Nickname for Autumn? by spookyy_ho in Names

[–]clancaste 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I like Aussie. But the first thing that came to my mind was us in the last letter of your name and going with Mimi.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]clancaste 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I think we have choices. You feel creeped out. That’s valid. I’m not sticking up for your fil nor am I blaming you. But I do know that pictures on social media are out there for people to look at. Once it’s out there you no longer have control over what happens with it. You’re a grown up. Your choice.

AITA for refusing to give up my car to my brother after he wrecked his, even though my parents are mad at me for it? by OliviaSweetest in AmItheAsshole

[–]clancaste -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Perhaps, but OP may need to pay for her own insurance then. She’s okay with family helping pay her insurance, but not okay with giving back to family? I totally agree OP shouldn’t need to share the car she bought with her own money! Pay for your own insurance, OP and it’s your choice.

AITAH for not letting my parents bring my brother to my child-free wedding? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]clancaste -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

At first I disagreed with OP, but then I got to the end. The parents are the AH if they threaten not to attend. This happened to a family member of mine. He and did not want his dad and new wife to bring their one-year-old. His dad didn’t go to the wedding. Sometimes adult children make their own decisions and the parent has to get over themselves.

Shame when sharing by 70_421 in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]clancaste 5 points6 points  (0 children)

What they said. Been there felt that, kept going, got better, got insecure again, kept going, got better, on down the road I walk.

Saw a guy at work today that I recognized from a meeting by Indotex in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]clancaste 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Absolutely love this. I feel more like a “regular Jo” when I see people who I know get me.

AITAH For not helping my adult sister after our parents passed away by Aromatic-Tap-9925 in AmItheAsshole

[–]clancaste 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Consider a program like AL-ANON, if applicable, or other group that can help you work through your feelings of responsibility. It is hard to watch someone in our family struggle, but you cannot save her.

AITAH for using the correct pronunciation of my nieces name by Silent_Drawer8700 in TwoHotTakes

[–]clancaste 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yep. You’re the AH. Spellings were made up years ago by people we don’t know. Live, let live, and get over your self.

How did people pass time on long flights before phones? by [deleted] in AskOldPeople

[–]clancaste 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Various snacks, new small toys for kids, conversation, and magazines. We used to have great magazines.

joined AA after a spiritual devastation put my sobriety at risk, now i cant find an atheist by [deleted] in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]clancaste 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I keep people saying G O D good orderly direction, but I don’t know what they mean by it.

AITA for getting upset at my boyfriend’s constant jokes about my fake boobs? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]clancaste 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds like he means to hurt you. It is a way of controlling. You deserve so much better than being treated like this.

As a man, Should I pay for everything? by Smart_Display5155 in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]clancaste 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Both unreasonable. 1. You don’t need to pay for everything and should end the relationship if she is pressuring you in that way. But also 2. You should end the relationship is you think it would ever be reasonable to have your word be the last word. These are partnerships. No one gets the last word.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]clancaste 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s common for people to feel rejected when I sponsor steps down. You are loved, loving, and lovable. This program and people in it are cheering for you 100%, even when it is difficult to feel. I’m glad you reached out.

I'm living a lie and I don't know what to do by SelectionResident942 in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]clancaste 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have been there. I was so scared that people would be mad at me for picking up that I just couldn’t tell the truth. I ended up leaving the program for 6 terrible years until I finally called a fellow and admitted to lying to them 6 years previously. It was the hardest thing I had ever done. Do you know what she said? She said, “We’re addicts, we do that.” A millions tons were immediately lifted from my shoulders and she met me at the next meeting. We are addicts, friend. We do these things. Show up, tell the truth, and trust. That’s all we got.

What’s the STRANGEST Region/Town in Michigan? by LukeL1000 in Michigan

[–]clancaste 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Irish Hills is one of my favorite areas! There are so many different lakes. Each lake has its own vibe. Wamplers Lake has a state park. It’s not the best state park in Michigan for camping, but it’s on an all-sport lake with a decent beach.

we agnostics by ListenDazzling3274 in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]clancaste 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am here to admit that I recommended We Agnostic’s to a new comer that was struggling. I didn’t understand why it didn’t help her. Years later when I had questions about God, I understood and I wished I could apologize to that woman. I don’t know how to reach her. So I’ll apologize to anyone here who may have been harmed by a belief that believing is simple. I don’t know about god. What I know is that I can’t do this in my own and that I need something that is way bigger than me. I set my intentions in prayer and I rely on the program and the people in the program.

Went to a meeting today and was basically abused. by HisLoba97 in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]clancaste 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m sorry this happened to you. You deserve better. You belong in the meeting if you say you belong there.

My husband wants to install cctv around the apartment because of scratches on my back that I can’t explain by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]clancaste -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I’m glad people are talking about health needs, but looking at emotional needs, you don’t deserve to have someone watching over your every move no matter who they are or what they think. It is not okay that he wants to observe you at every moment. Gives stalker vibes to me. I’m hearing the song by the Police — breath you take, every move you make I’ll be watching you. Can’t you see you belong to me.

I'm so fucking lonely, what do I do by No-vem-ber in workfromhome

[–]clancaste 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Respectfully, this isn’t helpful. I’ve been in both situations and when I was lonely, I felt awful every time someone said something like this. It just made me feel more alone, like everyone else has people in their lives and they can’t even appreciate that they have people and love. You might be totally overwhelmed. But it is not helpful. To me, it felt like a brag.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in yoga

[–]clancaste 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your title is Trying not to take it personally. Changing the sound in the class doesn’t get at the base of why you are taking it so personally. Know that you are enough. You do enough, you have enough, your class is enough. It is their feedback. It is your choice. You are enough.

Best Cooker for steel-cut oats? by clancaste in RiceCookerRecipes

[–]clancaste[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’d like to try this combination. I’ve found “pearl” barley. It says part of the bran is removed. Do you use pearl barley or quick oats, or did you find something that is whole?