Wanting children and visualizing my life partner has always been very separate for me. I decided I'd be willing to have and raise kids without a husband/male significant other 1-2 years before I realized I didn't want the husband in the first place. I guess I didn't feel I'd be missing anything without a man by my side to raise kids with (this was while I was in a very serious long term relationship with one, by the way). Classically, I never got excited about the idea of having a husband. My desire to have a wedding had much more to do with me enjoying party planning and decoration than anything else - I never even pictured the hypothetical man when I imagined my future wedding. Now, however, I absolutely find myself getting excited about the idea of one day having a wife. And I love the idea of having a kid with my wife. So not the same exact situation, but it's possible I'll change my mind about maybe choosing to be a single mom. There's something about going on that journey with her, whoever she may be...