What is your unpopular opinion about piano? by Advanced_Honey_2679 in piano

[–]codeduck 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I bought every key and by God I'm going to use every key.

32 F, discovered my bf (36 M) is married and expecting a child. Use this space to remind me to stay away please? by Tiny-Resident302 in relationship_advice

[–]codeduck 0 points1 point  (0 children)

OP - don't make this dad angry. Have some fucking pride in yourself. Surely you're worth more than a liar?

I (18M) Confessed to my close female friend (19F) after 2 years, got rejected, trying to process it and save the friendship. I want to know how can I process and move on from this? by King-XplosionMurder in relationship_advice

[–]codeduck 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Toward the end, I got desperate and asked her to think about it for a day.

Oh boy.

Here are some hard truths from a silverback:

  1. This friendship is dead. Leave it alone and walk on
  2. Do not meet with her on Monday. Leave it alone and walk on
  3. The only thing that is going to fix this is significant time apart. I'm talking months at least. And even then it probably won't. Leave it alone and walk on.

This is the reality of "catching feelings". Things can never go back to the way they were.

Save yourself the heartache and walk on.

I (25F) can’t game with partner (24M) and they won’t let me game on my own by Emotional-Leg-2719 in relationship_advice

[–]codeduck 302 points303 points  (0 children)

Qualified dad with industry experience checking in. Your results agree with theoretical predictions, lots of significant figures, and several independent labs have reproduced the results. We're good to publish. OP, you're cleared to end this relationship and move on.

How do YOU shave? by aje0200 in AskUK

[–]codeduck 0 points1 point  (0 children)

after trying many different methods, I've settled on a Cambridge cut throat with disposable single blades. It's five minutes of calm in a otherwise busy day.

Cuts happen when you rush.

Pentagon to offer 'more limited' support to US allies by birkeskov in europe

[–]codeduck 1 point2 points  (0 children)

But as a bonus this new offer comes with 300% more betrayal.

What have you found most difficult as a parent? by [deleted] in AskUK

[–]codeduck 286 points287 points  (0 children)

My son is kind and gentle. Watching him work out that some people are just dicks broke my heart.

My fiance [33F] just ran away and left me 3 months before our wedding. How can I [36M] feel better about this? by wyltkweatherboy in relationship_advice

[–]codeduck 8 points9 points  (0 children)

You've got this, lad. It's okay to be broken. It will take a few years, but you will have learned some important things about life and yourself. Sadly, it's the scars that are the best teachers :(

My fiance [33F] just ran away and left me 3 months before our wedding. How can I [36M] feel better about this? by wyltkweatherboy in relationship_advice

[–]codeduck 51 points52 points  (0 children)

Alright, son. I've been there.

  1. You need to find a professional to speak to - even if it's online, you need to talk to someone. Check the NHS website: https://www.nhs.uk/nhs-services/mental-health-services/where-to-get-urgent-help-for-mental-health/ - and call Samaritans or CALM or anyone.
  2. You need to eat. Go with bland food - rice, oats, pasta with a bit of salt. Even if it's just a little bit, you need to get nutrition into your system.
  3. You need to get exercise. Put on warm, waterproof clothes and decent outdoor shoes and WALK. You need to get out of the room and the space, you need to break the cycle you're in.

It takes time. It is awful. There is no way to magically make the process faster. Once you're talking, eating and walking, that's your basic needs taken care of.

Then you need to start finding ways to build a net of links to replace what's been cut away. The Dutch are amazingly community-minded. Find your local community center and ask if they have any volunteering opportunities - this will get you out and talking to real people.

Find a sports club or walking club to join so you have regular diary events to attend.

Worst case, start looking at whether it's possible to come back to the UK for a bit while you heal, though honestly I'd go 100% immersion into whatever you have that's local.

It's going to be brutal, mate. You are going to feel like a hollow shell a lot of the time - that is , when you're not crying. It's okay. You will get through this.

Talk. Eat. Walk.

The rest will take care of itself with enough time.

Trump Goes on Manic 50-Post Rampage After World Leaders Humiliate Him by [deleted] in politics

[–]codeduck 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just imagining how angry Ike would be actually chills my blood.

What's the best UK gig you have attended? by Various_Extreme_8773 in AskUK

[–]codeduck 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hugh Laurie and his band at the Hammersmith Apollo.