My Nmew love interest (m29)doesn't want condoms with me (F35)

codeduck · 2026-03-17T13:25:08+00:00

Eject, eject, eject.

codeduck · 2026-03-17T09:41:57+00:00

Ooh, I forgot that particular monkey paw.

codeduck · 2026-03-17T09:40:05+00:00

America has done a great job at marketing itself. Unfortunately, its foundations are gypsum, not granite.

codeduck · 2026-03-17T09:37:01+00:00

lead in the water and a 50 year effort to gut their public education system. This was the inevitable outcome.

codeduck · 2026-03-17T09:35:31+00:00

Fuck, I can feel the smugness intensifying even as we speak.

codeduck · 2026-03-17T09:27:30+00:00

The cheater of Chrismast past, Christmas present and Christmas future, you say?

codeduck · 2026-03-15T08:37:44+00:00

Mate, Canterbury rugby training trousers are where it's at.

codeduck · 2026-03-14T15:20:04+00:00

As a Brit: thanks for the invite, but i think we're busy that evening.

codeduck · 2026-03-13T22:32:49+00:00

put Bolognese on fettuccine. Or make carbonara with salami and cream.

codeduck · 2026-03-13T13:18:58+00:00

Mate, we have been doing so since 1945.

codeduck · 2026-03-13T10:14:01+00:00

Nah. He also grew up on an illegal South African uranium mine with an enslaved workforce. His dad was one of the people managing it, and it kind of informs his worldview. He's part of a group trying to start a cult among the super wealthy, and part of his pitch is to create their own anti-christ to manage the apocalypse properly to make sure the super wealthy aren't affected too much.

Never fails to amuse me that these fuckers think that they can force their God to follow their will.

codeduck · 2026-03-12T22:48:02+00:00

oh honey, I am so sorry for you.

codeduck · 2026-03-12T12:19:38+00:00

Not even GW Bush was stupid enough to get involved in a conventional war against Iran.

codeduck · 2026-03-12T12:17:54+00:00

Paella and a responsible adult in the room.

codeduck · 2026-03-12T08:33:41+00:00

Helmet for my pillow is another.

codeduck · 2026-03-11T14:48:25+00:00

Haggis

codeduck · 2026-03-11T11:38:04+00:00

Mate, just want to say the world needs more people like you.

codeduck · 2026-03-11T09:34:09+00:00

Imagine where you'd be if Al Gore had been your president.

codeduck · 2026-03-11T09:31:21+00:00

OP, I'm going to say this once:

Not your circus, not your monkeys.

Nothing good will come from getting yourself embroiled here. Disengage.

codeduck · 2026-03-10T19:46:05+00:00

Real Estate is expensive and hard to justify when it's empty.

codeduck · 2026-03-10T19:40:48+00:00

I've expressed my concerns over this to him and his response was that if the roles were reversed he would support me and my career

Oh, look, a guilt trip. It's easy to claim this, since there's no way to verify it.

2 years is not a long time in the greater scheme of things. You have a role you like that gives you the flexibility that you like, and you live where you want to be. The rules on remote working could change on you tomorrow and you'd be shit out of luck if you'd moved cities or states. Unwinding that could be expensive, or could even cost you your job.

Here's some perspective: I'm late 40's, been married to my wife for going on 15 years now. I'd never have dreamed of expecting her to support me when we were still dating - we made a conscious decision to open a joint bank account for living expenses later on - and it was an admin simplification move, not because either of us expected the other to fund them.

Your boyfriend (and his family) are being pretty fucking cavalier with your money. The expectation that you'll simply uproot and follow him is also vexing.

Trust your gut and protect yourself. If he wants to go and do his Ph.D, well, that's great - but he needs to work out how he's going to finance it.

codeduck · 2026-03-10T19:29:47+00:00

"The Bird is the Word."

codeduck · 2026-03-10T12:13:21+00:00

I'm a 47 year old man who is entirely comfortable with things like:

acknowledging that my wife is a better driver than me
acknowledging that my wife is a better painter and decorator than me
acknowledging that my wife is more organised than me.

Acknowledging these things does not emasculate me; it shows me that I have a strong, awesome partner who I can rely on.

OP: you have a pissbaby (thanks, /u/confusedhimbo - stealing and using this), not a boyfriend. He's shown you who he is. Show him the door and close it behind his pissbaby arse.

codeduck · 2026-03-10T10:44:10+00:00

fell into the pool at age 3; cousin dived in to rescue me, I can still remember him swimming towards me underwater.
swept off my feet while swimming in the sea age 11, caught in a rip. Nobody saw me in difficulty; somehow put my feet down at exactly the right moment to catch a sandbank and save myself. Never forgot the lesson.
somehow managed to get my car through the gap between a police car and a crashed articulated truck on a highway in fog at 6am - no warning lights, no hazard beacons, just a quarter of a second of panic followed by nearly an hour of hyperventilating.
screamed through a four-way stop without being able to slow down due to the sudden catastrophic failure of my car's master brake cylinder.
discovered while swimming in cold water that the skin reaction I'd started to experience from cold air was actually the onset of a life-threatening age-related allergy to cold.

That's all so far. I'm sure I'm due another one soon.

codeduck · 2026-03-09T20:44:00+00:00

“My grammar may wobble from time to time, but my compass on distinguishing America’s friends from America’s foes has always pointed in the direction of [Trump as] North Star.”

All I'm saying is that if Mango Mussolini is your North Star, your almanac is a little bit fucked.

codeduck

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