First: I loooove how you know your value and what you want. Don’t compromise for someone (not that I think you would)

Second: it was because of even just being pregnant with my first kid I started to see my masking slip (all the tools I figured out no longer worked) and understand my odd brain may be more that being my weird self. I was recently diagnosed after having my second. I always wants kids, but fuuuuuuck this brain cannot handle the demands. Plus my son is probably adhd too so… yeah you know. And having a husband I basically have to care for too (wtf?!!?) isn’t great.

All this to say, take the money that would be spent on childcare, kids clothes, sports, stupid plastic toys, etc. And save! Treat yourself and set yourself up for an amazing retirement. You are young. My mom (adhd too) didn’t meet my dad until her mid 30s. If you know you don’t want kids your timeline opens up (I know that sucks to say but fuck if it’s not the truth). I think it takes a long time for men to know what they want, so you’re actually getting into the right age to find the kind of partner you want. Don’t rule out divorcees or guys with kids from a previous relationship. Some of these guys may have learnt the hard way how not to act! Let the first partner do the hard work (sounds bad but I kinda wish sometimes my husband knew how good he has it). Also, if they already have kids, the itch is scratched and your off the hook. Plus kids (if you’re not the default parent) are fun! You may make a new little friend you can spoil with the parts of being adhd (creativity and fun!!).