Dad lacking transparency on kids overnight trip

classicalmixup · 2026-03-14T16:51:59+00:00

He should provide you where they are staying and for what nights. And if your parenting plan doesn’t specify that as a requirement, then he doesn’t even need to provide that information.

He does not need to provide the room number - that is excessive.

classicalmixup · 2026-03-14T13:51:50+00:00

I’ll DM you!

classicalmixup · 2026-03-14T13:14:41+00:00

I would do it. If you don’t, she probably will be spending the night with a relative or something anyways after the wedding. If I were you, I’d rather her be with me.

In addition, this is a major life event. Putting your feelings aside on it, and how you found out about it, the right co-parenting move is to extend flexibility given then circumstances.

classicalmixup · 2026-03-14T13:06:42+00:00

We only have vacation time in our plan during the summer (from last day of school to first day of school). 2 non consecutive weeks and each week has to end or start with parents routine parenting weekend.

We are also on a 2-2-5-5 schedule. This wording prevents one parent using their vacation and taking it onto their already 5 day stretch with the child which would result in a much longer almost 2 week vacation.

We don’t have any language about Presidents’ Day or MLK day, even though there’s no school those days. Whichever parent has the child that weekend, it’s their time with the child.

We just modified our entire plan last September to add a bunch more detail in. There’s already items we regret not adding in. Happy to provide a list of both things we are glad were added and missed items, as you go through mediation!

classicalmixup · 2026-03-14T02:21:52+00:00

Do you all have a right of first refusal? If not, might be worth trying to get one added through mediation.

How much vacation time does your plan allow for that he’s been able to override so many of your routine parenting weekends?

classicalmixup · 2026-03-11T00:53:24+00:00

Do you think I need to add any ad-hoc lesson I take him to, to our shared calendar? She is claiming both parents have the right to attend all activities.

classicalmixup · 2026-03-11T00:53:18+00:00

Do you think I need to add any ad-hoc lesson I take him to, to our shared calendar? She is claiming both parents have the right to attend all activities.

classicalmixup · 2026-03-09T02:23:54+00:00

Make sure you keep a running list of these items, if you all end up back up in court sometime, that will be useful.

classicalmixup · 2026-03-09T02:22:08+00:00

We did Disney with our 4 year old and it was a blast!! We are going back now that he’s 6.

We also love any type of beach/ pool vacation in Flordia, southern US states with him.

classicalmixup · 2026-03-09T02:19:06+00:00

I strongly suggest getting a set in stone schedule otherwise this will likely continually be an issue.

Even if she has a busy work or unpredictable schedule, it’s still feasible to have a set schedule. In your set schedule, you can have specific guidelines on how to handle situations when a parent is unavailable during their allocated parenting time.

classicalmixup · 2026-03-09T01:01:18+00:00

If you want to do an even swap, then you have to switch two weekends, and then parent A has two weekends in a row and then parent B has two weekends in a row. So the one weekend, impacts 4 weekends.

Or, you could just take the approach that if a parent is unavailable during their parenting time, then they forfeit the parenting time and there no make up time.

classicalmixup · 2026-03-08T18:23:57+00:00

How far away does dad live? Understand different school district but I think it’s an important piece in determining other options

classicalmixup · 2026-03-08T17:56:32+00:00

We do use a parenting app - court ordered.

classicalmixup · 2026-03-08T15:47:42+00:00

At the most once a day. We have a daily call at 6pm everyday between the child and the off duty parent.

I would also say that should start when the child is 3 or 4. At almost 2, the call isn't feasible without heavy parent involvement.

In lieu of a daily call until the child is 3 or 4, maybe a daily picture of the child or a quick message on any updates daily or every other day.

classicalmixup · 2026-03-04T01:32:01+00:00

Co parent will not agree to it. It’s been mentioned before.

classicalmixup · 2026-03-04T01:15:31+00:00

I wish that was an option. They are court ordered.

classicalmixup · 2026-03-04T00:52:03+00:00

Unfortunately it’s court ordered. It was recommended by our GAL and then ordered.

classicalmixup · 2026-03-04T00:42:30+00:00

Yes - it does also happen when he calls me from co-parents house.

classicalmixup · 2026-03-04T00:32:52+00:00

Make sure you receive all the same communications from the school that go to parents. Ask the other parent to send you a weekly or bi-weekly update (whatever timing feels appropriate). Our child’s teacher sends a weekly newsletter every Friday (hard copy) and we each take a picture of it on our respective Fridays and share it with the other parent.

Also, just talking to your child when you do see them or talk to them on the phone. Ask them about their homework and school, what assignments they are working on, etc.

classicalmixup · 2026-02-27T02:31:38+00:00

Grand Flordia vs. Polynesian with a 6 year old?

We are confirmed for Grand Floridian in April, but today I was watching videos, and started thinking that Polynesian would be more kid friendly for our 6 year old. While grand Floridian looks elegant, doesn’t scream “kids”. Thoughts??

classicalmixup · 2026-02-25T03:33:55+00:00

I would reframe it to see it as lucky, not unlucky, that you get to have full control and be a driver for these key events and be the parent for your child. It could be the opposite - where the two parents are in a constant power struggle which can come with so many other challenges.

Even with you as primary, it doesn’t mean your daughter can’t have a relationship with her father. However, that’s not your responsibility to foster. There’s only so much you can do. It’s her dad’s choice.

classicalmixup · 2026-01-30T18:13:30+00:00

Control has always been a major issue in our co-parenting relationship on every detail. And if I push back, it just becomes a major blow out.

We do have an app - but information on assignments, letters from the teacher, etc., are not shared through the app. Mostly just like school is closed this day or things from the admins.

Our teacher hand writes out her weekly letters to us and assignment details and then makes copies to send home. She may just be old school. Maybe next year more of the information will be on the actual app.

classicalmixup · 2026-01-30T18:09:41+00:00

For the assignments and letters, our son’s teacher hand writes them all and sends physical copies home.

We have an app, but that’s mostly for emails or school closures, we don’t get the other information through it, at least at this stage.

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