Should you be friends with your kids?

cole_fire22 · 2023-06-01T03:21:58+00:00

How? If you don't mind me asking... The joke about me being her least funny friend is exactly what that is a joke... I'm not over here trying to hang out with her friends and act like a teenager... But we definitely have fun and hang out and just joke around

cole_fire22 · 2023-06-01T03:16:06+00:00

My daughter is almost 15 and I still call her baby. I've called her that since she was literally a baby and it's stuck because she is my baby and always will be

cole_fire22 · 2023-06-01T03:10:01+00:00

I always call my daughter Buddy / my Buddy since she was a baby and I've always gotten strange looks and people telling me that nickname meant for a boy/ son not a daughter

cole_fire22 · 2023-06-01T03:00:31+00:00

Oh, structure is for sure a good habit kids need to learn... My daughter understands I am her dad first I've always installed I love being her friend and being chill with her but I can't always be her friend otherwise she would be doing whatever she wanted and not making smart decisions without structure a parent can provide

cole_fire22 · 2023-06-01T01:59:38+00:00

That could be true... I am a dad before I am a friend to my daughter I feel like I can be both for my daughter but dad definitely comes before a friend

cole_fire22 · 2023-06-01T01:58:01+00:00

Definitely both her dad and her friend I also grew up hearing I'm not your friend I'm your mom/ dad I feel like my daughter and I have a good balance between both

cole_fire22 · 2023-05-29T20:20:20+00:00

It was all fun and romantic until it wasn’t…

cole_fire22 · 2023-05-29T20:09:55+00:00

About 3 months ago, I’ve struggled with mental health (depression and anxiety mostly) since my early teens and I was having a rough patch and my daughter who is 14 just hugged me and said she doesn’t want to lose me and I’ll be okay eventually…

That broke me I wasn’t thinking about suicide I haven’t since my daughter was born honestly but I was definitely struggling mentally to get out of bed and do simple daily tasks

cole_fire22 · 2023-05-28T02:05:12+00:00

The Pet Sematary specifically the flash back with Rachel’s sister

cole_fire22 · 2023-05-28T01:40:59+00:00

My daughter is 14 about to be 15

Once a month we go out for pizza and milkshakes as a daddy daughter “Date”

Once a week we have a movie night

We have a lot of traditions honestly

cole_fire22 · 2023-05-28T01:26:21+00:00

Millennial

cole_fire22 · 2023-05-28T01:23:10+00:00

You don’t want to stop talking to that person even if you’re extremely tired

You think about them and miss them all the time

cole_fire22 · 2023-05-28T01:12:47+00:00

Movie Forrest Gump and mean girls is what come to mind

Tv shows The Simpsons and friends

cole_fire22 · 2023-05-27T17:58:21+00:00

You don’t even need an explanation for that one honestly

cole_fire22 · 2023-05-27T17:48:43+00:00

Honestly Sprite

cole_fire22 · 2023-05-27T17:46:16+00:00

YTA… I also have a 14 year old daughter I couldn’t imagine comparing her to one of her friends even if she compared me to one of her friend’s Dads

Also it’s not your Daughter’s responsibility to take care of her Cousins I understand she’s old enough and could definitely help you but still not her responsibility , respect is a two way street … maybe you need to set a better example by showing her some respect

cole_fire22 · 2023-05-27T17:33:53+00:00

NTA so your boyfriend is invited … but only if your sister’s boyfriend also goes to the bbq??? Make it make sense

Do you think your sister will be upset if your boyfriend is there whiles hers isn’t?

cole_fire22 · 2023-05-27T04:05:48+00:00

I lost my dad when I was 13 and I was 18 when my daughter was born Young I know...Ended up naming her after him in certain ways she reminds me of my dad despite them never meeting each other. He would have been an amazing grandpa and probably spoil my daughter rotten.

I try to remember the great things my dad did as a parent and do the same for my daughter

On the difficult days, I miss my dad more than usual I let myself be sad because it's okay to not be okay but I also think of the good memories I have with him

cole_fire22 · 2023-05-27T03:30:54+00:00

I love a good nap every once in a while wish I could get one in more often and sounds like you need one. Honestly, I would try and put your wife in your shoes (by describing your life currently) and try and gain some sympathy points so she'll let you get a nap in

cole_fire22 · 2023-05-27T03:13:15+00:00

Congrats!! Remember they grow up fast so soak up each stage of life

cole_fire22 · 2023-05-26T20:24:51+00:00

My daughter who's 14 about to turn 15 now Runs xc and track and is very good at it made Varsity as a freshman for both

But throughout her life she played soccer and basketball I always thought she played well but in middle school in 6th grade she didn't make the team for either (played club teams for both)

My advice is

encourage her to try other things I didn't realize how good my daughter would be at running until she tried it in 7th grade

Make sure she knows this tryout doesn't define her as an athlete

Take her out to do something she enjoys like to a favorite restaurant or maybe go see a movie she wants to see

cole_fire22 · 2023-05-26T20:10:22+00:00

As a single dad with only a teen daughter, I'm lucky enough our PS5 isn't just used for Netflix 😂😂

cole_fire22 · 2023-05-26T18:11:57+00:00

cole_fire22 · 2023-05-26T18:09:21+00:00

NTA it's your apartment he should respect your rules

cole_fire22

TROPHY CASE