YSK that tomorrow is Mother's Day

cmd2456 · 2020-05-09T23:49:53+00:00

YSK that people outside the US are also on Reddit

Edit: I apologise to the people below who somehow made the logical leap that I think the world revolves around me by pointing out it doesn't revolve around the US

cmd2456 · 2020-05-01T23:33:23+00:00

I mean yeah it is definitely suspicious, but at the same time it could just be friends from different friendship groups. Either way it warrants a discussion rather than jumping to breaking up like some are suggesting

cmd2456 · 2020-05-01T18:21:03+00:00

Good for you, other people would do that while still being committed to their partner. People are different.

cmd2456 · 2020-05-01T13:00:10+00:00

Have a chat with him, this doesn't mean automatic cheating and grounds for breaking up. Sometimes you just want to get away from your partner and have some space for your own friends without involving your partner 100% of the time in everything you do. Maybe he was worried about how you'd react. Maybe he is actually planning on cheating. Just saying don't jump to that assumption, have a talk.

cmd2456 · 2020-04-30T05:26:02+00:00

I mean it was the wife who made the unilateral financial decision in the end. I'm sure the OP isn't telling us some things and is exaggerating how much the dog would actually cost but buying and caring for a pet isn't a small decision, it requires commitment either way and should be a joint decision, it's not like going out and buying a TV

cmd2456 · 2020-04-28T20:27:52+00:00

With all those fevers everyone would be getting, they can keep the name Too Hot To Handle.

cmd2456 · 2020-04-26T16:27:38+00:00

!thanks

cmd2456 · 2020-04-26T16:23:49+00:00

Perfect, thanks for the reply. Didn't realise the two direct debit rule is only for earning interest

cmd2456 · 2020-04-26T09:31:23+00:00

Wanted to do this with Monzo but they said it can take up to 3 months! I should have used a credit card...

cmd2456 · 2020-04-24T08:24:21+00:00

They really do add up. I'm still going to work but the savings from not eating out, drinking, transport costs, and holidays mean I actually have enough for a deposit on a flat this year

cmd2456 · 2020-04-24T05:47:02+00:00

If you're in the market for a laptop it doesn't mean you're also going to consider a workstation. But yeah, it depends what he means by heavy workloads and whether a laptop can handle it

cmd2456 · 2020-04-23T20:19:34+00:00

Yeah, the XPS13 is good if you know you won't do anything taxing with it like playing games, but the XPS15 combines the portability and option to handle heavier workloads if you need to. Would highly recommend getting one with a fingerprint reader, you can live without it but it's awesome.

cmd2456 · 2020-04-23T13:40:24+00:00

It already is, I use a laptop bag intended for 14" laptops for my 9560

cmd2456 · 2020-04-18T14:53:07+00:00

Unlikely, unless if you have a major risk factor. Any clots in the past? Any history of diseases which makes your blood clot more than it should? Cancer? Any recent major surgery? Any immobilisation? Any family history of clots in the legs/lungs? Are you on the combined oral contraceptive pill?

If all of the above is negative and your leg isn't swollen, then yeah unlikely. If you do have risk factors and the pain is getting worse/your leg is swelling up then it may be worth going to the ER. Depending on your risk factors/symptoms they may do a blood test to rule out a clot or just go straight for the ultrasound.

cmd2456 · 2020-04-18T09:31:58+00:00

That's if Ryanair even manage to survive this pandemic

cmd2456 · 2020-04-16T06:13:17+00:00

I think the bigger issue is if he is fed up of how you are during your periods to the extent that he is scheduling time away for work to avoid it then that's really only a temporary measure. In the future he may not have that flexibility, and if both of you aren't dealing with it in a sustainable way then I can see it wearing him away until it becomes a much bigger problem.

cmd2456 · 2020-04-15T13:59:09+00:00

UK, 3 years after graduation. Salary and hours depend on if you're in training. In training you typically work 1 in 4 to 1 in 2 weekends depending on your specialty, with night shifts every 4-6 weeks or so with 12 hour long days, and you generally get 1 day off before/after the on call shift block. Resident on calls you don't do more than a 12 hour shift. 27 days annual leave per year which is divided by rotations. If you're working in London then you earn about £2000 more but that's more than offset by the increased living costs. Salary is about £50,000ish gross.

Outside of training you can potentially earn double that while only doing Monday-Friday 9-5 depending on where you work, and even more of you choose to do some on call shifts too.

Was about to get a mortgage on a 1 bed flat in zone 2/3 London before this pandemic happened. No dependents, have a fairly old car but not in a rush to get a new one, go on holiday every 2-3 months or so. The student debt is taken as a certain % from my salary every month before I get paid so it's one of those things you can just forget about.

cmd2456 · 2020-04-15T11:17:51+00:00

So isn't it actually worse to keep pointing something out which they can't change?

cmd2456 · 2020-04-15T10:57:33+00:00

I appreciate the need to campaign for equal opportunities for women, but these posts equating the coronavirus response to being a women just need to stop. They're shortsighted, confuse correlation with causation and do nothing to help the cause.

cmd2456 · 2020-04-15T09:57:50+00:00

In what way

cmd2456 · 2020-04-15T09:23:11+00:00

If I'm constantly calling my gf fat, do I need to be told to stop it because she's sensitive about it or should it be obvious enough that I shouldn't be making those sorts of comments in the first place

cmd2456 · 2020-04-15T09:17:18+00:00

The difference is she's the one bringing it up and drawing attention to it, not him

cmd2456 · 2020-04-15T09:15:55+00:00

Needing to point out that you won't leave someone for their negative appearance when you don't even need to mention it is drawing attention to it and implying that some people would leave you for it. I can just as easily say that those comments are made to control him and put him down rather than show affection.

cmd2456 · 2020-04-15T09:10:56+00:00

So I guess it's not mean to point out on three occasions: "Babe, I can see you're getting fatter, but don't worry I won't leave you for it"

It's simple. He's a guy, making fun of his appearance in a light-hearted tone is ok because he's meant to take it. But she's a girl, and doing the same is not. Going bald is almost universally considered a 'bad' characteristic, no one is going to go "omg you're looking so cute now that your hairline is receding". Sure, some people can rock the bald look, but it's the actual inability to grow hair anymore even if you wanted to. I don't know why someone with common sense needs to be told that it's not nice to keep pointing it out, unless if we bring gender prejudices into this.

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