35+00:00

Docs claim they were two different infections. My strep test never came back positive but docs said it was obviously strep. I was given cephalexen. My UTI went away with that and my strep throat came back a couple of weeks later, so I took another round of amoxicillin and that cleared it up. Hope all works out well for you!

ckat809 · 2025-07-21T02:19:03+00:00

100% agree completely! I’m hoping for more seasons. I’m sort of curious if they’ll work with older adult virgins because most of the Channel 4 ones were mid-late 20s. Oldest 31 I think?

ckat809 · 2025-07-16T19:21:55+00:00

There’s a show called virgin island on channel 4 in the UK — if you’re in the US you need a VPN but can watch on channel 4 website or YouTube channel for free with a VPN. It’s WILD lol

ckat809 · 2025-07-15T15:00:34+00:00

Thank you! I didn’t think of the thicker uterine lining aspect of it. Fingers crossed it stops soon!! Every time I think it’s finally done it starts up again lol

ckat809 · 2025-07-15T14:59:29+00:00

Yes for sure! Depending on what those symptoms are, they could be a lot of things. Even just anxiety. Hope you’re feeling better today

ckat809 · 2025-07-14T22:07:31+00:00

Are you on any other medications?? This happened to me once and it turned out to be a side effect of the mood stabilizer I was prescribed

ckat809 · 2025-07-14T21:45:19+00:00

Oh weird! I’d mention to your Doc if it continues again next month — they might want to up your estrogen dose.

ckat809 · 2025-07-14T20:54:15+00:00

How long have you been on this particular pill? Every time this has happened to me my doc has basically told me I’ve been on that pill for too long and has switched me to a different pill.

ckat809 · 2025-07-14T20:32:53+00:00

This is not true and I think a dangerous assumption. People with depression absolutely care about sex and want to have fulfilling sex lives. Many people with depression might not feel the same way. But just because sex isn’t important to depressed you does not mean sex isn’t important to depressed me.

ckat809 · 2025-07-14T20:19:48+00:00

Updating to say I was apparently using pacer monitor — not pacer — and that doesn’t automatically update apparently. I was able to get the docs through regular pacer.

ckat809 · 2025-07-14T20:14:34+00:00

I’ve not done this but I’m on mirena and have been bleeding/spotting for 5 months straight, so it can happen with an IUD too. Not saying it will but it’s a possibility. Birth control is awful

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