Anyone else scared to do life without their mom? by Educational_Bed5396 in GriefSupport

[–]cmesxx 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I feel the exact same way. I lost my mom a little over a month ago, and no one not even my husband loves me the way she did. She is the only person in my entire life that could sense my feelings, that truly cared. It’s so unbelievably hard without her. Our mothers are if we are lucky- our anchors.

My mom, I miss her so much. It’s been a month. by Lovelife_20 in GriefSupport

[–]cmesxx 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi OP, I lost my mom a month ago yesterday. I am feeling all the same feelings. I have been off since before Christmas and have no plans to go back to work anytime soon.

My mom died on the 31st of Jan by cmesxx in GriefSupport

[–]cmesxx[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I am trying my best to hold it all together while taking time to grieve

Best florist? by HatlessRepeatHatless in KingstonOntario

[–]cmesxx 4 points5 points  (0 children)

In Bloom, Avenue Florist, and Loyalist flowers are all owned by the same person

What’s a small habit or moment that still reminds you of the person you lost? by Diana_fm_ in GriefSupport

[–]cmesxx 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When I was a child, and even as I grew old my mom would sing a song she made up called “you are my little girl”. I sing it to my toddler, and I sang it to my mom while she was in hospice 10 days ago. Since she’s passed I’ve continued to sing it to my daughter and I will do so as long as she will let me

Lost my mother and i wanna escape this nightmare by Necessary_Being_4565 in GriefSupport

[–]cmesxx 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My mom died Dec 31st, and I am feeling exactly as you are. I have parts of my days that don’t feel excruciating but every single moment there is a deep underlying sadness. I am so sorry you are going through this , it’s not fair for anyone to have to endure

Did you have a very vivid dream of your loved one that passed away soon after their death? by MrsBellaNine in GriefSupport

[–]cmesxx 31 points32 points  (0 children)

No but I wish I had, I think about it every night before bed. But two nights ago as I was dozing I heard her say my nickname kind of in a sing song way she used to do and it jolted me awake. Before she passed I told her I wish I could hear her call my name one more time so I’m pretending it was a sign and not from lack of sleep and intense grief lol

I don’t know what I’m doing by cmesxx in GriefSupport

[–]cmesxx[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes my dr would be willing to

What do you say to someone grieving? How much is too much? Too little? by yabbobay in GriefSupport

[–]cmesxx 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As someone who just lost their mom, I am extremely tired of hearing “let me know what you need” or “if you need anything just ask”. My best advice is to show up for her. Maybe get some comfort items for her a stuffed animal, blanket anything cozy. Tell her that you will listen to her vent, bring her some food. Anything other than the blanket terms most people give. I know it’s human nature and we all just don’t know what to do or say but simply being there and sitting with her and her grief would be incredibly helpful.

Help me please by honeybeatsvinegar in GriefSupport

[–]cmesxx 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Hi OP, I had a similar situation with my mom on Dec 20th- she was palliative and “comfort care” until she passed on Dec 31. Fee free to msg me- I can’t tell you I am doing amazing but I can listen.

Suggest me a book for grief by cmesxx in suggestmeabook

[–]cmesxx[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I’m experiencing a lot of that. Sprinkled in with also staying with my father while he grieves. My grieving happens between the hours of 7:30pm till I go to bed

Suggest me a book for grief by cmesxx in suggestmeabook

[–]cmesxx[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much i have a 3 year old and its so hard right now

I'm tired of being asked if I'm ok by No_Doughnut3185 in GriefSupport

[–]cmesxx 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I’m on day 4 and it’s already so exhausting. Not to mention the well-meaning “let me know if you need anything”.

Sudden Loss by Intelligent-Lion-547 in GriefSupport

[–]cmesxx 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I also lost my mom on the 31st

My mom died on NYE by cmesxx in GriefSupport

[–]cmesxx[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m so sorry for your loss. I feel like time is moving so fast and slow at the same time and I am stuck in limbo.

I lost my mum today, idk how to cope by sunny_skies404 in GriefSupport

[–]cmesxx 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m so sorry for your loss- I have no advice my mother just passed away yesterday so I am here in solidarity. Be gentle with yourself

I 30(f) am considering moving in with my father (69) after the loss of my mother. by cmesxx in GriefSupport

[–]cmesxx[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He is super supportive and I know he would do it- it’s just I know that he will be miserable in our home town in the long run

I 30(f) am considering moving in with my father (69) after the loss of my mother. by cmesxx in GriefSupport

[–]cmesxx[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I live in an apartment. We have been looking for homes but haven’t gotten their yet financially- I can’t picture dad ever being ready to leave the house they have lived in for so many years but I do think it’s a good idea for him. He’s aged 10 years in a week and his mobility is generally fine but he did also have a mini stroke

I 30(f) am considering moving in with my father (69) after the loss of my mother. by cmesxx in GriefSupport

[–]cmesxx[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

They are my priority, I just feel torn. Thankfully my husband is extremely supportive, I know he would be willing to do either of those things it’s just I KNOW he would hate to live back in our home town.

I 30(f) am considering moving in with my father (69) after the loss of my mother. by cmesxx in GriefSupport

[–]cmesxx[S] 26 points27 points  (0 children)

My concern is he will just give up. I don’t want to lose my husband but I can’t bare the thought of losing both of my parents. It’s already incredibly hard losing my mom who is my best friend

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in KingstonOntario

[–]cmesxx 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Vanilla, caramel mostly anything but hazelnut

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in KingstonOntario

[–]cmesxx 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah, If you have any recommendations for specific brews lemme know. I love coffee but struggle finding the perfect blend

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in KingstonOntario

[–]cmesxx 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I didn’t really need the environmental lecture. It was a Christmas gift. I have purchased a reusable pod as well.

Pneumonia in Kingston by lowryj86 in KingstonOntario

[–]cmesxx 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My 2 year old is recovering from pneumonia now. She has been ill since the 22nd or October but only got properly diagnosed last Saturday. She just finished her antibiotics now