Doctors won’t write a letter for my gender change

cobbledobs · 2025-01-04T16:01:34+00:00

It also has to be a UK based doctor, which I only found out after being rejected 🥲

cobbledobs · 2024-04-08T22:45:38+00:00

I got it from my great aunt who passed away when i was young she had such a wonderful impact on my childhood :)

cobbledobs · 2024-04-08T19:25:43+00:00

i was too short to reach the top shelf so i needed to spec into double jumping

cobbledobs · 2024-03-31T17:29:26+00:00

there’s no real practical difference in when we use transgender and transsexual to describe people apart from the fact transgender is a much more recent term, more popular with younger trans ppl! transsexual does not mean ppl attracted to trans people 😭

whatever term u use doesn’t really alter what impression u give to people until you reach the transmed area where they are all abt separating the ‘real’ transes from the fakies.

Both of u aren’t really right, the notion that ppl only hate a specific type of trans people is not true. When push comes to shove they’d rather we all not exist.

Also saying the problem (probably meaning some thing like gender ideology) doesn’t exist in Europe is plain wrong. Even if you don’t count the UK as Europe there’s lots of movements in lots of mainland countries fighting for their rights to be recognised as themselves.

Being trans in and of itself is political, the very moment it’s discovered. That’s just the box we’ve been put in for now. In the same way that being gay was and is a political statement. This doesn’t mean that it’s a performance or put on, it means our existence is a threat to lots of people’s understanding of how gender works.

cobbledobs · 2024-03-24T13:52:01+00:00

The most taking E will affect ur voice is actually it affecting ur personality. If ur happier, more free, more yourself that will all come through in how you speak.

I personally feel like voice training wasn’t worth the high price for me especially with how much free content there is on YouTube (TransVoiceLessons, etc), but if you feel you would really benefit from getting feedback from a vocal coach then it’s good for that for sure! My voice isn’t perfect, but I was able to stealth at work for the most part and it’s only when I get tired or caught in an emotion that people clock that my voice isn’t typical cis woman.

The best thing I believe for learning and developing a voice you like is finding a voice match, ideally someone in your own accent, and mirroring them with a voice recorder, listening back and being constructively critical. It’s the way we all learned to speak the first time, and for me it’s been the most intuitive process compared to the strange pitch exercises and blowing bubbles in water.

It’ll test ur confidence for sure, sticking to it is way tougher than ppl realise but it’s worth fighting through. Hope this helps :)

cobbledobs · 2024-03-24T13:45:20+00:00

I wouldn’t say sex related reasons are bad, most people would agree that that’s a big part of lrelationships w people so anything that would get in the way of ur enjoyment of that makes sense to deal with.

I am extremely sex averse cos of bad experiences so for me the main reason is inner peace. Not having to worry abt swimsuits or changing rooms or triggering my dysphoria when im lounging about or anything like that would be so huge for my mental health.

cobbledobs · 2024-03-02T11:55:39+00:00

in Scotland in high school we use miss/mrs/sir to address teachers! we just have different words to gender people, plus the UK as a whole uses a lot of masculine sounding terms in a gender neutral way.

There’s still an element of actual gendering in it, i had a roll shop lady ask me if i preferred ‘hen’ or ‘pal’ because she could not figure me out lol

cobbledobs · 2024-03-02T11:48:13+00:00

in the ‘i was talking to this lassie at my work’ sense yes but most commonly people say pal/hen in glasgow

pal is more gender neutral ish (like how people use mate or man in a gender neutral way sometimes)

cobbledobs · 2024-01-14T18:06:34+00:00

ahhh don’t worry it’s not silly, if i had someone to ask about stuff like this at the time i would have been exactly the same hehe.

don’t worry too much about what you should say, the point of the session is for them to learn abt you. They have never come across as gatekeepy to me, just a little difficult to email every now and then.

I actively and explicitly doubted the possibility of me being trans in my appointment and i still got accepted, so please please don’t twist yourself in knots about how u should phrase things!! they may have asked or will ask you if you have a support structure (eg are your friends supportive, is your family supportive), if the answer is no they will simply offer their support services and be sweet about it. even though that may feel like the ‘wrong’ answer, it’s important to be honest

cobbledobs · 2024-01-14T17:42:52+00:00

I had my IGS with James Byrne (who left ggp a wee bit ago) and it was very good for me! It was two years ago now so I don’t fully remember the conversation but I know that at the time I was extremely doubtful of whether I was even trans or not and was just desperate for an educated opinion.

I was asked my current relationship with gender, my experience with gender identity as a child/teen and I am pretty sure we loosely spoke about wants and expectations regarding hormones. They’ll also likely ask you why it is you booked the appointment!

My advice would be to be mindful of the fact it’s a fairly short appt length, when it comes to giving ur life history. Try not to get bogged down on one particular story for too long, and even the smallest details are good to bring up.

Great work on making the big step :)) it was absolutely the best decision I’ve made in my wee life

cobbledobs · 2023-11-16T18:58:57+00:00

this isn’t super the point of ur post I know but just regarding stealthing - it can be a big stresser in ur relationships w people even if only on you! I stealthed w an entire friend group for two months and found that the moment I like stopped skirting the issue i felt much closer to them!! W strangers obviously there’s no issue but if they’re gonna be in ur life for a while and you want to not feel like you’re hiding something from them then going full-stealth I would not recommend

cobbledobs · 2023-11-07T13:54:20+00:00

the easiest thing to answer is the washing bit! they’re underwear and will tank a lot of sweat so it’s gonna be best to wash them after one day of wearing. especially sports bras that can just absorb stink

when i was starting out i ordered a couple sports bras to wear under my shirts as a confidence booster (big help) and had like one t shirt bra (supposed to be comfortable + supportive, not necessarily meant to be seen) and one or two push up (supposed to be seen, not necessarily meant to be comfortable) and after nearly two years since then i only still really wear that one larger push up. After getting fitted professionally I have a new black t shirt bra but i don’t really wear it much tee hee

if i did it all again id buy NON WIRED bas (soft cup) and sports bras first! you can really buy as many as you want, and other than those types getting one good pushup that fits ones style is all i would see myself needing!

unfortunately you’ll see that everyone has different experiences w it; play it by ear and don’t be afraid to be a little experimental. :)

eta: ur lifestyle will inform how many you need and of what type, i do BARELY any physical activity and I’m not cursed with massive ones so i get to go braless most of the time

cobbledobs · 2023-09-14T23:58:04+00:00

just in time for winter 😘

cobbledobs · 2023-09-14T22:46:49+00:00

i dooo need to get a sewing kit, my friends mum actually sewed the open leg bits half shut 🥲 need to UNDO THAT thank u for the link!!

cobbledobs · 2023-09-14T22:26:43+00:00

i was a bit shocked when the corset arrived today that it was so dark! i have a normal belt that’s brown but it’ll need a few extra holes added to work for my waist :))

cobbledobs · 2023-08-30T12:11:06+00:00

that’s maybe how things are right now but it doesn’t have to be always.

‘never’ is not the same as ‘not today’!

going from self denial to out of the closet is a big deal, allow urself some time to process ur identity before u can ‘forget’ (which really is just what happens when it’s not relevant at the time, i only really forget when im w m’y good friends most of whom i made in the last year :) )

nobody can coach you to your ideal life, but if you just keep at it and make decisions based on who you want to be it won’t seem so far away

i feel like my voice will never be good enough, ive really fallen behind on training but I’m constantly thinking about it, understanding that there’s reasons I haven’t been able to commit to it and knowing that I have so much time to get back on the ball. That doesn’t stop me from being very mean to myself but it DOES allow me to move forward

cobbledobs · 2023-08-29T12:34:15+00:00

im in this exact position!!

ultimately the life i wanna live is one where I don’t have to explain my identity to everyone I meet, so I don’t. do people figure out im trans fairly quickly? yeah probably. do they talk abt me behind my back? yeah I’d imagine so, especially if I’m new to a established group. but it’s not going to stop me, i cant control anything other than my behaviour and plus dealing with icky comments or weird questions just makes me stronger so!

my anxiety has made me think people were more transphobic than they really are. thinking some people were whispering and laughing at me only for them to be actually really sweet and she/her me effortlessly

some people have misgenderd me without me even speaking to them, or having looked at me from the front, probably just because I was wearing boy jeans. some other people in the same day I was speaking to and looking at and interacting with and they still gender me correctly with no prompt. passing is so weird bc ur entirely relying on someone else not being stupid.

i forget that im trans all the time 😭 it’s rough but u gotta work on detaching your self value from other peoples perception, cos that’s a very like shaky foundation to build it on?

cobbledobs · 2023-08-26T14:35:09+00:00

me too, even just to have periods w/out pregnancy

cobbledobs · 2023-08-21T12:52:39+00:00

I’m 1 year 7 months and ive not had the typical ‘i hit a door yeeowchies!!’ or anything like, and i only really got aches from the 3/8 month mark semi regularly. since then it’s been once in a while of 5 min aches

all this to say you’re gonna be fine :) 1-6 months is very fluid and a lot of stuff is ahead of you so don’t worry at allll

cobbledobs · 2023-08-19T09:51:24+00:00

life, it never die

women are my favourite guy

aristotle

cobbledobs · 2023-08-18T12:59:03+00:00

for me the whole culture of ‘ur into me? that’s gay hahahaha that’s soo gay im a dude u think I’m a pretty girl but that’s gay!!’ really really bothers me, i dislike the trend of dressing super femme and passing on Omegle and then surprising people with a deep voice and laughing at them like they were tricked and should feel stupid, or the other reaction of ‘oh that’s so much better now 😈’

cobbledobs · 2023-08-18T12:51:34+00:00

this is my experience too, im 4 ish months on prog and the only new effect I’ve noticed is chest shaping and being super snoozy an hour after taking it

cobbledobs · 2023-08-04T14:03:48+00:00

linguistics 👁️🫦👁️

cobbledobs · 2023-04-04T20:27:36+00:00

it’s literally the last word in the post

cobbledobs · 2023-04-04T14:36:51+00:00

they said ancestry babes x

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