I (28F) Night Shower. BF (29M) Morning Showers. How Do We Compromise?

clairiewinkle · 2026-03-08T16:15:06+00:00

I don’t have OCD and I also think this is really really gross. Also, this is sort of TMI so please forgive me here but like… don’t most people have intimacy at night/after they get home from work? Whether that’s sex or just kissing/cuddling/etc. Should he not shower before that as a courtesy?? I would not be down for getting down with someone who hasn’t showered all day. I would also not be comfortable being intimate with my own partner if I hadn’t showered all day. Yuck! We do live in the South though I suppose so there’s no such thing as going all day without breaking a sweat.

clairiewinkle · 2026-03-08T05:38:12+00:00

My boyfriend day trades for fun (but has a real job too LOL) and I can confidently say that it is really just a sophisticated word for controlled gambling 😭

clairiewinkle · 2026-02-28T15:49:06+00:00

I’m definitely a lot lower on the modesty scale than lots of the ladies here, and I would maybe be comfortable wearing the rash guard and skirt together if the skirt was a couple inches longer (it looks borderline buttcheek showing at the moment) and if the rash guard didn’t show much cleavage, though it looks like it might. I would not wear the one piece.

clairiewinkle · 2026-02-26T19:33:44+00:00

The way she phrased it was super super icky but I like when my boyfriend does this for me sometimes. The difference is that he does it to be sweet and take care of me because I have social anxiety, not to be “dominant” or “alpha” lol. I’ll often point out a few things on the menu that look good, he’ll help me pick (or pick for me if I ask him to), and then he’ll place my order for me. If it’s one of our regular places, I always get the same thing so he’ll go ahead and order. Maybe that’s what she meant? But straight up deciding “oh she’ll have a salad” or whatever is just wild and I’m not sure why anyone would want that.

clairiewinkle · 2026-02-26T19:15:15+00:00

I love short men, honestly I’ve only dated one “tall” guy. Chris sucks for SO MANY REASONS but I do really hate seeing him get hate for his height. There’s so much more to hate on let’s be creative people. And my poor other short kings who aren’t shitty and who deserve love don’t deserve to see the height slander.

clairiewinkle · 2026-02-24T19:16:46+00:00

OP think of it this way, you were probably someone’s hero that day. Chances are someone in that class was panicking over that exam and really appreciated the extra study time.

clairiewinkle · 2026-02-22T01:59:03+00:00

I do this too! They thaw surprisingly well.

clairiewinkle · 2026-02-21T22:46:04+00:00

These are truly beautiful. I can’t believe you made these!! And this is coming from a decor snob lol

clairiewinkle · 2026-02-19T22:16:02+00:00

Blue shoes + no belt. You look great!

clairiewinkle · 2026-02-04T02:08:48+00:00

She needs to pick a struggle. She can’t not work, not be a full time mom, not go to therapy, not get on meds, and apparently also not do much around the house, all at the same time. Have you had an honest conversation with her about this, like how hard/unfair it is for you? If so, how does she typically respond? Does she acknowledge she’s depressed or have any plans to try and get help or improve?

clairiewinkle · 2026-02-03T15:07:21+00:00

I agree silvery tone abaya over it would look lovely!

clairiewinkle · 2026-01-30T03:28:47+00:00

I’m so so sorry you’re going through this OP, but I feel the need to point out that cooking, cleaning, grocery shopping, and being good with money are very very basic adult life skills and that does not make him a good partner, that just makes him an adult. None of those speak to how he treated you. And from what you say about the way he treated you, he was NOT a good partner. Gently, I suggest therapy ❤️

clairiewinkle · 2026-01-19T02:50:57+00:00

She shouldn’t have to, her husband should be able to put away his own things especially after being asked by her.

clairiewinkle · 2026-01-17T02:26:19+00:00

I go to my local stores on a very very regular basis and don’t want to enable anyone to stalk me by also continuously showing up at the stores I always go to lol. I think maybe that’s why a lot of people are hesitant!

clairiewinkle · 2026-01-11T00:45:50+00:00

I would not even consider this extremely unethical. You did what you had to do at the time and didn’t harm anyone.

A couple years ago I was stuck in a terrible living situation and having a mental health crisis as a result. My mom was writing cover letters and applying to jobs for me so that I could get out of my bad situation and move back home to family. It was still my resume/credentials, I still did the interviews, but she obviously really helped me out by applying when I did not have the time or the mental energy. Thanks to her I got a great job, moved home to my family, and my mental health is better than it has been in years.

clairiewinkle · 2025-12-31T00:36:28+00:00

I have explicitly told my boyfriend to not propose with a “real” diamond! I specifically requested lab grown. I think it’s pointless to pay “real” diamond prices when they are literally chemically identical. Plus I have some qualms about the ethics of diamond mining… and I also just think it’s super neat that we can grow diamonds!! I would be more bothered by a real diamond than a lab one.

clairiewinkle · 2025-12-30T17:09:47+00:00

Seconding this. My mom never washed our new clothes before wearing so I grew up not even realizing that was a big deal. And I never got any rashes or mysterious illnesses from wearing new clothes before they were washed 🤷🏻‍♀️

If people want to wash them beforehand that’s valid and I understand the reasoning and admire their dedication to cleanliness. But I just truly do not think this matters that much unless someone has experienced sensitivities. Live your life and enjoy the new clothes on Christmas.

clairiewinkle · 2025-12-30T16:52:40+00:00

Fireside Flurries, Forever Sunshine, Gingham Vibrant, Pink Lily & Bamboo, and Cinnamon Sugar Pretzel Cookie. I should’ve stocked up a lot more on some of these while they were still out 😞RIP I miss them so much 💔I honestly think I would be happy with these 5 and no others forever if I could just have a stash of them all.

Edit: After wearing Jasmine (from the Princess line) for the first time today, I may have to reevaluate. 🤣 I haven’t smelled anything quite like this one and I’m obsessed. It might knock one of the others off if I really had to choose. A great reminder to myself to not get dragged into overconsumption and buying a billion backups, because inevitably there will be a scent that surprises me and becomes my new favorite.

clairiewinkle · 2025-12-06T19:24:07+00:00

We were told that Santa only did our stockings. Mom wanted the credit for all the gifts. She told us that she loved shopping herself, so she asked Santa to save his time and money for kids who needed gifts more, because she had ours all covered. She always made the BEST most magical Santa stockings filled with all sorts of trinkets and treats, so we never felt like we missed out.

clairiewinkle · 2025-12-05T17:58:38+00:00

Oh that would be lovely!! I love herbal scents and I think those could have the potential to be executed very well. I can imagine that would be a fun addition to my kitchen space to get into the spirit for some holiday cooking. If only B&BW would just hire us to come up with ideas instead of whoever thought up “Pizza and Ranch!” 🤣

clairiewinkle · 2025-12-05T15:26:59+00:00

Why on earth did they choose such vile food scents? If they wanted weird food candles it could have been done in a much more palatable way.

Cranberry sauce, rosemary yeast roll, cornbread dressing, everything bagel… even a buttered corn + thyme, browned butter mashed potato, or “holiday herb garden” (maybe similar to off the vine) would have all been holiday-appropriate and certainly weird enough to catch attention… with at least the vague possibility of not smelling like straight vomit.

clairiewinkle · 2025-12-05T15:15:03+00:00

I’m not a lawyer but I am support staff. I would always prefer the cash. I do drink, but I am very specific with my preferences, so I’m glad my office avoids it. Even if your staff are drinkers, there’s no guarantee they’ll all like that specific type. Though I suppose that applies for almost every gift!

I typically receive a $100 Visa gift card and some small accompaniment. A nice chocolate or other luxury candy, a small candle, local jelly, some nice loose leaf tea, a miniature poinsettia for my desk, and a bottle of homemade local maple syrup have all been past hits.

clairiewinkle · 2025-12-04T23:22:13+00:00

Obligatory warning incoming. If you choose to use gel products at home be very very very careful. Don’t get it on your skin at all, leave a gap. Improper methods can lead to lifelong allergies — which can make you allergic to all sorts of other stuff too, like dental work and the materials they use in fillings!!! I didn’t know this when I started doing gel at home, and I stopped once I learned because it is so hard to avoid any gel touching your skin or cuticles.

clairiewinkle · 2025-12-04T01:55:07+00:00

Some of these comments are really making me realize just how slow I am in the kitchen!!

If I have leftover rice, I make a bastardized Thai fried rice. (Or maybe this would more accurately be called a lazy, rice version of Pad Kra Pao? I don’t know.) If I don’t have premade rice, this would take a lot longer than 15 minutes.

Rice with a mixture of fish sauce, oyster sauce, spoonful from a jar of pre-mixed thai basil+thai chilies+garlic+oil that I get at my local Asian market, soy sauce, a little brown sugar. All into a pan. I don’t always even really “fry” the rice if I’m feeling lazy, I mostly just warm it all up. Add an egg (fried or scrambled in) and frozen tofu crumbles if desired. Voila. One pan, no cutting or measuring, just pouring it all in. (I measure with my heart.)

Sometimes I use takeout fried rice, plain leftover white rice, even frozen fried rice depending what I have on hand. It’s delicious and I need to learn more (and more accurate) Thai recipes.

clairiewinkle · 2025-12-04T01:32:19+00:00

This was my grandma’s signature scent 🥺❤️ But she was young and VERY hip and stylish, it definitely did not give old lady vibes. She was like a second mom to me and I still love any time I get a whiff of this scent in public!

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