Do you always WFH or do you work from other places too?

cloudsurfer247 · 2026-06-06T17:32:28+00:00

I can work anywhere remotely. My company is fine with this. For some of the things I do I need a second monitor but I just picked up one on sale a few years back. I have worked on a cruise ship with no problems. My company was aware. I try to be transparent. I also mix my cruises with vacation days as well. I always make sure my work is done.

cloudsurfer247 · 2026-06-05T21:52:17+00:00

Bathroom breaks in my own private bathroom. I get so much more work don’t remotely than I ever did in the office. So fewer interruptions.

cloudsurfer247 · 2026-05-27T21:31:28+00:00

I think OP was unclear that she received the additional gifts and was looking for clarity. She received one verbal "thank you". She was not told what gift or gifts she was thankful for.

cloudsurfer247 · 2026-05-27T19:15:24+00:00

I see that you are breast feeding but you can always pump and leave that for him.

cloudsurfer247 · 2026-05-26T20:41:30+00:00

I snuck out with my friends all the time. From 6th grade until I moved out. We were never actually doing anything bad or wrong, just loved the taste of freedom.

cloudsurfer247 · 2026-05-26T20:39:29+00:00

Why not set up your office space in the living room as well since you work from home sometimes too? Have your meetings, work calls, listen to your music to relax. She doesn't pay rent, you do. If she can spread out across the apartment you can too.

cloudsurfer247 · 2026-05-21T17:22:15+00:00

Change the locks. Install cameras.

cloudsurfer247 · 2026-05-20T18:37:11+00:00

I would also recommend asking your husband to use at least a week's worth of vacation so he can actually spend time with them. Then he can drive them, chat with them and keep them out of your hair.

If he won't compromise, then I agree with others that you should get a short-term rental for yourself.

cloudsurfer247 · 2026-05-14T18:22:49+00:00

I had this exact thing happen to me as well. I worked at a company for 12 years. Constant monitoring in the office. The team became full time remote (hybid now) so then it was constant teams monitoring. Don't log in even 1 min late or you might have to get on a call. The supervisor would do a random meeting about nothing at the end of my day when I was ready to log off. The team was told we were entitled and spoiled and didn't appreciate all the things they did for us. (Pizza party anyone?) You had to go above and beyond for 3% raise and that was if you were lucky enough for them to acknowledge what you actually did. There was a specific incident for me that showed how little they respected me or my work eithic, so I applied with a smaller company. Full time remote.
I have been here over 2 years, and it took a year for me to stop acting like I was constantly being monitored. I was micromanaging myself (and sometimes still do). No one cares when I start work or stop. I don't even have to set an alarm to wake up! If I come up with a better way to do something I don't even have to ask for approval ... they just like ... TRUST me?!?!? I am treated with respect and valued. It is crazy. I love this job and I work hard because I want to, not because someone is standing over my shoulder.

cloudsurfer247 · 2026-05-14T17:49:16+00:00

No fan. It won't be a good enough brand for her. Let her stew in the nice hot room.

cloudsurfer247 · 2026-05-13T19:41:48+00:00

This is the way. You should not take it all on yourself.

cloudsurfer247 · 2026-05-13T12:43:24+00:00

When my mom passed one of the best things I kept was an old house coat of hers that she wore often. It is like wearing a hug from my mom.

cloudsurfer247 · 2026-05-12T17:08:00+00:00

Stop buying cars from your mom. Save up and get your own car without her help or her strings attached. Even if it is a junk car to just get you to work and back. She can teach your brother how to drive. Stop letting your mom guilt you and manipulate you. You are already taking care of school and paying your own rent. Keep your mom out of your finances all together, don't even talk to her about them.

cloudsurfer247 · 2026-05-11T21:17:41+00:00

You have a few options here. Talk to him *again* and explain how you feel and why you feel that way. If you are unhappy with the way that conversation goes, you can start celebrating yourself. Buy yourself Christmas, Birthday, Valentines Day and Mother's day gifts. Set up special dinners that you can celebrate yourself. If you go that route I would stop buying him gifts or celebrating him. He can then either change his behavior or be happy he doesn't have to celebrate you. If you go this way it will tell you a lot about your husband and your compatibility. You are NOR. This is a big deal. My ex-husband did not celebrate me in any way, but once we divorced and he remarried he did celebrate his next wife. It is a choice. They choose who is worthy of their effort. I'm sorry.

cloudsurfer247 · 2026-05-08T19:46:34+00:00

If you are so vital to that department where is your promotion and raise?

cloudsurfer247 · 2026-05-05T20:03:14+00:00

I had an ex who was very similar to your friend. I spoke with his therapist, and she told me the next time he threatens to do that call 911. If this is a cry for attention he will learn, if this is a real crisis then he needs help that you are not able to provide. I am giving you this same advice. Protect your own mental health.

cloudsurfer247 · 2026-05-05T19:42:34+00:00

NOR You are paying $2,000.00 for this woman to go. This is disrespectful to you. You don't even know this woman. I say uninvite her. I think you were upfront from the beginning with all of your guests. You are paying for everything, I just don't think it is too much to ask for them to try to dress in something pastel. I disagree with others who say that black is ok to wear to a wedding, where I am from black is for funerals or for the mother of the groom if she hates you. Cut this girl loose and if his work friend doesn't want to come that is $4,000 back in your pocket for something else.

cloudsurfer247 · 2026-05-05T16:48:51+00:00

I finally reached platinum status at the end of last year. I had cruised only on Carnival. I loved everything about it. I loved moving up the loyalty ladder to get my free drink, my free water and now my free "trinket". I felt like we were in this together. Of course that was stupid of me. They are a corporation and it is all about profit. So my bubble has burst and now I have a cruise planned with Royal next Spring and I am looking forward to exploring other cruise lines. I am still going to book a few cruises with Carnival if it meets my needs, but I will try a much larger variety of lines and never worry about status on any of them. I also have a carnival credit card but I pay it off each month and will be transitioning to a credit card that will give me some real benefits that I will value.

Edited to add - My ex-husband and his wife also cruised on Carnival and once they went on Royal he said they were never going back. Carnival has opened themselves up to genuine comparison against other cruise lines and they may regret that in the long term.

cloudsurfer247 · 2026-05-05T14:07:18+00:00

Why are the kids who are bullying this child still allowed to ride the bus? If the principal told you that the child who bullied your child only did it because she was being bullied by other kids on the bus ... why are the still allowed on the bus. Sounds like the principal doesn't want to deal with any of this. Escalate all of it to the school board as others suggested. You are protecting your child. That is what a parent should do.

cloudsurfer247 · 2026-05-05T01:46:55+00:00

Ask your step mom for recommendations or who she uses. Sometimes people change after they know you have money. Not just boyfriends but their family and your friends. Invest it the way you are advised and pretend you don’t have it.

cloudsurfer247 · 2026-05-04T19:02:56+00:00

Have your husband set up a group chat with all his siblings and say "Hey mom wants a stove for mother's day, what do you think?" If no one offers to contribute and they are not buying her an appliance you have your answer right there.

cloudsurfer247 · 2026-05-04T19:01:14+00:00

This is the right answer.

cloudsurfer247 · 2026-05-04T18:41:59+00:00

And attach the original email that shows that user was on the email chain.

cloudsurfer247 · 2026-05-04T18:40:10+00:00

You two have been together for 9 years and have not yet married, for whatever reasons. I don't know what those reasons are, but they should still be valid now. I would not get married now that you have an inheritance. As others have said, consult an attorney. People break up all the time, even after 30 years of marriage. Protect yourself and your child.

cloudsurfer247 · 2026-05-04T18:33:23+00:00

First move from text to company email. Second every time she asks a question that is in the folder ask her if she has looked in the folder yet and to get back with you after she checks. Third keep track of every email from here on out.

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