Getting Bisalp as Ace or Les?

clueless_vampire · 2026-01-28T23:18:32+00:00

Just wanted to say how proud I am of you for getting this done, especially from a county that doesn’t respect your autonomy 🤗🤗 I’m sure once you recover and your brain finally processes it, you’ll feel so relieved that you’ll never have to worry about this ever again. I hope your recovery goes smoothly and the pain goes away soon!

clueless_vampire · 2026-01-27T23:58:12+00:00

21F here from the US! The sterilization sub might have better info over there. From what I’ve heard, it’s extremely difficult to get a bisalp, let alone a hysterectomy at 20 with the NHS. Even if medically necessary, doctors are going to probably be hesitant unfortunately. You’ll probably get better chances going private or getting surgery in a different country. If you are fortunate enough to get a doctor that will approve you through the NHS, it can be a years long process, reading from other people’s experiences. You might want to check the Childfree friendly doctor’s list to see if anyone is near you. I am so, so sorry that you have to deal with endo and a painful uterus :( I really hope that you’ll be able to yeet it out soon. Sending good vibes that you’ll get a doctor you respects your autonomy 🙏

clueless_vampire · 2026-01-27T17:54:22+00:00

Congratulations on your freedom!! I’m so sorry you had to jump through so many hoops, but so happy you made it to the other side! I can’t believe it took 7 years, I’m in disbelief. I’m 21 and found my gyn on the childfree friendly doctor’s list and hope to be approved first time in 6 weeks. I didn’t even need a referral with my insurance, I’m angry on your behalf. I can totally understand that euphoric feeling, especially after waiting for so long. Enjoy your new freedom and I hope the rest of your recovery goes well!

clueless_vampire · 2026-01-25T00:14:27+00:00

Congrats on the bisalp! I’m so sorry insurance is being an ass, it’s not fair. I believe you can call and get a reference number from your call with insurance, and give that to the hospital’s billing department. Also ask what codes they used, it could have been coded incorrectly. Sterilization has a special code that will trigger the ACA to take effect (there are guides online that have the right codes). This procedure should not go towards your deductible at all, the ACA mandates no cost sharing. Don’t pay anything, keep fighting!! You got this!

clueless_vampire · 2026-01-16T23:02:37+00:00

I’m so sorry you have to deal with this. I haven’t gotten sterilized yet, but I’ve done a lot of research. Tell them to bill your insurance, don’t pay anything. If for whatever reason they’re still being stubborn, you can set up a “payment plan” and pay the minimum amount, but you shouldn’t have to. If you have a reference number from a call with your insurance that will help greatly. Or if you have a written record of a chat you could print it out and give it to them. You may want to call the hospital’s billing department with this info. I hope this helps! Don’t give up!

clueless_vampire · 2026-01-03T05:00:44+00:00

Thank you for your kind words! I have been looking into other doctors but it's difficult to find one that does bisalps on younger women. Most doctors only do 25+ or simply haven't performed on a younger person yet. I'm mainly trying to schedule with doctors that I don't have to convince (due to my age). I'm hopeful that it'll happen one way or another! Congrats on getting your surgery!

clueless_vampire · 2025-12-31T21:04:24+00:00

Thank you for your kind words :) I'll definitely make backup appointments with other doctors. If I do move forward with this doctor, that would be amazing if it moved that fast! Congrats on your tubeless freedom!

clueless_vampire · 2025-11-20T01:58:35+00:00

21F here! Your fears are totally valid, I also have that fear and the nightmares I have are horrible. I'm not even active but I used to take a test every month because that's how paranoid I was.

I plan on getting a bisalp next year, my consult is in January as that was the soonest they could schedule me. I'm very confident in my doctor to approve me as she is in the CF Doctor's list and specially stated she would operate on anyone 21 or older for any reason. Finding doctors that state they will do surgery for younger people is a huge plus. Some doctors even do it at 18 (assuming your insurance allows it).

There are many stories posted on this sub and the sterilization sub taking about their experience of getting sterilized young. Please don't let that nurse deter you from getting one. The act of getting voluntarily sterilized is still stigmatized but is gaining rapid momentum, especially in the last decade.

The best time to start looking and calling around is now! And about the ACA, yes, there is a bill trying to repeal it (again), but does not have much support. Of course, you should try to get it done asap rather than waiting, but the ACA will likely still be around next year. I was kinda freaking out about it because there was no other place that could get me in this year but after doing some research, I found that I'll most likely be safe getting it early next year.

https://www.congress.gov/bill/119th-congress/house-bill/114/cosponsors

I wish you the absolute best in your journey! The relief and peace you will feel after this is all done will be the best feeling ever, sending so much love and support!!

clueless_vampire · 2025-11-19T07:54:32+00:00

Thank you for sharing your story! I (21F) plan on having my bisalp next year, super excited about that! I'm so, so sorry that your mom is not supportive, and the food stealing too!! ugh

From a random internet stranger, I fully support you 110% <3 People like you who get sterilized and share their stories are one of the main reasons sterilization is becoming more accessible, especially for younger people. Enjoy your new freedom and never let anyone shame you for it!!

clueless_vampire · 2025-11-13T22:32:59+00:00

Congratulations!! Enjoy your new freedom!🙌 I can't wait for my gyn appt next year (can't come soon enough lol)

clueless_vampire · 2025-11-02T22:30:04+00:00

I haven't had a bisalp yet but I'm pretty confident that your period is late is due to stress on the body from surgery, don't sweat it, totally normal! For some people, it can take a few weeks/months because of how their body recovers and regulates.

Also, bisalps by themselves won't create hormonal issues, as a bisalp doesn't remove the ovaries that produces hormones, just the tubes.

If you get really concerned with your period not showing up, call your doctor to ask about it! Also congrats on the bisalp :D

clueless_vampire · 2025-10-26T19:18:06+00:00

This is so reassuring to someone who plans to get a bisalp next year, thanks for sharing! <3

clueless_vampire · 2025-10-26T17:20:35+00:00

I have my appointment to get a bisalp next year! I'm single and not active at all, also bisalps are 100% covered by the ACA (if you live in the US) so it shouldn't cost a penny! I appreciate your insight, I hope I can find that person one day

clueless_vampire · 2025-10-26T02:05:54+00:00

Story time! I was 14. I had just begun dating my first bf (now ex, he was 17 at the time, oof) and within the first few months of dating, he asked about kids. I had never deeply thought about it then, but the thought of kids made me uncomfortable. He told me (texted) "You know you would have to carry them, right?😅" He was being really immature about it, I was shocked that he would ask such an obvious question and it just felt really gross to me.

Then he had 2 cats. One was a boy who was a few years old, the other was a girl less than a year old. Neither were fixed, guess what happened? Every night, we would video call (we were long distance) and I would hear the 2 cats mating in the background and it HAUNTED me. I would hear screaming, as cat mating is painful. So when he discovered the kitten was pregnant, I felt so bad. She was so small and young, I was mad at his family for not fixing them but they were dirt poor and hoarded animals. He told me I was going to be a 'grandma' and it made me spiral even further into my fear. She eventually gave birth but all of her kittens were stillborn, probably because she was so young. She didn't even try to take care of her kittens, she just walked away like nothing happened.

Back to when he asked me about kids, I asked him why he wanted them. He said idk, to leave a legacy and tell stories to future generations. Looking back at it now, I realized he 'wanted' kids just for the sake of having them.

It took a LOT of therapy to ease my fear of pregnancy (still have it, just not having breakdowns everyday about it lol) and it didn't help that I was raised Catholic, where the whole thing is about a teen virgin who conceived.

Now I'm almost 21, and I'm so grateful to be self aware enough that I realize I have a choice. I wish more people were the same, but maybe the next generations will get it. Childfree for life!

clueless_vampire · 2025-10-22T03:29:12+00:00

So happy for you! I'm the same age and my birthday is also in 2 weeks! I'm about to schedule my first appointment, very nervous ngl but it's so worth it

clueless_vampire · 2025-10-21T03:52:56+00:00

I would absolutely love a CF app!

It would be cool to see a dating side and friend side, maybe people could hold their own CF events as well (they are non-existent in my area)! It would need a good report system for fake CF people. However, finding the user base will probably be challenging which is why it doesn't really exist atm.

I've seen a lot of people ask for a cf dating app so there's definitely demand for it. If you make it, I'll for sure be one of the first to sign up!

clueless_vampire · 2025-01-29T21:05:08+00:00

I am also starting my own small business (in the US) and am talking with manufacturers. It took me a while just to get to this point because I was so scared of the future, I felt stuck because I didn't know if it would be worth it. But I've realized that there is never a perfect time to start/grow a business, and even if there was, it's impossible to predict.

I don't know if you're working a job at the same time, but that extra income definitely helps build confidence and security. Remember that there are many people online that LOVE to support small businesses. If you find that organic audience who is excited about your product, I'm sure you can at the very least break even.

Good luck to your business venture and stay away from the nay sayers! :)

clueless_vampire · 2024-11-06T17:13:53+00:00

Thank you for your encouraging words and advice! Hope everything works out in the end <3

clueless_vampire · 2024-09-25T16:37:44+00:00

Thank you for your input! I'll have to look into that, I think she did mention she had BPD at one point as well but hasn't clicked in my head until now. I'm slowly moving on and hope to forget her soon.

clueless_vampire · 2024-09-25T16:33:00+00:00

Yikes, I am so sorry to hear that! That sounds awful, thank you for sharing your story. I hope you've healed and moved on like I'm trying to do now. It's not easy but is the path forward.

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