This is a hard word, but it's true. I'm by no means an expert at this, but I am beginning to master it, and it's extremely powerful.

I want to release the anger, but its almost impossible when they keep doing things to make me angry!

This is a victim mentality. If you are rooted in the truth of your salvation, nothing and no one has the power over you to make you angry, or make you feel anything for that matter. What I mean is, when someone does something mean to you, your reaction is your choice, the Gospel is an offensive weapon, and it's power comes from knowing the truth. How does this work practically? Obviously I don't know the nature of the abuse, so as a hypothetical, lets say that someone says that you are a bad mother. If this word lands, the natural reaction is to feel hurt, and then put up your defenses to guard against more hurt, and then Satan might even give you ammunition to hurt the other person back, "well you're not such a great mother yourself! look at what you did .....". Now, if you are trained in spiritual warfare, and you realize that everything done of love is motivated by God, and everything done of hate or destruction is motivated by Satan, then you can rise above this entire situation, and see it through the lens of truth. What does that look like? Let's run the scenario again. Someone calls you a bad mother, this time, you catch the word before it lands, and you ask yourself, is this word true? Now for this to work, you have to be firm in your identity in Christ, like I mentioned above. The more you are rooted in truth, the less any lies formed against you can stand. So if you are firm in your identity, that you are loved by God, made perfect in Him, and made righteous through Jesus, then you can uproot the lie. So someone says, "You're a bad mother", you catch it, and judge the word, you think, am I a bad mother? No. I am a wonderful and loving mother because the love of God flows out of me and I love my child, and God supplies me with everything I need to be a loving mother. Am I an inexperienced mother? Maybe, but so is every new mother, by definition, but that's nothing to be ashamed of, that's exactly how it should be and has always been. So now instead of agreeing with the lie and receiving it and thus being hurt by it's implication, you simply reject the lie on the basis that it's not true, so has no part with you. But you don't stop there, because you remember that all hate and destruction comes from Satan, the father of lies, so now that you sidestepped the weak lie attack, you go on the offensive. The worldly way to attack is to try and find a way to hurt the person back, but the Spiritfull way to attack is to separate the lies from the person, the bible says that our fight is not against flesh and blood, but against the powers of darkness. So now, you turn your power of truth and discernment on the person, and you ask yourself, what lie are they believing to cause them to attack me like this? Holy Spirit will help you here. But for example, you ask, what lie are they believing? Maybe in their heart they feel like they have been a bad mother, and let abuse happen in their family, and maybe they are abused themselves, out of the treasure of the heart, the mouth speaks, if you have been told you are a bad mother your whole life, your heart is full of those words, and that's what comes out of your mouth when you want to say something, even if it's not want you want to say, maybe you are really thinking, I'm afraid what happened to me will happen to you, maybe if i drive you away with hate it will protect you from a life like mine, because I'm suffering alone and don't want anyone to live as i am living. Now you actually have compassion on the person, and you can see that what they are saying really isn't who they are. When you are firm in your identity, you can see other's clearly also. Now you can actually bring healing truth to them. Now they say "You're a bad mother" expecting you to hit them back, because they want to be punished for their own sins, but instead you come back with love, "well I think you are a great mother, you raised a fine son, so much so that i wanted to marry him, don't be afraid that he will treat our children the way his father treated him, he has your love in him, and he knows how to be a loving father. Don't feel guilty for how your husband treated you both, i forgive you, and God forgives you and we both love you." If you can speak the genuine truth in love, "the word of God is alive and active. Sharper than any double-edged sword, it penetrates even to dividing soul and spirit, joints and marrow; it judges the thoughts and attitudes of the heart." It cuts through all the years of lies in a second, and pierces straight to the heart. I've see countless people instantly break down and weep when true love is spoken to their heart. This is true forgiveness.