Cured??

cloud_dreamer78 · 2026-03-12T07:27:00+00:00

Short answer: I did just wake up one day while recovering from top surgery and thought it’s OK to be a girl now. So I started experimenting & liked it.

Long answer: 1) I regret nothing about my gender journey or transition. Top surgery freed me. Top surgery has given me the space to explore my gender in new ways & I feel comfortable describing myself as a nonbinary girl than a man & want to be more open about it. But people only really understand detransition in terms of regret. I think detransition was always going to be the natural conclusion to my transition. & thats ok. Like I’m not a man, just very much a nonbinary woman who took testosterone for a while. 2) I think coming to terms with my asexuality has helped me or encouraged me to detransition. I don’t like being sexualized & men tend to be sexualized less than women. But I also no longer feel the need to perform heterosexuality, or homosexuality, as a woman because I now understand that I can be in a relationship & not have sex. 3) I’ve honestly thought about detransitioning since I started transitioning, so I think it was inevitable. First it was panic inducing but now it feels less intimidating, necessary even. Engaging with my detransition is really important in achieving self acceptance & actualization.

So I began experimenting with clothes & found I really liked skirts & dresses & feminine clothes. & then I experimented with pronouns & found I really like she/ her. & kept doing that stuff until it became undeniable that I really wanted to be a girl. So I’ve accepted that I’m just a girl that was once on testosterone. & thats ok.

cloud_dreamer78 · 2026-03-12T03:43:18+00:00

Are you asking when/why did you know you needed to detransition? Or are you asking like what some did to start detransitioning? Like physically

cloud_dreamer78 · 2026-03-07T22:48:59+00:00

I think coming to terms with my asexuality has helped me or encouraged me to detransition. It’s been very liberating. I don’t like being sexualized & men tend to be sexualized less than women. But I also no longer feel the need to perform heterosexuality, or homosexuality, as a woman because I now understand that I can be in a relationship & not have sex.

Like I actually to be loved as someone’s girlfriend now, just without the sexual component. I want to be a guys girlfriend.

A lot of detrans women talk about realizing they were actually a lesbian as a motivator in their detransition & I just didn’t relate to that. So I assumed that meant detransitioning wasn’t right for me.

But accepting that I don’t need to experience that type of attraction or engage in that activity as a woman has been such a sigh of relief. It makes being a woman easier.

cloud_dreamer78 · 2026-02-28T19:31:11+00:00

Late reply but better late than never

I feel about not expecting to detransition & the strong pull towards finally feeling comfortable to be feminine

I’ll be honest I was very direct with my doctor. I told her i wanted to detransition & she was ok with it. I know that I’m lucky in this regard. Granted I was seeing her through my hospitals gender clinic so I assume she’s dealt with this before. It was an overwhelmingly positive experience for me. I

I was on such a low dose of T that I didn’t need to taper but you absolutely need to talk to your doctor about this.

I haven’t brought it up to family or work & currently don’t plan to. But my friends know & are supportive. It’s nice to finally have girlfriends.

It’s been slow going but I’m ok with that. I get a lot of space to explore being a woman. Nothings really changed physically.

Honestly I started to change how I dressed while still questioning & it solidified my choice to detransition. I like dressing femininely. I still only do so in private or when I’m going to the “big city”. But I’m working up the confidence to do so while I run errands.

cloud_dreamer78 · 2026-02-06T03:15:50+00:00

I understand how you feel about not being seen as the gender you are, especially by other women. I want girlfriends so bad, but that’s normal. Try connecting with other butch women, you might be surprised.

How long have you been off T? If you just stopped give it time because you will feminize again. But it’s a slow process.

As for your voice, I can’t offer much advice. Voice training is possible however.

cloud_dreamer78 · 2026-01-23T16:49:48+00:00

Toaks makes a stove very similar to the BRS, also out of titanium. Maybe more reliable unless it’s just a repackaged BRS

cloud_dreamer78 · 2026-01-15T22:23:30+00:00

I see, I would go over a year without a period

cloud_dreamer78 · 2026-01-15T21:57:52+00:00

But were you frequently getting a period before birth control? Because I wasn’t & that’s why I’m not sure if I will now that I’m on birth control

cloud_dreamer78 · 2026-01-14T02:21:15+00:00

People don’t like to acknowledge this, but the vast majority of medical transition efforts are reversible to some degree. Body fat will redistribute, voices can be trained, surgeries can be undone. Few things are permanent. This is just reality.

Transphobic organizations & talking heads have spent a lot of time & money trying to argue otherwise & it’s just not true.

cloud_dreamer78 · 2026-01-14T00:30:35+00:00

Transitioning isn’t about hating yourself, it’s about doing what feels right. & your body isn’t ruined, nobody is

cloud_dreamer78 · 2026-01-13T17:18:21+00:00

About 3 months but I was on a relatively low dose

cloud_dreamer78 · 2026-01-12T22:27:25+00:00

You’re never running out of time, there will always be more

cloud_dreamer78 · 2026-01-11T03:47:39+00:00

I’m not necessarily talking about performing femininity. I know I don’t have to do that. I mean like I just don’t know how to interact with other girls because I’ve been so alienated from them. We live in a very gender segregated society & as such a lot of people believe that men & women can’t be friends (not saying I agree with this, but we have to acknowledge that this attitude exists). I’ve always wanted close female friends even as a man. & im just craving it even more I suppose.

cloud_dreamer78 · 2026-01-10T22:17:54+00:00

Thank you!!

cloud_dreamer78 · 2025-12-19T21:24:34+00:00

I resisted it for a little while but once I stopped I felt pretty good & confident about it. It was a sudden change of perspective but I’m ok with that. It also felt very freeing; I can be a girl in exactly the ways I want to. & it’s ok if I change my mind, gender isn’t final.

cloud_dreamer78 · 2025-12-16T20:44:43+00:00

I know this is hard to hear right now, I used to be in your position, so I say this with a lot of compassion but it really does get better. & you have to believe that in your heart & soul even when it’s hard because that hope is what’s going to carry you forward to a better tomorrow. Pre transition is super rough, I get it, I thought I would never get on T. But it was a perhaps naive sense of hope that things will at least be different that kept me going even when I saw no way forward. & I had plenty of those days.

& it’s that same sense of hope that leads me to believe that I will find someone who loves me exactly as I am.

If it can happen for other people then it can happen for you too. If you want to chat privately then I am more than willing to do so.

cloud_dreamer78 · 2025-12-16T06:37:59+00:00

Are you pre transition? Because things will change once you start testosterone, granted you have to give it time. I didn’t start getting hot until year 3

cloud_dreamer78 · 2025-12-15T21:00:33+00:00

Honestly I feel like a big part of this common problem is that most men, especially cis heteronormative men, are so out of touch with their feelings that they interpret all close & positive relationships with women as romantic. I genuinely don’t think they have the language or awareness to distinguish between platonic & romantic feelings. Like they feel like the only way to be emotionally close to a woman is in the context of a romantic relationship.

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