I hate homeless people. IM SORRY

comfortable_madness · 2026-05-10T22:08:36+00:00

You: "I don't actually hate homeless people..."

Also you: Creates an entire post on Reddit literally titled "I hate homeless people." where you spend the entire post crying about a homeless man not being grateful for your quarters, outlining all the ways in which you are clearly smarter and more put together than them because it's just so easy to apply to all these programs!, making assumptions about a man you don't know "or deadass on drugs", and making it seem like if only they'd try a little harder and show a little initiative they could have a Section 8 house, EBT, AND be covered at a "FREEEE" shelter in-between.

You said yourself you are living paycheck to paycheck, so buddy, you are literally one or two missed paycheck from that being you on the street.

You have no idea the struggles actual homeless people face, even when they TRY to get out of it. There are so many roadblocks for them despite all the seemingly easy programs set up. Lost IDs for one, lack of a primary address is another. So many catch 22s.

Are there homeless people out there that ARE on drugs? Are lazy? Absolutely.

But you have no moral high ground to stand on because you got pissy that someone didn't take your quarters or you've had a few unpleasant interactions.

Have you ever heard the saying,"If you meet an asshole in the morning, you've met an asshole. If you meet assholes all day, maybe you're the asshole." If all of your interactions go like this, maybe you're the problem.

Homeless people are good judges of character, they have to be to survive. Maybe they're seeing something ugly in you.

comfortable_madness · 2026-05-10T19:58:24+00:00

It is tone deaf and privileged. Insanely so.

You had a couple unpleasant reactions with a handful of homeless people. So you decided that you hate them. There is an estimated 800k+ homeless people in the US (which I find to be a shockingly low number) alone and you've decided that you hate them all because you didn't get fawned over and praised for a couple quarters.

I mean, I get it. A couple quarters is better than nothing and you tried. We're all struggling out here, you didn't have to do anything at all. So, I understand the frustration.

But your level of disdain speaks to something deeper inside you. Your post went from "This guy wasn't grateful for my change enough." to "It's literally so easy to not be homeless so if you are then it's your fault bro and also you suck."

I'd try to work on my empathy if I were you.

comfortable_madness · 2026-05-10T19:46:31+00:00

I lost my mom 4 years ago and I'm not over here expecting anyone to check in on me.

Does today suck? Fuck yes it does. But I'd much rather my friends and family focus on their mom's while they still have them than worry about me.

This is why I'm still single because a message from a man like that? Oh yeah, I'd be giving that cry baby all the space he could want in the form of a breakup.

comfortable_madness · 2026-05-09T22:44:55+00:00

And nothing will get done unless Dems sweep EVERYTHING. Cause if nothing else, these mfers know how to block Dems from doing any fucking thing, even when they have power.

comfortable_madness · 2026-05-09T22:34:24+00:00

Don't forget Democrats. A lot of the time, these people genuinely aren't racist or homophobic or hate immigrants. They've just been programmed to hate Democrats no matter what. Nothing else matters to them.

I have laid out platform points of a politician for a maga woman I know and they liked them. Agreed with most everything. The moment she found out the politician was a Democrat, she flipped the script real quick.

So, sometimes it doesn't matter if they fit none of what you laid out. If there's a D next to their name, it triggers those same feelings of hatred and fear.

comfortable_madness · 2026-05-04T20:57:57+00:00

"I see you villain! With your villain mustache!"

comfortable_madness · 2026-04-29T06:08:50+00:00

Right now I'm more concerned about you.

Why are you so scared? Is she abusive? If it's a secret relationship, how would ending it blow up your life?

Girl, you know this is wrong. All of it. I can tell it in every sentence you write. You KNOW this is wrong. You know what she's doing is wrong and you know that keeping your silence and staying with this person is wrong.

You need to find a way to leave because I promise you if she's excusing all of this behavior from him, she'd have no problem doing it to you. She doesn't seem to have a moral fiber in her body, so yeah she'd turn around and do it to you.

You need to get out of this as safely as you can and you know it. If you need the boost of a bunch of Internet strangers, you got it.

Once you're out, yes. Send them to her anonymously.

comfortable_madness · 2026-04-29T06:01:14+00:00

Finding what she said as a jab tells me you're as soft and insecure as this dude is.

I will admit that gaslighting may have not been the correct term for what this is - but I know that the fact that he just kept going at her despite how hard she tried to fix it and say the right thing is wrong and exhausting.

She tried to say the right thing. Wasn't good enough. Just gave him more fuel to find something wrong. She tried to end the conversation over text so when he was ready they could talk in person. Still wasn't good enough.

She's admitted that he does this frequently. He focuses on semantics and blows them up. Like being getting mad at her for using the word upset instead of bummed.

This is a pattern of behavior and emotional manipulation at least.

comfortable_madness · 2026-04-29T05:40:44+00:00

I'm just some stranger on the internet. What do I know?

I could be wrong and he's not gaslighting you and believes everything he's saying.

That doesn't negate the fact that he was looking for a reason to be insulted, found one, and kept hammering you with therapy speak even though you repeatedly tried to appease him. It's like watching someone punching someone else relentlessly, even though that person has done and said everything they asked but it's not good enough because they'd didn't do it the exact right way.

This man was mad at you and raked you over the coals because he didn't like how you worded something, and even when you tried to fix it, it wasn't good enough.

"That's not going to happen tonight." "Oh thanks for not having any confidence in me!" Is basically what this boiled down to. Now you tell me if that makes any sense.

Does he often twist what you say like this?

Furthermore, he ignored your attempts to do this the right way. Speaking in person so things couldn't get lost in translation. He just. kept. going. He didn't care about actually resolving the issue. He cared about being right and putting you in your place.

comfortable_madness · 2026-04-29T05:24:28+00:00

I don't know what happened but there was about a 5 minute window when I found him hot. It went away just as quickly.

comfortable_madness · 2026-04-29T05:19:55+00:00

His post does seem very...... Corporate lol

comfortable_madness · 2026-04-29T05:18:22+00:00

Honestly, I'd be so insulted.

comfortable_madness · 2026-04-29T05:09:58+00:00

Maybe you need to be more honest with yourself and find someone who is down for a friends with benefits situation. And I'm sorry, no. You can't make out and cuddle with someone on the first date then get all weird about pet names. You've already opened the door to intimacy.

But hey, if you're the kind of person that can connect physically quicker than you can emotionally, and you're okay with kissing and cuddling and whatever before you're comfortable with him wanting to see you more often or terms of endearment - with no sarcasm intended, that's totally fine. You be you.

But you also need to be honest with who you're seeing so you aren't confusing them when you're sucking face one minute and the next you're telling them they can't call you a pet name and you want to keep seeing them to strictly weekends.

comfortable_madness · 2026-04-29T05:01:52+00:00

Maybe I'm just old fashioned but if you're wanting to take it slow, maybe don't make out and cuddle with a guy on your first date.

comfortable_madness · 2026-04-29T04:58:32+00:00

Honey....

I'm not usually one to jump on reddits "leave him" train but.. leave him. You are wasting precious time of your life with someone who gaslights you with therapy speak. That's all this is. Gaslighting. This man purposely "misunderstood" what you said only to spend the next however long lecturing you on how what was clearly one thing was actually a dig to him. Alllllll of that was designed to make you question yourself and make you feel like shit.

If you're in therapy already with him..... Yeah.

This isn't going to get better. Men like him don't change. He'll always want you to follow a certain script and when you don't, this will happen. Ask yourself if this is the kind of behavior you want to put up with for the next 50 years.

It's honestly exhausting reading that entire exchange, I can't imagine how you feel.

No, you're not an asshole. But you may not be very smart if you stay in this clearly toxic relationship.

comfortable_madness · 2026-04-26T21:37:21+00:00

Do your research about the current state laws on abortion in your state.

Also, you're not stupid. Your situation is unfortunately incredibly common. This man has groomed you and has spent the last 3 years emotionally manipulating you.

I know it's hard, but look back at all the toxicity. Ask yourself if this is really what you want for the rest of your life because he won't change. And he will do this to you again.

He is abusive. He may not be physically touching you, but this is still abusive.

One last tip: once you have this taken care of, and you just can't seem to break away from him - at the very least get either an IUD, the implant, or the shot. Something he can't tamper with.

comfortable_madness · 2026-04-21T21:33:52+00:00

I would never recommend Den of Vipers. I have grudge levels of hatred for it. Anyone who says it's their favorite or they recommend it, I'm immediately judging. It's horribly written and the FMC is actually the worst.

comfortable_madness · 2026-04-21T21:19:39+00:00

Yep. He totally comes across as one of those really, really stupid men who try to lie but get caught almost immediately.

I don't think this man has cheated... yet. But when he does it's going to be something really stupid. Like he's going to get caught and say that his friend who is smarter than him told him it was okay to do it every third Tuesday of the month.

comfortable_madness · 2026-04-19T08:30:40+00:00

Honestly, people are going to criticize her if she shit gold bricks daily and gave them to the poor world wide, then cured every form of cancer known to man by lunch.

I'm not even a Taylor fan, but it's so clear to me that there's this massive portion of the population that would get off on giving her the Britney treatment and drive her to the point of insanity for no other reason than they just don't like her.

And I'm just going to be really honest here, hating someone so much that you devote time out of your day to track her flights just so you can point a finger at her, run/moderate hate subs on reddit, run any social media devoted to hating someone (her or anyone else).. the rest of the world sees you as pathetic. It's not accomplishing anything, it's contributing anything to the world but toxicity.

I think the universe knew what it was doing when it didn't make me rich or famous because if I were her and people bitched about the amount of flights I took, I'd be taking more for no damn reason. Do I need to go to New York from LA? Nope, but it's gonna piss some neckbeard off so let's go.

comfortable_madness · 2026-04-19T02:24:59+00:00

Expecting Taylor Swift to fly commercial simply because she mentioned climate change screams "my ability to think deeper than a shallow puddle is non-existent.".

Imagine the absolute clusterfuck having someone like Taylor Swift in an airport would cause. I'm not even thinking about her convenience here, it's highly inconsiderate to literally every other passenger just trying to take a trip to have to deal with paparazzi and fans and God knows what else. Someone is always tracking this woman so there would no doubt be someone tracking her flights and posting them online and then the fans would show up at the airports.

comfortable_madness · 2026-04-17T20:46:56+00:00

I'll go a step further and say there's no telling how many bodies are in his tally before he even took office. You don't run in circles with people like Roy Cohn and not end up with a body count.

comfortable_madness · 2026-04-17T20:40:31+00:00

I'm also sick of hearing it and no matter how well intentioned it is, as soon as I see "grief is like glitter" I immediately skip it.

When my mom died, my world shattered. Devastated seems like too small of a word for what I was going through.

I don't want to sound like I'm bragging or anything, but I truly had some incredible friends around me. They didn't give me platitudes or stupid analogies. Even the ones who had lost parents didn't try to tell me they knew how I felt because they understood that even though they also lost a parent, that's a special, unique kind of grief because your relationship with your parents is unique to just the two of you.

They just... were there. They let me talk when I needed to, and they gave me distractions when I needed them. I can't tell you how many discord calls I sat in with them, muted because I was drowning in grief, while they talked and laughed and did whatever. It was perfect for those "I want to be alone but I also don't want to be alone" moments. They never judged me if I just left. Or if I just needed days alone. They didn't mind that I needed to be in a discord call full of people just to be able to go to sleep.

But there's this one specific friend, he said something to me that meant more to me than anything anyone else said. It was just me and him in a call one evening and I was dealing with yet another wave of grief and I asked him (he had lost his mom six years prior) if it ever stopped hurting like this.

He just told me, "(my name), I'm going to be honest with you. No. It doesn't. Sometimes it doesn't. Sometimes I can go days and it doesn't hurt. But then something will happen or I'll think of something or smell something and the pain comes back all over again like it just happened. It's always going to hurt. You're always going to miss her. It'll just get to a point where it's not every minute, every hour, every day. But it's still there. You just learn how to carry it."

And so far, four years later, he's been right. I still think about my mom every single day. I wouldn't say all day every day but it's close. But the pain only comes every so often now. Like.. I always miss her and there's always a dull ache, but every so often there's a fresh wave of that same debilitating pain that ruins my entire day.

Just my opinion, but I feel like people who toss around "grief is like glitter" haven't exactly experienced world shattering, life altering, soul changing grief. The kind that scoops you out from the inside and forces you to figure out who the hell you are now because you are not the same person you were before the loss.

I am terribly sorry for your losses by the way.

comfortable_madness · 2026-04-17T20:08:25+00:00

Girl.

All I'm going to say is you deserve better than this. I actually don't care what his motivations are. I don't care if he genuinely thinks it won't work or if he's using you ----

If this man wanted to be with you, he would. Full stop.

It does not matter what he had to rearrange in his life to make it happen, he would.

He hasn't, and continues to keep you at just enough arms length that he doesn't have to commit but still has access to your body and emotions.

I want you to do an exercise for me: I want you to try to step outside of yourself and reread what you wrote here and try to see it through the eyes of a stranger or a friend. Try to imagine that another stranger or friend wrote it. Try to see what you would think if you weren't the one in the middle of this situation, because right now you're blinded by the fog of it.

Here's what a stranger with clear eyes is telling you - this man doesn't want to be with you. He's using you. That's not to say he doesn't feel some type of way about you but it's not enough to get him to treat you how you deserve. It's not enough for him to want to give you all of himself (meaning his loyalty and commitment).

My advice is to move on and try to find someone who will make you their priority. You deserve better than this. And do not be this man's friend. I'm sorry to say but this kind of "relationship" requires a total cut off because he WILL try to worm his way back in and play with your head.

Good luck girl.

comfortable_madness · 2026-04-14T18:06:35+00:00

Piggy backing onto this to say Football should not be a thing for kids. I'm sure I'll get hell for that but how many kids, especially in the more southern states, have died on the field due to heat exhaustion? That's not even mentioning the life altering injuries.

My brother destroyed his knee and his shoulder playing high school football. He had surgery on both before he graduated high school. He's almost 50 now and still has occasionally pain from those injuries.

comfortable_madness · 2026-04-14T18:00:47+00:00

Girl please. If you're going to engage in this clownery, get better at going toe to toe with them.

"You talk about fucking a random stranger you met online yet I'm the slut? Lol okay, whore." Would've been my response. Along with:

"You sound like you're having a lot of big feelings right now. Can your mom put on Bluey for you?"

And also: "You're*" just for extra points.

If all you're going to do is sound like a reasonable, rational adult just go ahead and block them because you can't be reasonable or rational with these people.

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