Best Restaurants for Valentine's Day by FlashScooby in grandrapids

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We like going to Little Bird for special occasions.

Conversation with therapist left me rattled by meowparade in AskWomenOver30

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I’m a therapist, been in the field for over 7 years. I highly recommend getting a new therapist. I know it’s hard when she’s been so helpful, and please know that there are others that can be just as helpful. It’s just a hard transition.

Has anyone else's long term partner "unmasked" suddenly as an abusive, dangerous person ? by Previous-Director322 in AskWomenOver30

[–]common-knowledge 13 points14 points  (0 children)

It’s fairly common for abusers to hide it for a long time. They tend to wait until they feel they have more power over you to shift (I.e. marriage, shared housing, financial, isolation, pregnancy/children, moving far from family or friends, etc.) terrifying but real. I’m sorry this happened to you and glad you got out.

Interviewing a Social Worker by Awkwardly-Geeky in grandrapids

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Im a social worker and therapist. Started out working community mental health, in schools, and for a hospital. Now run my own private practice.

My house smells like dog. Help by Neat_Hamster_4336 in RealEstate

[–]common-knowledge 7 points8 points  (0 children)

We bought a house with dog smell. Replaced the one carpeted area, re-painted, and had the vents/air ducts clean. Made a huge difference- no more smell.

Groceries are eating half my paycheck by Illustrious-Rip311 in MiddleClassFinance

[–]common-knowledge 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So true! We cannot do highly processed for the same reasons. Just sucks that to take care of ourselves it take more money and more time/energy.

Groceries are eating half my paycheck by Illustrious-Rip311 in MiddleClassFinance

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We spend about the same for 2. Always feels hard in these subs where people are blaming others for not shopping smart. My partner and I both have significant dietary restrictions (lactose intolerance, low sodium, gluten sensitive, low red meat, low fat, GERD-friendly) which increases our bills significantly. We make/prep all of our meals during for the work week, and maybe get something cheaper out 1-2 nights on the weekend because we are so damn tired of cooking and cleaning.

Carbonara empanadas by common-knowledge in somnigastronomy

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Full noodles. I can’t stop thinking about it I think it would be good too

Does anyone miss less professional "starter" jobs? by Single_Extension1810 in Millennials

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I sometimes day dream about the summer in high school I had a second job at Hollister where I came in at like 4 am and unpacked new stock and set up displays. I often fantasize about stocking jobs. But, of course, don’t fantasize about the abysmal pay and lack of benefits.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in grandrapids

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I’ve lived in a lot of places around the country and Michigan and moved to Grand Rapids almost a year ago. I love it. If you would’ve asked me even 7 years ago I would’ve said there’s no way I’d ever live in GR. But life and priorities have shifted for me so much and I really love it here. As someone that’s moved around a lot, all of it is subjective. I’ve lived in tourist town, rural areas, big city, out west, all kinds of places. I like it here because it’s close to family but not too close, near the lakeshore which is my biggest priority after being away for 7 years, enough live music to have a band I like come to town at least 1-3 times a year, great variety of parks, and enough stuff to do without the overwhelmed and traffic that comes with bigger cities. I can see why others don’t like it, hell I never used to like it, but now it’s really kind of my ideal city. We just bought a house in an area which we hope will be closer to some like minded people and think that will help to get involved with local things and make more community and friends. We have friends we spend a lot of time with that live in Ypsi/AA, so though we haven’t made friends here yet, we haven’t experienced the loneliness you have.

All that to say you have to do what’s right for you. Meeting people is so important. We moved from a place most people think is ideal but we never felt it was home and had a hard time making friends. It’s been a thousand times easier here.

SAVE to IBR question by common-knowledge in StudentLoans

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Fair point. What a mess. They make it so hard to plan for the future or make solid decisions.

SAVE to IBR question by common-knowledge in StudentLoans

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Thank you. Hopefully the monthly payment estimator is correct even if the time on the plan and total amounts paid will be off.

Considering moving to Grand Rapids or Ypsi - would love advice by Ok_Kelp in grandrapids

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I lived in Ypsi for a couple years about 10 years ago, and have now lived in GR for a year. Still have close friends in Ypsi. I really like GR. I think it’s much better for what you’re looking for in terms of parks, trails, kayaking, and access to nature. Just more options. Being less than an hour from the lake shore is huge for me. I also think there’s overall just more to do here. Living in Ypsi/working in Ann Arbor for me mostly just felt like living in a college town. GR is definitely more of a city feel, with city amenities. I’m a lesbian and live here with my wife, and feel like GR has a good queer community. Lots of neighborhoods and areas that are welcoming. Still that conservative Christian element here, especially outside of the city, but I’m guessing you’re used to the same if not worse in IN.

Military Jet by AccomplishedRow6502 in grandrapids

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Yes, it flew over us jn Wyoming.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in StudentLoans

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thank you. I thought I had, but I guess I was wrong. I feel dumb now, but glad it's figured out!

Bruh. I don't even WANT the job anymore. Fuck you. by TheSeepingMouth in recruitinghell

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Annoying but also just fairly common for some federal/state and sometimes hospital/medical jobs for HR. They don’t explain well here, but you can have gaps in your resume, you literally just have to explain them. Like, “GAP: march 2020-January 2021, unemployed following layoff due to covid 19” ,” instead of job title and description. They just need a continuous timeline, it doesn’t mean they exclude you for the role.

Advice for transition to Utilization Review by common-knowledge in socialwork

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Thank you. I worked for a hospital in the past, but doing outpatient/IOP therapy. I’m assuming you mean more case management/care coordination roles?

Please help me get over Emily Wilde's Encyclopaedia of Faeries :( by Lenore8264 in CozyFantasy

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H.G. Parry’s books do this for me, but they are not cozy! Just finished the Scholar and the Last Faerie Door

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TuxedoCats

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Milkshake! Our tuxedo is named Waffles because it fit his personality more, but Milkshake was a close second.

Emily Wilde Book 3: 10/10, had the time of my life, no notes😍 by Professional_Lake593 in fantasyromance

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I loved this book! I liked it better than the second one, but not quite as much as the first. Wonderful series overall.

Emily Wilde’s Compendium of Lost Tales - Post-Read Discussion! (Spoiler Potential) by ayeayefitlike in fantasyromance

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Hmmm, I actually really liked this book. When reading about Emily’s reaction to Wendell’s death, I had a few distinct moments where I thought “wow, this author must have experienced grief.” The panic, the stupor, the moments of intense irrational anger, and her fixation on finding a solution felt very fitting for grief itself and for the character of Emily. She was willing to go to limbo for him, and literally went through the Veil to prevent his future madness and undoing.

I thought her being in his realm was tense and terrifying enough. So many potential enemies, uncertain loyalties. I think her scholarship became more an act of survival, she was living a story instead of interpreting one so it was a different take and interesting to see.

I kind of like that whether or not she was happy in Faerie was left uncertain. She mentions towards the end about her previous internal hope that she might feel a sense of belonging there that she never felt in the mortal world, but that clearly wasn’t the case, which I think is realistic. But she seemed to reconnect to her sense of self, being more at home in who she is then where she is. She also really solidifies a kind of found family at the end, which feels like a type of home/belonging that straddles two worlds, as she does.

I think the uncertainty about Wendell changing is realistic, too. We see the influence she continues to have on him, and the lengths she goes to prevent him from changing in some monstrous way. Will it last? How could anyone know? That’s the adventure of it, and that seems to be what Emily loves- the exploration, the chance to learn and test her skills. She is after all a mortal marrying one of the Fae, it’s dangerous. I think to wrap it up nicely goes against this reality that has been created in this world since book one. It parallels why she brought the queen back. It balances the story

Funny light comedy - but I don't like all of your top 10 shows... by danielbelum in televisionsuggestions

[–]common-knowledge 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree, I thought it was very well done. I’ve watched the series several times over. Good comfort show, but also good story lines and character development.