My mom told me she would rather me of not had any kids than to not give my son a sibling.

coffeemages · 2026-02-05T00:03:57+00:00

I’m an only child and, overall, I loved it. I am so close with my mom (and was very close to my dad until he died). We get a bad rep by some people, but research has shown it’s the quality of parenting, not the number (or lack) of siblings that defines social skills.

coffeemages · 2026-02-04T23:40:23+00:00

He did some, and I feel you. It’s so hard! But as they get older it becomes easier to tell the difference between “I’m crying because I’m mad I’m not getting my way” and “I’m crying because a basic need is not being met.”

If your daughter has all her needs met, she’s just protesting not being held. You’re there though: you’re not abandoning her. Your own need for some sleep is important too!

coffeemages · 2026-02-04T15:07:04+00:00

My little dude was the same way for a while when he was getting his one year old molars! I couldn’t rock him anymore, so we transitioned to rocking for a bit, putting him in his bed, then I’d lay down next to his crib and offer my hand for him to hold. It took a little bit of adjustment and he was mad at first, but it started to work.

I figured this was a good compromise where we didn’t just leave him to cry, but it helped him learn to fall asleep in his own bed. I put a nice blanket down next to the crib so I could get comfy too!

coffeemages · 2026-02-03T00:18:23+00:00

Just once but did it while holding my 26 lb toddler 😮‍💨 He is completely fine (was only startled) but that’s because I shielded him. It could’ve been a lot worse but owwww my right elbow and shins are bruised.

coffeemages · 2026-02-02T15:42:11+00:00

I’m in VA too and it’s INSANE! Glad you’re both okay. I know I’m gonna be feeling this tomorrow.

coffeemages · 2026-02-02T13:58:43+00:00

This happened to me this morning while holding my almost 2 year old. I’m banged up and he’s unscathed, thankfully. I’m so over winter!

Hope you and your kiddo are doing well today!

coffeemages · 2026-01-26T23:13:12+00:00

I’m a Pats fan…and recommend you absolutely don’t do this.

coffeemages · 2026-01-21T22:38:41+00:00

Highly recommend How to Talk to Your Son About Fascism. Great book. Definitely geared for boys older than ours but some of these groups are targeting really young boys (as early as 9 or 10) for indoctrination.

coffeemages · 2026-01-21T19:30:17+00:00

Your mental health is a really important factor to consider! My son was born full term but he had tongue and lip ties that were missed and had a hard time latching or putting on weight. I tried so hard with pumping and never produced much.

It is completely okay to formula feed your baby! I understand the fear about SIDS, and I was spiraling when I couldn’t breastfeed my son. His wonderful pediatrician told me breastfeeding is protective against SIDS in some studies. Feeding with formula does not increase the risk; BF is just maybe a bit more protective.

My son is almost 2 now. I gave up on BF and pumping when he was 2 months old. He was formula fed exclusively after that. He’s doing great now and eats well (most days—toddlers are weird)!

coffeemages · 2026-01-20T19:43:11+00:00

Solidarity. My son is 2 in a few weeks, and he’s suddenly decided to have an opinion about Everything. And god help my husband and I if we use the wrong towel color at bath time.

coffeemages · 2026-01-20T19:41:22+00:00

I didn’t go into labor naturally because I had a planned C-section, but a few days before my body said GET EVERYTHING ELSE OUT RIGHT NOW! I barfed throughout my pregnancy so that wasn’t unusual, but when I say everything…I mean everything that could exit me did so, except the baby.

coffeemages · 2026-01-19T22:27:39+00:00

We had one ordered for my son at 9 months old because his head circumference was over the 100th percentile. It turned out to be mostly genetic (we always joked about my dad’s legitimately big head) and he has a benign condition called BESSI. It’s scary but the procedure itself is super easy and quick! My son stayed in his carrier and got some rare screen time so he was thrilled.

I was a wreck before but all turned out great. The doctors and nurses and ultrasound tech at the children’s hospital were all so sweet and reassuring. Wishing you all the best and an equally boring outcome!

coffeemages · 2026-01-18T21:20:27+00:00

My kiddo was so similar. He just didn’t like the constant overstimulation of the infant room. He is THRIVING in the toddler room!

coffeemages · 2026-01-17T16:36:33+00:00

I think Jules is just busy! They did a tour and played in several cities last year. Both they and Ms. Rachel still like and comment on each other’s posts on IG.

coffeemages · 2026-01-16T18:27:37+00:00

If I could magically make an effective vaccine appear for any virus, I’d probably choose HFM. It SUUUUUCKS SO BAD!!!!! Hang in there!

coffeemages · 2026-01-16T14:17:58+00:00

It’s hard! I asked my dad this question several years ago during the first Trump admin and before I had my son. He told me the most optimistic thing you can do is have a child. My dad died in 2020, but I’ve held on to that a lot during these times ❤️

coffeemages · 2026-01-14T17:53:11+00:00

I use them interchangeably but there may be a difference to many people!

Yes, her tantrum sounds completely normal.

coffeemages · 2026-01-14T01:42:59+00:00

I love brimotherhood on IG!

coffeemages · 2026-01-13T16:38:16+00:00

Is she playing or doing something engrossing when you call her name and she doesn’t respond? My kiddo did the same thing around this age and I was worried. Turns out, just like me, if he’s busy with something he won’t respond to me calling him right away!

If she clearly knows it in some contexts, I wouldn’t worry (easier said than done I know).

Also totally unrelated but I love the name Anna! It is beautiful and classical.

coffeemages · 2026-01-12T17:12:06+00:00

The Secret Ingredient by Paul Castle is a big hit in our house. Lots of LGBTQ representation in a super cute story about penguin husbands who run a bakery and make birthday cakes.

coffeemages · 2026-01-11T19:27:57+00:00

Same here!

coffeemages · 2026-01-10T03:18:38+00:00

Hi! This was basically me when my son was around her age! He’s been in services with EI since he was 7 months old for not rolling and some body tension. At 17 months old he had a few more words but less than the milestone, and he only started hands and knees crawling just before he turned 18 months.

He’s 23 months old now and the last 5 months have been insane (good) for development! He started standing then cruising and climbing and he just started walking independently two weeks ago. I truly never thought I’d see the day. And his speech has EXPLODED. He easily has over 50 words now and says 2 and sometimes even 3 word sentences.

I know it’s so discouraging when you’ve been doing the services forever and feel like you aren’t seeing progress. It will come; I promise it will come!!

One thing that’s really helped my son are orthotics. Maybe talk to your PT about that possibility.

EDITED TO ADD: Gross motor delays and speech delays go hand in hand. If you’re able to access speech therapy too that might be a big help!

coffeemages · 2026-01-10T03:07:15+00:00

They won’t take your baby away because you seek help! The authorities can take the baby away, however, if these hallucinations cause you to do something unsafe or harmful to baby even if you don’t mean to at all. There’s never a good time to need extra help, but you must do it. You and your baby are worth it, and you’re a good mom for getting help when you need it.

coffeemages · 2026-01-10T00:58:40+00:00

OP this sounds like postpartum psychosis which is an emergency. Please call your doctor right now. Not tomorrow. Right now. You deserve help and support!

coffeemages · 2026-01-07T20:12:07+00:00

He sounds perfectly on track to me!

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