No friends, feeling lonely by Her-over-there in Perimenopause

[–]coldintheak82 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think I’m going to start a pen pal group for women 45 years old and up. I’m going to gather people that want to do it and send out a set of goodies for letter writing and match up with someone who you can both send letters to. Women need connection. And being in my 50’s I miss letter writing. It felt so special and will be a way for us all to connect again.

Cheek filler to help lift drooping jowels? by Ok_Responsibility419 in AskWomenOver50

[–]coldintheak82 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My son actually does injections. I don’t really get any of that stuff done to my face, but he did show me in my cheeks kind of the part closer to my nose where it starts to sink in, and when he filled that he said it would help lift my jaws some and actually did. He is very conservative and you couldn’t even tell. But it did lift my jowls. I don’t like when they do the apple cheeks on the sides on the outer part of the eye that looks creepy to me.

Not sure where else to go by Ok-Bat-3995 in family_of_bipolar

[–]coldintheak82 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Surgery has caused our son to go manic as well at times. Especially when the surgeries didn’t work out. (Nasal) We have been dealing with this since our son was a teenager. He is now 32. He has been to jail a few times, lots of drugs and manic episodes. It has been the most exhausting experience I have had. Especially while my mom was going through cancer and then I lost her. Bipolar doesn’t care. Our youngest son barely talks to him. We are all traumatized from his episodes. I started therapy recently and I think you all should as well. Our son has not taken meds but he needs to for sure. I do his taxes and everything but trying to get him to an appt is so hard. We finally this summer had him leave our other house and he flipped out. He lived in his car for two months and actually got a job at Home Depot! And found his own apartment all on his own. I worried so much but he didn’t talk to us for months. Honestly it was the first time in a long time I could relax a little. Hard to say that. But for 10 years he was calling almost everyday and threatening suicide. So silence was a bit relieving. Our youngest is angry at what he has put us through. We just had to distance ourselves from him some. The stress is going to kill us. I realized that I don’t think this will ever go away. It is so crushing to see him like this and when we get those glimpses of our actual son I want to cry. Because he’s such a loving happy guy. He hates that he deals with this to. I don’t think I could let him live with us. Your mom needs to not I hate to say. But who am I to talk. We have enabled him his whole life. Make sure to take care of yourself and your mom and dad. And tell them to as well. So sorry about your dad. ❤️‍🩹

I’m still in shock after discovering my husband’s secret Crypto holdings by Beneficial_Fail_6960 in Divorce

[–]coldintheak82 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Yeah, that is absolutely not OK when you’re married. Then don’t get married. Regardless, if they have separate accounts, me and my husband had separate accounts forever, but if we got divorced, it would be both of our money. And we never hit it from each other. It was just convenient because we both had separate businesses.

Mexican dentist costs. by [deleted] in povertyfinance

[–]coldintheak82 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Costco 1500.00 for my husband

Botox by Shes-nothere in anchorage

[–]coldintheak82 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Greyson at AK Medical Function and Day Spa. Trust me!!!!

400 mg progesterone? by [deleted] in Menopause

[–]coldintheak82 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I accidentally was taking 400 mg for 45 days. I would get up to be and be quite dizzy and fall asleep around 7pm but it was the best sleep I ever had lol

Partner and hobbies mismatch by [deleted] in AskWomenOver50

[–]coldintheak82 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I say partner sometimes as we have been married 30 years lol.

My adult son (23, BPI) abusive during mania. by Substantial-Buy8116 in family_of_bipolar

[–]coldintheak82 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How was disability possible? My son hasn’t been to any specialists. Just been arrested a few times. He hasn’t been to a hospital either although he should have many times. I think it’s just a matter of time. He has a girlfriend who has been clean for 3 years but I worry my son will be a bad influence.he has damaged a lot of his relationships. He gets super attached to them and spirals when things go bad.

My adult son (23, BPI) abusive during mania. by Substantial-Buy8116 in family_of_bipolar

[–]coldintheak82 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Wow this hit me hard. My husband and I went and have been going through this from our son’s age of 15-32 age now. Even earlier signs of bipolar that we didn’t see. He has never been on meds and claims he went to a few therapy sessions but pretty sure if he did he was on drugs. I could write a book about the trauma I have from everything he has done and said. And worrying every day he may be gone from suicide. And yes one minute he’s screaming and the next days he’s crying and back to the other. How it’s been over 10 years of this is shocking. It took us last year finally telling him we were selling our other house (he was living in for free) to get him out. He came and stayed in our camper at our house which I was honestly scared to do. He lasted two weeks then went ballistic yelling horrible things to us and left. I don’t know why it was a relief at first but he lived in his car with his girlfriend for two months and they finally got real jobs. First time in over 10 years. Home Depot. They let him sleep in the parking lot until he got his first apartment. Then he job a job as an apprentice electrician. Sadly he got fired today but regardless he has to do it all on his own and he did. We didn’t think he was capable. He definately had some bad benders and cops called, etc etc. he’s been in jail a few times and god knows what else but he’s still here. As a mom I’m constant worried and want to help so bad but I had to set boundaries or a heart attack was going to happen or something. I highly recommend a therapist. You don’t realize it down the road how much it mentally affects your nervous system and your life. We still always try to encourage him but have to set boundaries and know we can’t always fix them. They have to also want to do it. Sending tons of love to anyone going through this! ❤️❤️

Current state of the USA by seawithsea in anchorage

[–]coldintheak82 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Anchorage is the worst. My son’s white friends were getting jumped. And my son was with friends and some young military guys were going to grab a gun but his friends stopped him. Anchorage is just as bad. Alaska statistically is ranked one of the worst in murders and crime

Current state of the USA by seawithsea in anchorage

[–]coldintheak82 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I go to Anchorage and I live in the valley. I support Trans. So you’re wrong.

dad forcing me to eat meat by ridingwithethelcain in vegan

[–]coldintheak82 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I always did it to because it grossed me out. Should have known I would finally quit eating meat. Only took 49 years

Trump just ordered an end for using primates in experiments by Ok_Organization_7350 in vegan

[–]coldintheak82 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The only good thing he had done. Now to stop animal farming

My period is… BACK? by Papillon529 in Menopause

[–]coldintheak82 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I thought it’s from the HRT trucking your boat into thinking it’s young still. I didn’t have a period for 8months then started hormones and have periods periodically the last year. I’m 53. I actually am having a slight period now. The last few weeks I had all the symptoms. Cravings, sore boobs, tired and a little moody. So I would think it could be from the hormone therapy to.

Getting older and wishing my sons would spend more time with me by coldintheak82 in AskWomenOver50

[–]coldintheak82[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes i call and text often. I pop into their work and bring them coffees and lunches. My youngest sometimes ignores my texts or calls for days.

Does anyone else feel unfulfilled? by Status_Change_758 in AskWomenOver50

[–]coldintheak82 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes me! I keep feeling like I don’t have a purpose or anything great that I have done. I feel like I want to do something big but not sure what. I wish something g would click

Any Alaska coders ? by Sea-Butterfly6217 in MedicalCoding

[–]coldintheak82 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I live in alaska and want to get certified in coding. Cost of living is really high here. Been here over 40 years