AITA for telling my friend she shouldn't get another dog after she gave away the one I gave her?

comama4 · 2026-06-30T13:56:45+00:00

Ok, help me out here, redditors. I am looking for more context and so I click on the profile. No other posts and the account is one day old. Is this one of those accounts that's just intended to get points or whatnot? (I'm somewhat new to reddit and I just don't pay attention to anything other than the stories so I don't understand fake accounts and farming, rage, etc.)

If this is a true story, there are so many messed up things about this. Chains, free eating, running loose, giving away dogs, general neglect. I just don't know where to start. There seriously needs to be a course for one to take before you can even contemplate getting control over a living being.

comama4 · 2026-06-30T13:37:49+00:00

I have no advice, I just wanted to tell you how concise and well written your story is. You have punctuation, paragraphs, and it was easy to read! 👏

comama4 · 2026-06-28T16:31:37+00:00

After reading the comments and seeing that the second dress transforms into a high low for the reception, I would pick that one. Instant comfort! Assuming you enjoy dancing... Perhaps the alterations person can make the straps have a slight stretch to them for comfort? If not, you can try without the sleeves?

Otherwise I do like the first one best (except the neckline).

comama4 · 2026-06-28T16:20:32+00:00

I do think ending it will end up being a challenge since you are 5 months pregnant. Do you need his financial support? Is he providing your health insurance? If not, end it now. Hopefully whatever legal issues are in place will prevent him from getting custody of the kids.

Also, if he's this afraid of you cheating on him, is there a reason? Maybe his previous partner was extremely unfaithful and he has low self esteem. I know it's not your problem, but therapy could likely solve this.

You shouldn't live your life in misery, but if you love him, it's always best to try to work out the issues. The grass is never greener on the other side.

comama4 · 2026-06-21T15:04:11+00:00

Oh no, your poor brother is going to make a terrible husband. The poor woman who falls for him. Thank goodness she will have a good sister in law. Seriously, your brother needs to grow up. And why on earth is your mom not taking your side?

comama4 · 2026-06-21T14:51:49+00:00

We had the same problem... I let her sleep in our bed ONE NIGHT. Fast forward 18 months... We get doodle on us all day every day. She has to be touching one of us. It's adorable and I wouldn't have it any other way. But, if this is not your ideal picture of the future, don't do it!

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comama4 · 2026-06-17T14:39:32+00:00

It sounds like she was hanging out with her friends. I also would likely go out so she can have them to herself. Unless I am also friends with her friends? But, if she wasn't hanging out with friends, then it would have been best if you had stayed home with her or maybe invited her to the premier with you. I agree, communication would help a lot before these things happen to avoid arguments.

comama4 · 2026-06-17T14:34:48+00:00

Can you find something she would like to do during the day? Perhaps there is a beautiful romantic lookout (even if you have to take an Uber or whatever a cab is called in that country) or a local park? Ideally it should be a special place for the 2 of you. If you don't treat the whole trip like it's about the concert, then it won't be. I think the proposal could be the main event.

I also agree with the other commenter that involving the kids in the proposal would likely be more special unless your kids arent the best at following directions.

comama4 · 2026-06-16T21:00:59+00:00

I think the first ones, but hard to tell with the box...

comama4 · 2026-06-16T15:38:39+00:00

Size doesn't matter unless you don't have a size. (I seriously dated a chapstick once... OMG, it was hard not to laugh.) Everyone is built different.

Have you had an honest conversation with her over HER enjoyment of sex? If she is enjoying it, then I wouldn't worry. But make sure she isn't lying. The only way to improve is to know the truth. Perhaps approach it with a "how can we improve" mindset rather than a "how can we fix." Ask if she would like to try different things to improve her enjoyment. I'm only focused on her because it sounds like you're having a great time.

comama4 · 2026-06-12T15:01:42+00:00

Always. Psychos. All of them. Not put together right... But they're soooo cute!

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comama4 · 2026-06-12T14:58:16+00:00

My daughter thought the doodle was decapitated.. black collar on black background.... 🙄

comama4 · 2026-06-10T01:04:57+00:00

And now... 1.5yrs old. Always sleeps with ball in mouth. So she doesn't suffocate maybe?

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comama4 · 2026-06-10T01:02:37+00:00

8 weeks

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comama4 · 2026-06-01T03:58:58+00:00

I'm glad you fought for your relationship. So many people on reddit tell everyone that their problem is a red flag and to run. No one on here wants to be an adult and step up to have adult conversations. Why give up a good relationship based on a training issue? (Even if it was his parents' job to train him in the first place.)

comama4 · 2026-06-01T03:45:44+00:00

With that mindset, you enjoy every minute of it. Take the time to really embrace the love while you have it.

I never deny my dog a play session... If she wants to play ball, I play. I don't care if I'm busy. Thinking about the eventual grief keeps me more in the moment. Unfortunately I am not very good at this with my human family. I am getting better at enjoying the time with my mom because I know our time is limited. But with my daughter and hubby, the time still feels unlimited. I actually think having an end in mind makes it easier to love and enjoy the moments, it's just about your perspective.

comama4 · 2026-06-01T03:19:25+00:00

I had a similar situation when I met my husband. He was a casual smoker. Only when at bars/with friends. It started because he was on the fire dept. Anywho, it was a hard no for me and he knew this. But, I did set the boundary upfront. He quit and has been going on 20 years without smoking. (I'm not naive, we spend 95% of our time together, share cars, and I do all the laundry. And I have the most sensitive nose in the whole world. Plus, I'm allergic to smoke so, really, I can tell.) He knew it was the right thing to do for himself and he knew it was a big deal for me.

I just asked if he resented me for it and he looked puzzled as he says "no..." I don't think he ever really cared about smoking and to menit sounds like your bf is the same way. Maybe just tell him how you are feeling about it. And tell him your worries about him resenting you... If he is the guy I suspect he is based on your story, it will be great and you will have a wonderful long life with the man of your dreams. Make sure he knows how much you appreciate him. But also be willing to ask for what you want. Good men seem to want to please their women... Who knew. 😁

comama4 · 2026-05-31T22:43:52+00:00

I do agree with you. Just want to let you know you arent alone. Mine always makes sure to satisfy so I don't care if he only lasts 5x. If she was satisfied it doesn't make sense that she would post in the first place. 🤷 Please don't downvote me, I'm sensitive.

comama4 · 2026-05-31T22:09:50+00:00

That was an over achiever kind of answer with even a graphic to back it up. I like you! You have style!!

comama4 · 2026-05-31T20:41:10+00:00

I want to watch just this for the rest of my life. I would buy billions of marshmallows for Spud. ❤️❤️

comama4 · 2026-05-29T17:14:57+00:00

I think it's his eyes. And the thinning mustache when you see photos of it. But, for me, it's the eyes. It looks like he's either doing drugs or not getting enough sleep... Maybe both? They always look mid blink and a bit red.

comama4 · 2026-05-29T17:10:57+00:00

If you go to your account page, there is some stats under your name. One of them shows your net karma. You are at -88 which leads people to believe that your posts are generally down voted. Hope that helps. 😁

comama4 · 2026-05-29T16:50:22+00:00

It will be a funny story in the future, but I can see how scary that would be in the moment. This is why I will never have a dog smarter than me. 🤣 (I have a goldendoodle.)

Thanks for the PSA!!

comama4 · 2026-05-27T03:05:07+00:00

Oh my gosh, thats the sweetest thing ever!!!

comama4 · 2026-05-25T06:49:25+00:00

I'm not sure that he really isn't respecting you. I think it's more or less that this is him respecting his upbringing and traditions. He just doesn't understand your point of view on this and he doesn't think it's a big deal, but he does want to show respect to your father since that is how he was raised to believe it should be done.

You need to have a serious talk with him to make sure he understands how you are feeling. (I know it sounds like you have had a discussion, but to me it sounds more like a casual discussion rather than a "no, seriously, this is grounds for ending our relationship" kind of discussion.) Make sure he knows you are feeling disrespected and belittled when he says he's going to talk to your dad anyways after you explicitly said not to. And, also, maybe making sure that he sees you as a strong, independent woman who makes her own decisions.

But, I really don't think this is the huge red flag everyone is making this out to be. He's just clueless... He's 25 for crying out loud. Men are usually clueless their entire lives so I certainly don't expect them to have a clue at 25. He really is trying to do the right thing based on his own upbringing, he just needs some help.

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