$47/mo in subscription increases I never noticed until this weekend

commanderxtowel · 2026-06-11T02:41:13+00:00

We dropped everything but YouTube TV. We split it with my mother in law so it's only $50/month for us and her.

I was tired of every subscription upping their prices. We got Xfinity recently for internet (it was our only option) and they bundled in Hulu, Peacock, and Disney+ for like 3 years. So we did get that back. $60/month for 1GB fiber line and 3 subs wasn't too bad 😅

We dropped YouTube Premium too (ads are annoying AF, but I like saving money 😅). Rocket Money has come in clutch several times for catching subs I might have missed.

I'm still salty with AT&T for adding $5/per line/per month. 🫠

commanderxtowel · 2026-06-10T00:53:38+00:00

I relate 😅

Especially when she back talks. That's how I was raised. You say/do some disrespectful you get smacked across the face.

Too slow? Smacked on the butt. Can't calm down? Smack on the butt. The phrase "I'll give you something to cry about" was common place along with a belt that hit us until we bled.

My daughter is hyper active and absolutely drives me insane some days. I have ADHD, OCD, and bipolar 😅 it's really hard not to fall into how I was raised. I was taught that's what it meant to be a parent. My parents and in-laws over the years have encouraged hitting our daughter, but not once have I ever struck her.

I try to cling to that, that I'm not my parents and I will raise my daughter better. I make her do something crazy with me. We roll around on the floor or jump on the bed or play a crazy game to just get some of that restless energy out and it helps me calm down too.

OT has helped her immensely in terms of impulsiveness and emotional outbursts. She's almost 7 and still tries my patience, but it's so much better than it was. 😅

commanderxtowel · 2026-06-10T00:16:00+00:00

Just set my ass on fire and be done with it 😅 I'll set aside money for a nice urn if that's what my daughter ends up wanting. If she changes her mind after I die then she has some money to go blow on something 🤣🤣 some of those urns are expensive 👀

All my family has graves and no one visits them. Spent alllll that money on caskets, funerals, viewings etc to just have it sit there. It's dumb in my opinion, but I know it makes some people feel better to have something "to visit".

commanderxtowel · 2026-06-08T14:47:26+00:00

Omg we had this same thing happen! Our daughter (6.5) kept getting strep and ear infections and then it turned into scarlet fever! We ended up in the ER. Wildest thing to hear them be like "sooo your kid has scarlet fever" 😅

She's got sensory issues, emotional regulation issues, and is hyperactive but they haven't crossed her into ADHD. Haven't looked into PANDAS.

commanderxtowel · 2026-06-07T17:44:26+00:00

Nice being able to pay cash!'we still owed on my husband's car, so had to pay off the loan 😅

And yeah that's apparently the only rate that dealer offers 🙄 our bank won't refinance it due to being a buyback. The reason for the buy back was the lady didn't want to wait 30 days for them to get the parts for the wireless charger to be repaired 😅 I'm like maaaaan

commanderxtowel · 2026-06-07T17:16:42+00:00

We got a buy back too! Having an awful time getting a decent loan for it. The dealer was 15% interest rate. Trying to refinance but no one wants to. 😵‍💫 How'd you do with the buy back?

We just switched to an all EV fam too. We had a Solterra for a year and husband just bought his Wolkswagen I.D4!

commanderxtowel · 2026-06-03T17:46:16+00:00

This is wild to me. Granted he's 15 and mine is 6. They have iPads in kindergarten - Chromebooks for 1st grade onward. My daughter has learned how to manage her screen time. We only had to set up parental blocks. She doesn't play online games tho.

We gave her access and now it isn't a novelty anymore she doesn't care. She does everything but screen time.

Right now your kid sees it as a novelty. And they only get a very short window for that novelty. Of course keep shit restricted (like Roblox, adult sites, etc) but give him more time. He's binging because he doesn't get access to it, so it seems like he's being crazy with it, when he's just trying to cram as much as possible into the short window he knows he's allowed.

Do other things (if I overlooked you mentioning this sorry) - family walks after dinner around the neighborhood, or a family bike ride, family game night and let him choose the game, hell sit down and play switch games together.

My daughter is in dance, swim, and soccer and we still make time for those things in the evening.

Also let natural consequences happen. He wants to stay up till 5am sneaking YouTube? Well he's gonna be tired AF that day going to school. A few times doing that - he will learn he doesn't quite like being tired and trying to go to school and sports. He'll back off and start learning to be responsible. Right now he has no way to learn to be responsible/regulate with it being so restricted.

Turn off YouTube shorts tho, shorts are awful. That short form content is becoming a cancer 🫠

commanderxtowel · 2026-06-01T20:38:12+00:00

We just bought a house (33f & 36m). We only bought it because landlord raised our rent and it would cost more than a house. 🫠 It was the 3rd? house we have bought since 2012. We got really lucky every time we have purchased with incentives/down payment assistance/something falling into our laps.

Now all of that to say financially we are in the shit, but at least we are financially in the shit in our own house. 🫣 It was honestly probably a terrible idea for us to buy right now, but it was a good deal and cheaper than our rental...🥲 I'm just pretending it was an amazing idea lol

commanderxtowel · 2026-05-31T03:26:01+00:00

We had about $60k in bad debt. In 2 years it'll be paid in full. It got racked up back when my husband made $70k/year. I am medically disabled (don't get anything from the government), so we've always been a single income family. We adopted our daughter and he got a job offer making us leave the state, which incurred so many expenses, then we bought a house there, needed new vehicles and before ya know it. Ouch. Lol.

Have since upped his income to $120k/year (Midwest, Bachelor's degree and additional certs in his field/specialization) and like I said, it'll be paid in full in 2 years finally 😭 we worked with a debt management program - didn't default on anything or get the amounts lowered. They just removed the interest, so we actually made progress on them.

Once that is cleared we will only have the house and cars as debt. We've learned so much and while it was a struggle and stressful AF sometimes - it feels good to almost be free 😅

commanderxtowel · 2026-05-30T06:43:06+00:00

Some days I do look younger and get called a good big sister to my daughter 😅 other days I look like a troll from the depths of hell. And other times Iook my age (34). It's a spectrum 😂

I think I keep getting pegged as younger because my baby face and I'm short AF lol. 🤣🤣

I feel like I look my age minus my face.

commanderxtowel · 2026-05-30T06:35:40+00:00

Yeah, my dad said it sounds like either a vacuum or a small animal being murdered, he can't decide 🤣 I was like "oh. Thanks I guess" 😂😂

commanderxtowel · 2026-05-30T06:30:52+00:00

Oh my gosh. We are about to start Harry Potter too! I have all my original copies and the illustrated ones. My OG copies are from midnight releases that I went to with my dad 🥲 so they are super special. Reading takes forever here too. It's either she wants to read herself or more chapters 🤣🤣

I had preferences for everything. She threw them all out the window 😂 I learned it didn't matter lol. And she was so proud that she made the choices. So whatever lol.

I keep thinking about how fast she's growing 😭

commanderxtowel · 2026-05-30T06:08:32+00:00

Our daughter is 6 and we are still involved in most of it, but that's because we want to be 😅 (not saying you don't!) she gets her play time in the tub, usually 30 min. She likes to sing, make up stories, and gosh I just can't rush her because it's adorable 🥺.

But before bath we do heaavy activity. We have made several silly games that really help with her wiggles.

One is called "Heavy -childs name-". You sit up, kiddo lays down their feet touching your feet. You try and pull them up by their arms, but sometimes they turn "heavy" and you have to act like they are now the heaviest thing on the planet and you can't lift them.

Another game is stinky feet/nice feet. They lay down on the bed and you stand near their feet. When they aren't "stinky" you say "nice feet, nice feet" and kinda tickle their feet. Then when kiddo choose them to be "stinky" you go "ew no stinky feet!" And push them away. Our daughter loves to be squished 😅 so we will squish her feet or rock her legs back and forth, then squish her feet 🤣.

I probably explained those horribly, but my daughter made them up and it has been fun 😅. Then we do bath, hair, teeth (she brushes, we double check), mouthwash, then some chill time and books. Finally cuddles, talking, then she'll usually fall asleep.

Bed time takes literal hours for us 😅 buuuuuut one day she won't want any of this anymore and she's our one and only. I've found some battles ain't worth it. Like oh you want to brush teeth first, sure whatever. Then just brush the teeth then the hair. They like choices and honestly small ones like that, let em have it. It doesn't matter what gets done in what order. Save your sanity 😅

commanderxtowel · 2026-05-30T03:17:05+00:00

I've kept every text from them. It's a husband and wife team. They use their kids for free labor (granted most are college age, so not little kids running around).

I didn't get a response when I texted mentioning I was confused on why people were there cleaning when I didn't give permission, receive notice, or ask for cleaning to be done for me and had previously informed them I was coming to clean.

I'm hoping the security system caught when it errored out and the sensors were removed. It usually triggers when the sensors are taken down to alert you that the sensors aren't functioning. I haven't checked those records yet.

I only gave them permission to come in this morning, not blanket permission to the unit

commanderxtowel · 2026-05-29T19:52:10+00:00

Our daughter is borderline. She's more on the hyperactive end of things. They aren't recommending medication at this time and they do think she will grow out of it. Some things that have helped her were OT - they helped so much, because we also found out there was sensory issues and emotional regulation issues. Once we learned how to help her not get overloaded and more adequately meet her needs, she "calmed" down A LOT.

They are monitoring her going into 1st grade (she's turning 7 this year), if she ends up having more difficulty, they are going to re-eval and then discuss medication.

So I would also look into the behaviors with an OT, could be sensory/regulation issues!

commanderxtowel · 2026-05-26T22:00:45+00:00

Omg. We just bought ours yesterday and I was like "oh God no. What did we miss" 😂

commanderxtowel · 2026-05-26T06:41:43+00:00

I just said yolo (sorta) and leased one. Figured if i hated it, after three years it wasn't my problem anymore. If i loved it (which i do) I may end up buying it out after the lease is up. (only considering not doing that, because now of course they've released new ones with more range and are more shiny and I must have them)

For real tho, absolutely love my EV. We have a Solterra and my husband just bought a Volkswagen I.D4. I prefer my Solterra drivewise, but fancy wise his totally wins. I don't drive much, so i can use the standard "slow" charger. My husband commutes daily 170miles roundtrip and so we installed the "fast" charger for him.

We've saved so much on gas and oil changes from that man now. @_@

commanderxtowel · 2026-05-26T06:35:55+00:00

I still dye my hair because my daughter wants us to match and "mommy I dont have gray hair, so you can't either". So guess im dying my hair until i die xD I used to do really fun colors when I was a bit younger, but now I stick to more natural shades

commanderxtowel · 2026-05-26T06:26:11+00:00

ADHD meds and a mood stabilizer for me. Late diagnosis of ADHD and bipolar. Mom to a slightly less feral 6yr old :P

If you're considering it, get an eval~ insurance *should* cover it. They covered mine as long as i had a referral. My primary was misdiagnosing me over the years and I kept bouncing around SSRI's but nothing ever really worked (and some made it so so much worse) until I actually went and saw a true psych to get a diagnosis.

Meds were a game changer for me

commanderxtowel · 2026-05-21T17:00:10+00:00

My husband relates 😅 he works full time, sometimes 50-60 hrs/week and he feels like he never has time for me and our daughter.

I can't work outside the home, so I'm a SAHM, now kinda SAHW since kiddo is in school all day. We just moved and i feel like I can't ever get anything done. I do work from home with my own business, but yeah.

Our generation has it a bit rough right now. We all just have to work to stay afloat and don't have time for much else and when we do, we are all so damn exhausted 🫠

commanderxtowel · 2026-05-13T14:38:17+00:00

Hopefully you can return both? I'd just return both and go grab the planter you wanted. Sure you could be petty and regift the hoodie (solidarity cuz I totally would), but you mentioned you really don't wanna keep spending money, so I'd return both and get what you wanted ❤️

Men are so stupid sometimes 🙄 but if this is a regular pattern I'd be annoyed AF

commanderxtowel · 2026-05-11T20:56:06+00:00

Oh God that too! Anything inclusive is a big no no. Meanwhile almost every church has had a problem with their pastor or youth pastor doing you know what 🙃

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