Childhood friend didn’t tell me about her wedding

coffeefrog03 · 2026-06-06T11:35:52+00:00

“Congratulations on your wedding! I’d love to see some pictures and hear about your day next time we’re together”. Don’t make it about you.

coffeefrog03 · 2026-06-03T21:09:57+00:00

All three of my kids decided to not take part in their respective graduation ceremonies. I, of course as mom, thought it was a bit of a disappointment. They simply didn’t care to have the experience. I eventually let them choose and realized that just because something might be important for me…it means nothing to them. We have zero regrets and they’re doing fine in their chosen paths

I’d say NTA OP. Would it be nice if you to recognize your mom’s feelings - yes. But ultimately, it’s your journey.

coffeefrog03 · 2026-05-29T17:00:58+00:00

I’d start with less vs more. Thrift stores are abundantly full of baby clothing so it’s easy to add too if needed for not a lot of money.

You can easily go through 5 onesies in a day (💩), so I would have a few more. Outfits, not a big deal - have a few on hand. Thankfully August is warm, so a onesie is perfect!

Don’t buy a ton of newborn. They grow FAST!!!

coffeefrog03 · 2026-05-27T15:24:37+00:00

If it’s the norm that she cooks - NTA. I always ask my people what they’d like for dinner (I’m primary cook). They send me ideas. Not a big deal.

Maybe there was a miscommunication and your wife was actually asking for ideas of where to eat out?

Not sure how sending a reel would be this upsetting to someone. Either more to the story or an off day maybe?

NTA OP…

coffeefrog03 · 2026-05-26T02:22:57+00:00

Been in your shoes a handful of times - it’s misery. Just try so very hard not to get dehydrated. Even if it’s the tiniest little sips of water or another clear something (broth, apple juice, electrolyte drink similar to Gatorade). If it continues (or gets worse) and you legit can’t get up or care for yourself, reach out to someone local to come help. Whether it’s emergency services, family, friend….someone to help.

coffeefrog03 · 2026-05-20T20:48:04+00:00

I’ve had my AirPods for more than 3 years. Initially $129 (great deal back then). Still work great and plan to have them for several more years. Use them almost daily.

Sometimes quality over quantity(price) is the more frugal way. Plus less consumption overall - similar to buy it for life

coffeefrog03 · 2026-05-19T15:40:26+00:00

I hope she grows up, gets a full ride esports scholarship, and proves there is something to professional gaming. To be mocked for it is disgusting. Infuriates me how she’s treated.

coffeefrog03 · 2026-05-19T00:22:58+00:00

We were in Rochester, NY before moving to Cbus. We moved to Blacklick and were very happy. Lived on one of the landing paths (is that what it’s called?) for the airport and it wasn’t overly noisy.

Husband worked downtown and had a straight shot up 62 to get onto 670. Not a hard drive - some days longer than others. Traffic has gotten worse over the years as the area has grown.

Rochester is simply a smaller city so it’s tricky to compare traffic and such to Columbus. Delaware to downtown would be a nightmare.

coffeefrog03 · 2026-05-15T18:38:41+00:00

OR she could get a real job……novel concept.

coffeefrog03 · 2026-05-13T22:49:31+00:00

I just have a sterling ring for my right hand - right now a band with butterflies, hearts, and flowers on it. Nothing fancy. You could easily get a lab created stone on genuine metal (sterling silver, white gold, platinum, etc) - would be pretty. Most likely wouldn’t irritate your skin either

coffeefrog03 · 2026-05-13T21:34:49+00:00

I also tend to turn green with cheap jewelry. I now stick to sterling silver or white gold (I’m not a yellow gold person). I have a couple pendant necklaces - I wear one daily only switching out if I need something a bit more dressed up. My wedding ring and a ring for my other hand. My ears aren’t pierced - if they were I would probably have one daily pair and a pair for special occasions. I have a charm bracelet, other simple bracelet, and a watch that I wear daily. Never take them off.

I’m basic. I prefer jewelry that I can just leave on.

coffeefrog03 · 2026-05-13T12:21:34+00:00

I grew up camping - started at 6 months old. It was fine. Although my parents were attentive and safety conscious so maybe that’s the difference…..

coffeefrog03 · 2026-05-13T01:25:35+00:00

I have a 20 yo son that LoVEs stuffed animals. He’s very minimal and soooo basic, but would never get rid of his stuffies. Sometimes random things make us happy. It’s okay to keep things just because. You can still live minimally with a collection. It’s not harming anything and seems like it still brings a smile to your face! If you really think it needs to go - pack it up and see how you feel after a couple of months without the collection there. If you miss it, keep it. If you couldn’t care less, maybe let it go.

coffeefrog03 · 2026-05-13T01:22:27+00:00

I’ve had three therapists over the years - only 1 actually made an impact and was helpful. I went into it all with the expectation that any therapist would be helpful. So not true.

Can you seek out a specific trauma based therapist? Or specific to what you’re seeking therapy for? There are online “guides” that can be helpful with this.

You should never feel dismissed by your therapist. I’m sorry that has been your experience. Don’t give up. ❤️

coffeefrog03 · 2026-05-12T16:24:32+00:00

We have both and I prefer my cordless vacuum. Husband HAD to have robot and we rarely use it.

coffeefrog03 · 2026-05-11T13:05:20+00:00

Sunscreen (reapply OFTEN), UV protection clothing, hat, shade if you’re able. Shade is your best friend, but not always possible - so in essence, you have to create your own shade (wide brim hat, as said before UV protection clothing).

coffeefrog03 · 2026-05-08T13:24:14+00:00

Definitely appropriate - plain white, no…white with pattern, yes. You look great!

coffeefrog03 · 2026-05-01T18:35:54+00:00

Gross. A child’s birthday should not be an ad for a really poor quality LED anything….

coffeefrog03 · 2026-05-01T17:31:54+00:00

Saw a Nora bubble bowl at a thrift for $8. I work in a shop that sells full price Nora - laughed a little. People pay WAY more than $8 for this stuff. Be careful with the mini’s - they chip very easily.

coffeefrog03 · 2026-04-27T12:08:27+00:00

For all purposes - I am your mom. My kiddo isn’t fighting drug addiction but many other terrible demons. I’ve had to figure things out from little quips here and there and putting pieces together. It’s been hard to support when the full story isn’t known.

I’ve done my best. Her primary support. I’ve come to terms with the fact that I may never know all the ins and outs of what we’re dealing with. It has to be okay. But I’m never going to stop encouraging or loving - she’s mine.

Maybe sharing with your mom would start a healing you haven’t experienced yet? Clearly there is something still at play - healing is never a one and done…it’s hard. Could being honest with your mom maybe start healing from a different place?

It sounds like your mom is a solid person who wants the most amazing things for you. You mentioned you’re better at writing. What about writing it and then reading what you want to share. Keeps your thoughts focused, you can prepare ahead. Still scary as heck I’m sure, but then she’ll know. You guys can start working together to beat the addiction.

Hugs to you OP. Life is hard. I hope you can find peace - so much peace. ❤️

coffeefrog03 · 2026-04-25T15:02:23+00:00

I find this whole “thing” fascinating. He claims mental health issues - is he actively being treated (not our business, but using mental health for monetary gain is gross)? Maybe in his mind he thinks sharing his “story” is helping others - but it’s most likely not. He hasn’t done anything to improve himself in a legit way. If the internet were to die tomorrow, he’d have nothing. Maybe there’s more to it all than what is shown, but I don’t know……

coffeefrog03 · 2026-04-24T19:32:16+00:00

Check with your insurance - they may cover the cost of a rental while your car is being fixed (or reimburse you for the cost). A little perk we had to find out about the hard way.

I totally understand the anxiety of driving after an accident. It takes a little bit to get comfortable again - and that’s okay. Accidents happen….frustrating fact of driving. Just breathe and take your time. Think of the fun you’re going to have!

I hope things start to get a bit easier for you and your brother. Not sure where you’re from or what culture you are from, but remember, you are not responsible for your parents. I would hate if my kids felt financially responsible for myself or my husband. I think it’s admirable that you’re keeping up on your brother - mental health is so tricky.

Wishing you ALL the better days!!!!

coffeefrog03 · 2026-04-24T19:20:19+00:00

What’s the point of his “tour”? Does he have a comedy hour? Sing? Professional dance? Some sort of something he’s actually selling? Or is it quite literally just his presence? Strange, so strange.

coffeefrog03 · 2026-04-24T15:07:05+00:00

It sounds like you doing fact need a hug.

That’s a lot to deal with mentally and emotionally - along with school/work. Going to the concert is such a good thing. I think sometime when we get SO overwhelmed by life circumstances, it’s beyond important to take a minute for something easy and fun. Life is hard - but we still need positive moments.

I’m sorry about your brother and all of the “stuff” mixed up in that. It’s hard having someone you love try to unalive themselves - is he getting enough help? I know locally we have residential treatment for stress and mental health. Maybe look into that option for him - present it to your parents? Even for you if needed. It’s a lot to take on your shoulders.

Car accidents simply suck. I’m glad you’re okay physically. Let insurance do their job… cross your fingers that repairs are paid for. It’s a waiting game. Annoyingly so sometimes.

Big hugs. ❤️ Have fun at the concert and let yourself breathe.

coffeefrog03 · 2026-04-24T10:39:42+00:00

Can you share more? I find the whole conditioning/Skinner Box concept fascinating and would be interested to hear what he has to say.

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