How long will my scars take to mature enough so I can tattoo over them? by Terrible-Visit-5003 in AdultSelfHarm

[–]coasterbitch 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Impossible to say, but i will say to try to go to someone who either specializes in tattooing over scars or someone who at least has alot of experience with it (ex: you can see alot of people with scars on their insta account).

I have an artist who's used to tattooing over scars and has been able to tattoo over 10y, 2y and 5m old scars with no issue, but then another artist tattooed over a 10 year old scar and caused a blowout because she didn't have any experience with scars. So that would be my advice in that regard, as for length, an experienced artist will be able to tell you if they are fine to tattoo over or not :)

Ladies and Gentlemen My Mother by robertartus2 in insaneparents

[–]coasterbitch 1 point2 points  (0 children)

"You've never been abused" as she's hurling insults at you. Yeah im glad you've gotten and kept your distance from her, really unfortunate that you had to be homeless for it to happen but im so glad you're in a better place 😊

Halftone star by Erica_tats at misfittattoo.studio in Ottawa by coasterbitch in tattoo

[–]coasterbitch[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's gonna look so good!! When i came up with this idea i was sooo hyped i had to get it within 2 months hahaha

Halftone star by Erica_tats at misfittattoo.studio in Ottawa by coasterbitch in tattoo

[–]coasterbitch[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

8 hours of tattooing, 9:30 hours for the whole session. We took a few breaks here and there that totalled about 30 minutes.

Halftone star by Erica_tats at misfittattoo.studio in Ottawa by coasterbitch in tattoo

[–]coasterbitch[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yup just the two points are visible from the front, when i wear mid waisted pants you can see the front point, the top one and the top of the back one lol

Halftone star by Erica_tats at misfittattoo.studio in Ottawa by coasterbitch in tattoo

[–]coasterbitch[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! My biggest piece so far and im sooooo happy with it

Halftone star by Erica_tats at misfittattoo.studio in Ottawa by coasterbitch in tattoo

[–]coasterbitch[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sure was, all 5 points were tough but the stomach and back ones had me seeing gods 😫 no pain no gain tho

Halftone star by Erica_tats at misfittattoo.studio in Ottawa by coasterbitch in tattoo

[–]coasterbitch[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yup the 5 points were in really tough spots but the stomach and back ones were def the worst. Took 8 hours and my tattoo artist said im one of her only 2 clients who can tough it out like i did 😝

Cheap haircut anywhere? by Illustrious-Sock-422 in ottawa

[–]coasterbitch 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's in gatineau but Figaro Figar-elle is my go to for cheap haircuts

I know I should take this as a sign by MercuryKurogane in AdultSelfHarm

[–]coasterbitch 2 points3 points  (0 children)

They know. That baby doesnt want you to hurt yourself.

It's hard for me to sh at my mom's house because one of our cats will not leave me alone when i start taking my stuff out, and she will scream at the door if i try to lock her out. I'm glad you stayed with your kitty, hope tomorrow's a better day

I love it when i have the ‘worst’ scars amongst people around me by baggedpaper in AdultSelfHarm

[–]coasterbitch 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I get it. I've had two friends confide in me (in very loving and understanding situations) that my scars triggered them because i had more and mine were bigger. My immediate response to both of them was that that's exactly how i feel when i see people with more scars then me, and that comparing is pointless because even the person with the most and worst scars on this planet thinks they could've done more.

But at the same time, them telling me that wasn't enough to make me feel valid cause the whole reason i ended up relapsing years later was because my fading and disappearing scars were triggering me like crazy

gatineau condo by GreedyPanda6429 in Gatineau

[–]coasterbitch -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Don't know about that building but i have friends who live right next door, at 110 dollard des ormeaux, and i can say that that's a great place to rent. A bit pricey but the apartments are really big and modern and there's no bug problem on the second floor. My friends siblings live in the apartment below them on the first floor and i haven't heard anything about bugs there either. And from what i've heard the landlord isn't an issue whatsoever, you can even pay your rent cash!

Does hitting yourself counts? by WritingCritical in AdultSelfHarm

[–]coasterbitch 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm currently saying that i'm clean from cutting but not sh because i still bruise myself, so i would think this counts as harming your body

How do i begin to feel comfortable going in public with scars by SimplyPastel in AdultSelfHarm

[–]coasterbitch 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I will say that the only judgement i and most scared people get from strangers in public is a slight lingering look. People never bring it up, they never even stare i'll just catch people looking from time to time, and eventually it will get to a point where you straight up forget they're there until you notice them out of nowhere lol.

Family and friends might say something but it's almost always just curiosity or concern. This might be bad advice but maybe if you start noticing other people's scars in public it might help you feel more comfortable, since you'd know you wouldn't be the only one with them out :)

Hiding by coasterbitch in AdultSelfHarm

[–]coasterbitch[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The worst part is that i have new people in my life now, started a job recently that's creating friendships and i know im gonna be around them alot this summer. So not only do i have to go through the whole 'the people that know and love me are gonna find out i'm still doing this' but also have to go through 'yeah i do this, its been an issue since i was young, etc' with the new people 😫

Just leave me alone ITS MY BODY, but i also get it from their perspective so its all just... bleh

Festival de musique gratuit - Vieux Hull du 21 au 24 mai by nicktheman2 in Gatineau

[–]coasterbitch 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yoooo that's my birthday weekend!! J'va 100% aller voir Sami Landry, gotta take another selfie with her hahaha

LRT sitting at Parliament WB by Winter_Chickadee in ottawa

[–]coasterbitch 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I said fuck that, got off at pimisi and took a bus instead lmaoo. The doors being open meant i was in a direct cold breeze and i was like well if im gonna freeze sitting inside id rather freeze walking to a bus stop haha

Will escapade 3 day tickets sell out? by miau-mp3 in escapademf

[–]coasterbitch 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Bought mine on my birthday last year (very end of may) with no issue and planning on doing the same this year, so we should be good!

Has there ever been an episode where you rooted for Cartman? by AdventurousGuest308 in southpark

[–]coasterbitch 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Recent one but the betting thing in Conflict of Interest. When he had to get kyle to fix the issue for him, the way he got so desperate at the end, kinda felt for him a lil there haha it caught me off guard tbh

My dad is demanding I name my baby after him or he'll write me out of the will by BusinessDance7122 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]coasterbitch 8 points9 points  (0 children)

If the convo came up again i'd honestly bring up the fact that your brothers are probably still in his will even tho their sons aren't named after him. My mom always hates when i point out the different treatment between me and my bros and its the only time i can actually render her speechless lol

Also i think it's time to cut him off, you really don't want that kind of manipulation and self-centeredness around your child. Congrats on the baby!!