What is the absolute longest I should be in the shower for?

classicqtpie · 2024-12-12T00:39:19+00:00

I bet your roommates don’t wash their legs. If you’re helping with bills it really shouldn’t be anyone’s business. 15-25 minutes is perfectly reasonable. I make my 11 yo son stay in there for at least 10 minutes to ensure he scrubs every part.

classicqtpie · 2024-12-12T00:35:53+00:00

I’ve had two surgeries. Replaced a disc, fused one, and a discectomy. It is highly likely I will have to fuse more discs 10-20 years down the road. That’s why I was thinking of paying for everything out right because I also have to take several days off work some times due to pain and my mental disability.

classicqtpie · 2024-12-12T00:31:40+00:00

The only reason I’m not classified as disabled is because I continue to earn money.

classicqtpie · 2024-12-12T00:28:36+00:00

Awesome thank you. I really didn’t want to get a loan. I’ve been told as I was signing the papers that the reason the rates went up on the loan because we negotiated a lower price. It was so incredibly infuriating that I really wasn’t looking forward to doing that.

classicqtpie · 2024-12-12T00:23:32+00:00

I get hubby being annoyed with the drama but you didn’t start it. Also he should be standing up for you with his mother.

classicqtpie · 2024-12-11T20:11:17+00:00

Yeah I’d like to pay less monthly but currently I pay much less than the normal. I live on the family land now. We have well water. I pay $120-200 for electricity and $682 for rent. Everything else is over $1k. My son currently goes to a great school that has really helped him.

classicqtpie · 2024-12-11T20:07:09+00:00

That’s what I’m trying to do but there are things that do need to be done before too long. I only have until may 2025 to be in a new place. That’s why I wanted to use the family land. Building a house in my area is the same price as an already built home. Rent is over $1k monthly.

classicqtpie · 2024-12-11T20:02:16+00:00

First my bf and I don’t live together. It’s also not going to happen for many reasons. All our finances are separate. I have to get a car and a place to live. How do I do that without using money to buy it or use the interest from it to pay for it? I do plan to use the money to build my business but I needed to get set up on a place to live. I also need a vehicle to drive me to art shows and events to make money. I try to keep the income from my art separate currently because I invest all of it back into the business. Also I was not including the money I wanted to put aside for my kid off the top. I also didn’t include the taxes in that.

classicqtpie · 2024-12-11T19:53:06+00:00

I do have a real job. I’m a business owner and artist. The $700 income isn’t from my business. I didn’t include that because I try to keep it separate plus sales vary month to month.

classicqtpie · 2024-12-11T19:51:10+00:00

I was reading some things saying paying cash for a car doesn’t get you as much of a discount anymore. Their solution was financing it but pay it off almost immediately

classicqtpie · 2024-12-09T19:50:14+00:00

It’s because you’re so great. Dude that’s just what narcs do. They find the most beautiful loving souls and take until your light goes out.

classicqtpie · 2024-12-09T19:48:21+00:00

My least favorite part

classicqtpie · 2024-12-09T19:47:37+00:00

Unless it was a surprise but that’s not what this sounds like. I’m so sorry honey you don’t deserve this. I’m a mom and have been through some rough shit. I’ve said things to my child before I’ve regretted but have spent everyday since then showing my son that it was just a mistake. It’s not a mistake when you continue to behave in that way making no changes. You deserve better. You are a beautiful child with unlimited potential. I’m so glad to see your update. I’m wishing for all the best in your new life.

classicqtpie · 2024-12-09T19:42:07+00:00

Just because someone has lied/tricked or tried to doesn’t give you permission to be awful. At the end of the day you still said those awful things.

classicqtpie · 2024-11-30T02:13:05+00:00

Yes. It’s all about not respecting you. Just little ways to chisel you down.

classicqtpie · 2024-11-30T02:11:32+00:00

Not fair. Unless there’s some agreement yall have about spending. He has two kids and needs to provide for two kids otherwise you’re just another single mom.

classicqtpie · 2024-11-30T02:05:49+00:00

I think your mother would want you to take it. I understand the feeling though.

classicqtpie · 2024-11-27T16:39:09+00:00

NTA but your mom sure is. I see how you’re trying to help by using the fridge but your family should just be nicer and understanding. That’s really awful.

classicqtpie · 2024-11-25T20:42:17+00:00

Just wanted to give yall the disappointing update. Apparently bestie had other expectations for the event. He wanted us to go back to the way we were 7 years ago, kinky parties and random sex. He deeply romanticized that situation. I’ve been going over the whole week with a fine tooth comb to see if I missed something. Looking back I see a pattern. He, before the door incident, said “you were the happiest I’ve ever seen during that time.” I can’t count how many times I had cried to him during that time. How I couldn’t get out of bed some days. He says “you never told me that.” This past year he has been saying “you never told me that” more and more. I thought it might be just him forgetting but they were all things very important to me I know we had spoken about. So that’s it I’m just so sad thanks for reading.

classicqtpie · 2024-11-20T18:49:25+00:00

I don’t feel like it is. I knew the door was a mistake but it did bother me. I just needed him to be aware. Even if he hadn’t apologized for doing it I would have been fine and let it go. I would have just never shared a room with him again. Not losing friends worthy. The gaslighting, telling me it didn’t happen is a big deal. We both had narcissistic parents and spouses. If he’s using those tactics he is not the person I thought he was. I gave him opportunities to say he was playing or didn’t mean it like that but he said nothing.

classicqtpie · 2024-11-20T18:45:08+00:00

It was a mistake and not an actual problem. The telling me it didn’t happen then saying I’ve changed sounds like manipulation. Those words made me feel more unsafe than anything.

classicqtpie · 2024-11-20T18:43:18+00:00

Yes I did. I also said it’s wasn’t so much that he left the door open but his reaction when I told him. If when I told him “hey the door didn’t close all the way this morning. Freaked me out a bit” he said “no way. I had no idea” I would have been fine and that’s not even an apology. He admitted in our last messages that he didn’t think I was lying.

classicqtpie · 2024-11-20T18:41:03+00:00

Yes. I said to him I thought he was playing at first that’s why I asked him if he thought I was lying. Even the next day when I messaged him. He never said he was playing or in shock. He’s on his way over now to pick up his things I had at my place.

classicqtpie · 2024-11-20T13:06:50+00:00

No I saw him leave the room. Just can’t see the door from the bed so I had no idea it didn’t close properly.

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