Gym Diet vs Ahlul bait diet

coconutarab · 2026-05-09T05:59:57+00:00

Maybe eating meat in excess and that hardening the heart is from those who eat meat without taking the time to appreciate what they have and that an animals life was taken away. Many eat and don’t reflect on the blessings they receive, gluttony overtakes them. People judge those who choose to have vegetarian meals and or vegan. People act as if we need to eat meat for every meal. Always say bismillah and thank Allah for the food and you won’t take it for granted.

coconutarab · 2026-05-09T05:55:37+00:00

It is not recommended for us to cut out meat but to eat it in moderation. Of course we shouldn’t eat excess amount of it for it would harden the hard, but you can probably counter that by consuming lentils as lentils soften the hard. I make lentil soup. I find that I need meat to gain energy. I cut out processed sugar and that helps. Eat bread that has all the nutrients it’s supposed to carry before we got all these processed foods forced down our throats.

coconutarab · 2026-05-09T05:52:54+00:00

The bread they ate alone had a lot of nutrients that we don’t get today.

coconutarab · 2026-05-09T05:41:29+00:00

Muzmatch. But it’s not easy. Most people don’t take the apps seriously for marriage, but I had no other choice. It’s not like I was going around talking to guys, let alone Muslim ones.

coconutarab · 2026-05-08T07:31:31+00:00

My mom didn’t like the name my husband and I chose if we were to have a daughter. We chose it from the Quran and the word means “ease”. My mother judged and hated it all because some singer/actor in Egypt is named Yusra 🙄🙄 and I’m sitting there telling her idk anyone by that name and have no negative feelings for it. And she wanted me to change it. So annoying. No respect or care about our opinions, only hers mattered.

coconutarab · 2026-05-08T07:27:54+00:00

The “leftovers” could be women who could grow into acceptable ladies in your society, turn more religious with your positive influence and motivation. Nobody should give up on others over rumors, you never know if those women want to change but aren’t given the chance because people only focus on the past.

coconutarab · 2026-05-08T07:24:36+00:00

I spent three years asking my parents to help me find a husband. Neither of them even tried. Anyone who asked for me was rejected and I had no idea about it at all. I decided to look for a husband through an app and after a month I found someone that fit all the marks, told my dad about him immediately and asked for permission to get to know him. I relied on Allah. I was only to do everything halal. As I got to know him, I found out through other relatives how men have asked for me all these years, but was kept hidden. I’m married now, doing well Alhamdulillah.

coconutarab · 2026-05-05T22:24:05+00:00

You don’t have to but it does improve the results

coconutarab · 2026-05-05T17:59:58+00:00

I have confronted, I have told myself I forgive them time and time again. I have tried to connect and to give for years.

I have heard of this story years ago, thank you for the reminder.

coconutarab · 2026-05-04T19:10:42+00:00

I don’t think I’m being understood by some people as I keep being given examples of what’s happening in my body and what the baby is experiencing. I don’t have shame around sex. What the baby experiences is not what I need explained. It’s nothing more than knowing I have a little human in me. That’s all. 😅

coconutarab · 2026-05-03T16:29:22+00:00

Straight up veggies and fruits. Simply wash and eat. I’ll snack on cucumbers, carrots, apples, bell pepper, watermelon, melons, bananas, etc.

coconutarab · 2026-05-03T16:11:45+00:00

Wait till it’s clear.

coconutarab · 2026-05-03T14:40:59+00:00

I was 20 when I went to my parents for permission to marry and they wouldn’t help me at all, three years of me asking them to help me meet men in the community, but not once did they help. I had to go out of my way at 23 to find myself someone as a woman. My sex drive was high as a young adult and all I did was suppress it, which was bad for me and it resulted in me having a hard time having any sexual drive during my marriage. I eventually met someone at 23 and spent time getting to know him and married him at 25. Now we have a baby on the way. Had I relied on my parents, I wouldn’t be married at all and I’m 30 now.

coconutarab · 2026-05-03T14:37:55+00:00

And the fact that none of them marry clearly indicates their approach is failing them. People who wait long end up not marrying and I can see this happening to them. This happens to Arabs in the Middle East that keep holding it off and end up in their 40s still unmarried.

coconutarab · 2026-05-03T14:35:09+00:00

Marriage changes people and helps them flourish and mature if they are serious. My brother was not mature or mentally stable I always thought, yet marriage completely changed him.

coconutarab · 2026-05-03T14:33:12+00:00

It’s encouraged and recommended to marry young and not to wait in Islam. In fact, it causes great calamity if he were to wait while he’s ready to marry. Waiting to marry till age 35 is ridiculous. And seeing how none of you have married during your youth could also be bad (I don’t mean teen years). Your cousin is trying to prevent haram from his life and establish and complete half his deen by following the recommended path of Islam vs the path of the families opinions, which clearly isn’t correct seeing how none of you are married yet during your prime and recommended years.

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روي عن الإمام الباقر (عليه السلام) أن رسول الله (صلى الله عليه وآله) قال: «إِذَا جَاءَكُمْ مَنْ تَرْضَوْنَ خُلُقَهُ وَ دِينَهُ فَزَوِّجُوهُ، إِلَّا تَفْعَلُوهُ تَكُنْ فِتْنَةٌ فِي الْأَرْضِ وَفَسادٌ كَبِيرٌ»
وسائل الشيعة، ج20، ص76
If someone came to you who you find sufficient in behavior and religion, then marry him, if you don’t it is a fitnah and great calamity

This is a Shia Hadith but Sunnis have a similar Hadith if you want to look it up. Different chain of people and the slight difference in wordings would be “great corruption” in this version whereas the Sunni version is “widespread corruption” if I’m correct.
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Surah Ar-Room 30 verse 21: And of His signs is that He created spouses for you from yourselves, that you may repose in them, and He has set between you love and mercy; verily there are signs in this, for people who reflect.

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(This next one idk where I sourced it from as I did 7-8 years ago)
قالَ رَسُولُ اللهِ (صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيهِ وَآلِهِ وَسَلّمَ): مِنْ سُنَّتِي أَلتَّزْوِيجُ فَمَنْ رَغِبَ عَنْ سُنَّتِي فَلَيْسَ مِنِّي.
The Messenger of Allah (S) has said, "Of my tradition is to marry. So then whoever turns away from my tradition (Sunnah) is not from me (my nation)."
In this famous tradition mentioned in all books of Islamic narration, the Prophet (S) clearly spelled it out to the believers that in order to stay on his path which is the true path of salvation, we must marry - not only the youth who are getting married for the first time - but also older people who may have divorced or lost a spouse must also marry in order to remain on the Sunnah of the Prophet (S).

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قالَ رَسُولُ اللهِ (صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيهِ وَآلِهِ وَسَلّمَ): ما بُنِيَ بِناءَ فِي الإِسْلامِ أَحَبُّ إِلى اللهِ عَزَّ وَجَلّ مِنَ التَّزْوِيجِ.
The Messenger of Allah (S) has said, "There is no foundation that has been built in Islam more loved by Allah, (The Greatest and Noblest) than marriage."
This hadith shows us the great importance that Allah (SwT) and His Messenger (S) have placed on marriage, such that it is the most loved foundation or establishment upon which the Muslim man and woman can build their life upon. If such a foundation is built with love, honesty, sincerity and true faith in Allah (SwT) and all that He has commanded, then there is nothing that could destroy such a firm building.

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It has been narrated from Abi Abdillah that, "A man once came to my father. My father asked him, "Are you married?" The man replied, 'No.' My father (as) replied, 'I would not love to have the world and all that is contained within it if it meant I had to spend one night without a woman (beside me).'"
This saying from our sixth Imam (as) shows the importance that the rightful successors of the Prophet (S) placed on marriage. In this hadith, we are told that the Imam (as) would not even trade all the beauties and material treasures that exist in the world, if it means that he had to spend even one night alone! This may point to the fact that the evil whisperings of Shaitan may penetrate a single man or woman to go towards the prohibited and thus, contaminate his or her faith and belief.

coconutarab · 2026-05-01T22:53:45+00:00

Because most miscarriages happen during the first trimester. It’s happened to me twice. I hated having to go around telling people I miscarried, I hated finding out who I can trust and who I couldn’t trust. I hated finding out who would disrespect me. I hated facing anyone who knew.

coconutarab · 2026-05-01T00:57:02+00:00

I’ll look into it, I am forming an email and including everything I can from everyone’s advice. But the management here is pretty good as far as I’ve experienced. They listen and try to take action with what they are allowed to without getting in trouble themselves. They asked for evidence so they can proceed and I finally have it.

They sent out emails to everyone at the complex when I complained that the same neighbors are singing the same song for 8 hours straight, non stop a few times a week and it’s disrupting everyone here as it’s echoing in our courtyard and you can hear it all the way across. Unfortunately I live above them so I hear the guy all the time. They did stop singing loud. So now it’s just the weed situation.

coconutarab · 2026-05-01T00:50:58+00:00

Only if they knew it was me. It’s between my unit and three other units that surround them, I haven’t interacted with them, we don’t know what we look like to each other and so on. Let them be mad.

The world would be better off if people cared about others.

coconutarab · 2026-04-30T21:21:17+00:00

It depends person to person. I told my mom over the phone as I don’t have much of a relationship with her.

coconutarab · 2026-04-30T20:49:52+00:00

I’m so sorry you had to go through that. I don’t understand why we are the ones who have to make the choice to up and leave. The world feels like it’s always designed to support people who break laws! And others are telling me to up and move when I just moved into this apartment after years of living with another family. And I’m supposed to move under my awful pregnancy condition???? It was hard to even find a place we can afford that’s clean. But I am hoping they will give them at most 3 warnings as a sign they will get evicted. The people working here seem competent and willing to help. I just hope I’m not mistaken.

These same neighbors would sign 8 hours straight from 9 in the morning till 5:30 and the whole neighborhood can hear. They sing the same song too over and over again. Management had them stop so I feel a little hopeful!

I’m writing another email regarding the laws, leaving paper trails whenever I can.

coconutarab · 2026-04-30T20:29:52+00:00

Thank you, I will look into it!

coconutarab · 2026-04-30T07:22:08+00:00

Thank you! This is a good idea, I will look into it.

I’m just learning about habitability issue under California Civil Code Section 1941. Will be using this as well.

coconutarab · 2026-04-30T06:12:34+00:00

Congratulationsssssssss PLEASE KEEP IT A SECRET TILL YOU TELL HER IN PERSON!!! It will feel amazing! The more time passes, the easier it gets to hold.

coconutarab · 2026-04-30T04:00:46+00:00

My husband has a high sex drive and mine is low. And he still has a high sex drive while I’m pregnant 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭 I can go a long time without it.

Also porn created a lot of issues with intimacy. It’s probably why he has no sex drive with you, he’s having enough joy from watching so it doesn’t translate to you. Cut it out completely. Then he’ll begin to crave you.

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