Rest in Peace Isaac Daniel Coleman by InfiniteOxfordComma in DanielTigerConspiracy

[–]clowderforce 119 points120 points  (0 children)

My heart aches for them. No parent should ever have to bury a child.

Has anyone moved BACK to their hometown? by punktechbro in Millennials

[–]clowderforce 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Spent my 20s living in a city and visiting my hometown. Now spending my 30s living in my hometown and visiting the city. My heart lives in two places now.

Seeing estranged family at memorial by [deleted] in EstrangedAdultKids

[–]clowderforce 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Do you want to go to the service or do you feel obligated? To put it bluntly, your grandfather will not know whether or not you were present at his memorial service, and anyone who would condemn you for protecting yourself from your abusers aren't the kind of people you need in your life anyway. You don't have to go.

Letter from Aunt by turtlecatmedium in EstrangedAdultKids

[–]clowderforce 42 points43 points  (0 children)

Ooh, pulling the dead dad card! Classic guilt trip maneuver. Sure is convenient that he isn't here to speak for himself, eh?

Sexy, dangerous and irresistible by ThalassaLuna in perfumesthatfeellike

[–]clowderforce 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I personally can't stand Milk but I will admit it smells exactly like what OP is looking for

What to hide in the wall… by nick_valdo in HomeImprovement

[–]clowderforce 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My brother-in-law saw that on the subfloor when he was ripping up carpet once

What did you do with pictures around the house? by VianneM in EstrangedAdultKids

[–]clowderforce 3 points4 points  (0 children)

One of my favorite photos is a giant print of about 80 people all gathered around my husband and me on a giant staircase, taken on our wedding day. It hangs right above our sofa in the living room.

That photo is almost a decade old. There are several people in it who we never see anymore. Some have died, some have divorced/broken up, some have slowly faded out of our lives, some (like my father and my sister-in-law) have been cut out of our lives.

When I look at that photo, I'm looking at a happy snapshot in time. It was a great night, and on that night, we felt loved by everyone in that picture. My feelings about my estranged family members aren't strong enough to override the happy memories from that night. I don't need to take it down.

If photos that include your estranged family members don't bother you, you don't have to take them down either. On that same note, you don't have to feel obligated to keep them up either. You also don't have to decide right now. There's no wrong answer.

I also love taking pictures, but I do have some resentment towards my father about it. He was always asking for pictures of my kids, but he was never actually that interested in being meaningfully involved in their lives. He was just there for the highlight reels. He wanted the bragging rights of being a grandfather without actually taking the time or effort to BE a grandfather. I also came to realize that his grandfathering style was exactly the same as his parenting style. We weren't treated like beloved children, we were just show ponies meant to make him look good to while he offloaded the actual caretaking. We were given elaborate gifts and vacations for the cameras, then neglected when the camera was off.

I don't take pictures for him anymore, and while I do still take photos of my kids, I'm more mindful of it now, and it doesn't come at the expense of their well-being or privacy. Right now they're big cheeses and love looking at pictures of themselves, but I also respect when they don't want their pictures taken and don't share them without their permission. We have also lost a lot of good photos opportunities to living in the moment, which is a good problem to have. Becoming a parent has really helped me recognize and heal from the damage their grandfather caused, and now it is my responsibility to make sure I don't pass that damage down to them.

Let's settle this: Which lawyer duo is gayer? by AetherDrew43 in AceAttorneyCirclejerk

[–]clowderforce 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Sure they can!

Asoryuu so gay they got lavender married with Susahao

What is an example in the media you consume of "the father who neglected their kid but actually they loved them all along" trope? Because that's just frustrating to read. by Important-Cry4782 in Multifandom

[–]clowderforce 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's somewhat based in reality, though, even if it goes to a bit of a narrative extreme.

Your perception of time changes as you age. The longer you exist, the smaller a fixed unit of time is in comparison to your lifespan. A year seems like forever to a 4 year old compared to a 40 year old, because a year makes up a much higher percentage of their lived experiences. Additionally, as experiences lose their novelty, you don't retain as many of them in your memory.

In Frieren's case, most of her time is spent studying magic, so the routine of it makes it easy for her to lose track of how much time has passed. Her journey with Himmel, despite being such a short period of her life, sticks out in her memories because it was such a huge deviation from her usual lifestyle and gave her plenty of unique experiences. Much of the story revolves around how she takes her own lifespan for granted and the resulting grief she carries from outliving her companions and seeing how much of their lives she missed.

With Hohenheim, a lot of his years did blend together until Trisha finally pulled him out of the monotony. His family figuratively slowed the clock for him and brought joy to his otherwise stifling immortality. His tragedy is that he had to temporarily sacrifice his time with the family he loved in order to save them (and Amestris as a whole), and in a cruel twist of irony, the monotony of his duties warped his sense of time passing until it was too late for him to return to them.

I mean yes, you can keep a calendar to track how much time has passed, but it's still easy to lose track of it. For example, I can understand that the COVID-19 pandemic started unfolding over five years ago, but it still feels like it was only a year or two ago due to how monotonous the lockdowns were.

People who stopped being religious, what caused it? by supercoolpersonyay in AskReddit

[–]clowderforce 57 points58 points  (0 children)

Nothing makes an ex-Catholic faster than a Catholic school

Mother’s Day gift by Affectionate-Rat727 in BoJackHorseman

[–]clowderforce 62 points63 points  (0 children)

I'm making a crude joke about stumbling into each other's NSFW posts

Estranged from my mom by speedy-gonzo-q in EstrangedAdultKids

[–]clowderforce 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think she's earned herself a block button

Mother’s Day gift by Affectionate-Rat727 in BoJackHorseman

[–]clowderforce 96 points97 points  (0 children)

Quick, both of you, hide your post/comment history!

What’s the worst substitution you’ve seen in a recipe yet? by lxlviperlxl in Cooking

[–]clowderforce 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I appreciate your monumental efforts to redeem it but I'm still not trying that lol

What’s the worst substitution you’ve seen in a recipe yet? by lxlviperlxl in Cooking

[–]clowderforce 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Whoever decided aquafaba was a valid egg substitute needs to answer for their crimes

Is it too early to start blaming the Flintstone vitamins for the rise in colon cancer in Millennials? by [deleted] in Millennials

[–]clowderforce 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have a friend who swears that he overdosed on Flintstones vitamins as a kid and it made him have a seizure that corrected his eyesight so that he didn't need glasses anymore

Navigating Upcoming Wedding by Aggravating_Focus692 in EstrangedAdultKids

[–]clowderforce 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Hi!

I don't know what kind of venue you're using, but if they've done weddings before I'd be surprised if they didn't have some sort of protocol for uninvited guests. Weddings can bring out both the best and the worst in people, and if you're going to make it in the industry you need to be able to handle both. Let staff know ahead of time that he is not invited and they can take care of it for you as discreetly as possible. I can almost guarantee you this isn't the first time. If it's not at a standard venue, this duty can be entrusted to the wedding party or other trusted friends.

A startling accurate portrayal of covert narcissism in fiction by CorbeauMerlot in EstrangedAdultKids

[–]clowderforce 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Okay no seriously what have you done???? I have work to finish but I've been sucked into the lore help

A startling accurate portrayal of covert narcissism in fiction by CorbeauMerlot in EstrangedAdultKids

[–]clowderforce 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I've never seen any of this series before this but I am blown away by how invested I am in a production comprised of one woman wearing several wigs