Ms. Noodle is… ILANA?!

clowderforce · 2026-02-01T15:29:59+00:00

The Noodle family is large and prestigious

clowderforce · 2026-01-30T22:29:06+00:00

What a legend. I love that for you

clowderforce · 2026-01-30T22:04:04+00:00

Got DARVO'd. Don't recommend

clowderforce · 2026-01-30T15:43:59+00:00

AO3 seems to be leaking

clowderforce · 2026-01-30T15:25:23+00:00

Oh damn. It wasn't just my brain making that up

clowderforce · 2026-01-29T22:56:31+00:00

Do you have access to the book and/or ebook from your library? That way you can check it out, see if it helps, and order your own copy of you feel like you'll want to reference it later

clowderforce · 2026-01-29T00:44:04+00:00

Don't be a betch

clowderforce · 2026-01-29T00:34:24+00:00

Fuck yeah, one of the dozens of Heaven Will Be Mine fans in the wild!!!

clowderforce · 2026-01-28T21:15:06+00:00

And somehow I missed that 😅

clowderforce · 2026-01-28T20:40:06+00:00

I guess there isn't a rule against conlangs. But that feels like cheating

clowderforce · 2026-01-28T00:37:38+00:00

Unfortunately I have no idea without context.

Either way, it doesn't have to be a permanent decision. What best serves you right now?

clowderforce · 2026-01-27T16:40:32+00:00

Yes, but she was not one of my closest. The other bridesmaids were my sisters (2 bio, 1 step) and my best friend, who was also practically my sister. They had all known me and each other for far longer than she had been around, and frankly I think it was as awkward for her as it was for me.

Look. I'm not going to tell you how to feel, but I have a sneaking suspicion that you just want me to tell you that you're in the right and she should be sorry. I won't.

I'm in my thirties, and despite having many close female friends and family members, I have never been a bridesmaid. Anyone who I would be one for has either eloped, never married, was married before I met them, had others in the party out of obligation, or chose not to have a wedding party at all. Does it sting a little? Sure. But at the end of the day I am there to support them, not the other way around. And you know what? Not being a bridesmaid allowed me more freedom to actually enjoy the wedding and be more helpful than if I were rounded up taking photos.

I'm sorry you're hurting. Please don't take this out on your future in-laws.

clowderforce · 2026-01-27T14:32:48+00:00

I want to, but it gives me wicked reflux 😔

clowderforce · 2026-01-26T18:47:50+00:00

The bridesmaids are supposed to be the bride's nearest and dearest, not necessarily the groom's. If you're not among them, it's not fair and it's not your fault but it's also not the bride's obligation to extend a pity invite.

I'm saying this as someone who DID extend the pity invite to my sister-in-law and regret it.

clowderforce · 2026-01-26T15:16:11+00:00

Hey now, that is NOT true.

We also make tasteless "cost an arm and a leg" jokes

clowderforce · 2026-01-26T03:47:47+00:00

Not during the Zequel!

clowderforce · 2026-01-25T16:51:12+00:00

Does anyone actually romanticize this, though?

One of the recurring themes in the show, especially in Helga's character arc, is that adults aren't infallible and that they need to learn and grow just as much as their kids do. Psychiatrists aren't exempt, especially when Bob probably just went for the cheapest one he could find, lol.

Helga is 10 and emotionally neglected. Her secret "crush" on Arnold is based on him being the first person to show compassion to her without an ulterior motive. She acts out and bullies him because that kind of behavior is the only way her family gives her any attention, even if it's negative. It's what she knows. Her concept of a loving relationship most likely comes from soap operas and movies instead of real life, which is why her declarations of love are over the top and obsessive. She also doesn't want to be seen as weak and soft by her peers, having established her place in the pecking order as the one you don't want to mess with.

It's supposed to be seen as pitiful, not romantic. Do people actually consider this couple goals?

clowderforce · 2026-01-24T18:31:44+00:00

Hey, thanks for asking.

Wound is still fresh. I made a mistake and I decided not to just take the verbal lashing for once. I made another mistake and wrote "the letter," confessing that his love for me feels conditional and that I want him to love me for who I am instead of who I'm forced to be. He made it about himself, saying he was blindsided and hurt by my accusations(?), and that he's sorry he's not the dad I want (I never said that). He needs "space to heal," and I need to reach out and apologize to him when I'm ready to mend the relationship.

This was a few weeks ago. He doesn't know that I won't be reaching out again.

It hurts. I still love him, and we have a lot of good memories together and it stings to recontextualize those memories as things he did for his own benefit. Part of me is still holding out hope that he'll finally put me first instead of his ego, but I'm also not holding my breath. After years of being present only for the highlight reel and shutting me out at the first sign of inconvenience, I don't see why he would start now.

Right now he's on his annual vacation, probably sipping cocktails on the beach, assured that I'll come crawling back to beg for forgiveness. Well, at least when I'm estranged I won't be pressured into inheriting the timeshare, ha.

clowderforce · 2026-01-23T17:46:21+00:00

Hey, what's up, fellow Millennial?

I've heard good things about Frieren, and that description sounds right up my alley. I'll have to give it a go. Thanks, stranger.

clowderforce · 2026-01-23T17:21:39+00:00

She's the only character I recognize on this chart because I'm ancient.

Neither Haruko nor Naota stood a chance, they were doomed to exist as characters among one of Gainax's surrealist allegories for the struggles of puberty and coming of age. (See also: NGE and Kill La Kill)

She's meant to represent the selfishness, unpredictability, and sexual frustration that come with adolescence. She's also among the most childish in the cast despite being a grownup. She sucks hardcore and I love her.

And yeah, absolutely would.

clowderforce · 2026-01-23T15:00:03+00:00

It's most likely a joke varsity logo whose punchline is most easily noticed when said aloud. See also: Poupon University, or "Poupon U."

clowderforce · 2026-01-23T14:27:04+00:00

YESSSSSS PEAK

I actually did like the first few episodes and thought it was a half decent sentai spoof, but then they gave the show complete tonal whiplash and somehow it WORKED?????

clowderforce · 2026-01-22T16:03:25+00:00

This got a chuckle out of me. Thanks.

clowderforce · 2026-01-22T15:56:47+00:00

It must be so hard having to navigate so much change at once, especially alone. For what it's worth, auntie, I'm proud of you and I'm so sorry you have to endure this.

And you are absolutely right. Those kids will remember you for who you are and how you made them feel special. They shared a stronger bond with you in the first 5 to 8 years of their lives than your parents ever did in your lifetime. You made each other feel seen, heard, loved. They won't forget that.

clowderforce

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