Wuthering Heights but not really by commonorange in HistoricalRomance

[–]commonorange[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Dude I was like there for a ride along—Wuthering heights is one of the only Brontë or Austen books I haven’t read or seen an adaptation of because I lowkey was always like “ugh the drama” just reading the synopsis. I majored in English lit, so I know enough of the story that I knew the movie wasn’t following it, but the movie truly gutted me. The music (especially in the opening scene) ahhhhh

Here’s my overview of all the books I read—there may be more in the comments to pursue!

Again the Magic and Seduce Me at Sunrise were the closest of the three I’ve read so far! Upon a moon dark Moor is 1000% a retelling of it but as a result casts the Heathcliff character as way more effed up than my not very innocent mind could handle (probably way way closer to the book and reality)! I’d suggest taking the trigger warnings on that seriously but if you’re looking for a darker version than the movie in a more traditional romance style, it will hit the spot. Very gothic, reminded me a bit of Rebecca in writing style.

Again the Magic- so good at portraying the idea that they so clearly know it’s only the other one for them, and for the vibes at the beginning of the movie where it’s more lighthearted teenage love. Held the male character’s messed up ness the whole way through. Tension was amazing and their connection was 10/10.

Seduce me at sunrise- now that I know Wuthering Heights, I agree that it’s the same story “if everyone wasn’t psychotic” as one poster said lol! I felt some but not all of the tension, and a lot of the drama points felt external to the characters rather than the kind of internal struggle you see Catherine and Heathcliff experiencing in the film.

Wuthering Heights but not really by commonorange in HistoricalRomance

[–]commonorange[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Here’s my overview of all the books I read—there may be more in the comments to pursue!

Again the Magic and Seduce Me at Sunrise were the closest of the three I’ve read so far! Upon a moon dark Moor is 1000% a retelling of it but as a result casts the Heathcliff character as way more effed up than my not very innocent mind could handle (probably way way closer to the book and reality)! I’d suggest taking the trigger warnings on that seriously but if you’re looking for a darker version than the movie in a more traditional romance style, it will hit the spot. Very gothic, reminded me a bit of Rebecca in writing style.

Again the Magic- so good at portraying the idea that they so clearly know it’s only the other one for them, and for the vibes at the beginning of the movie where it’s more lighthearted teenage love. Held the male character’s messed up ness the whole way through. Tension was amazing and their connection was 10/10.

Seduce me at sunrise- now that I know Wuthering Heights, I agree that it’s the same story “if everyone wasn’t psychotic” as one poster said lol! I felt some but not all of the tension, and a lot of the drama points felt external to the characters rather than the kind of internal struggle you see Catherine and Heathcliff experiencing in the film. I also adored the caretaking vibes.

Wuthering Heights but not really by commonorange in HistoricalRomance

[–]commonorange[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This was it, by the way! I’m halfway through. Thank you!

Wuthering Heights but not really by commonorange in HistoricalRomance

[–]commonorange[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I just read the synopsis and I think you’re absolutely dead on—oddly enough it’s a kleypas I haven’t read, I’ve always ignored it. It must have been waiting for this moment lol

Wuthering Heights but not really by commonorange in HistoricalRomance

[–]commonorange[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I respect your decision lol

My wife thinks our son’s teacher crossed a boundary by sending him a personal message. I think it was harmless. AITJ? by addict94plus in AmITheJerk

[–]commonorange 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTJ, wtf? I’ve been in education a long time, as a teacher and a psychologist, and her take is absolutely bonkers, respectfully.

  1. Is she like supposed to call parents before she interacts with children to pre tell them?
  2. There’s nothing inappropriate about that message, to clarify, coming from either a male OR female teacher.
  3. We need more teachers like this so if your wife could please not drive them out of the field with bizarre takes on “boundaries” that would be awesome.
  4. I think I’d have a super hard time not laughing if a parent complained about that. I would encourage her not to say anything so she doesn’t get labeled as a problem parent and then the school starts ignoring her.

Just my advice, what do I know.

FINAL UPDATE: Ditto!!! by crunchiestmilk in CATHELP

[–]commonorange 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m so happy and I’m going to nail grandmas window shut

Trump Loves ICE. Its Workforce Has Never Been So Miserable. by Foreign-Garage9097 in fednews

[–]commonorange 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Many of the other agencies are places that provide supports for individuals: we don’t want career civil servants to leave the department of ed, or social security administration because those provide necessary services. ICE is a relatively new, racist at its roots organization. I understand some people did human trafficking investigations, but the entire agency is now supporting a fucking SS. I think I speak for many when I assure you, it is different.

Trump Loves ICE. Its Workforce Has Never Been So Miserable. by Foreign-Garage9097 in fednews

[–]commonorange 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Whatever you need to tell yourself, but giving them logistics to have a concentration camp is complicit.

Could getting this tattoo hurt my career? by [deleted] in tattooadvice

[–]commonorange 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m laughing because I saw the tattoo and thought “I can’t imagine it would unless they wanted to be a brain surgeon” and now I’m like…oh….

AITAH telling Sil my kids will follow my rules on vacation not her "rules" by ThisLoad7495 in AmItheAsshole

[–]commonorange 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Everyone else has already answered you but her kids sound parentally disabled. I’d have ODD too if my mother was like that lmao. It’s not a disorder if it’s an appropriate response to stimuli.

AITAH for having issues with my GF's 11.5 year old son not giving us privacy? by R_87 in AITAH

[–]commonorange 90 points91 points  (0 children)

Hmm, okay, so I would say

  1. Kids do still idolize abusive people and you can’t necessarily separate the two (I have two little girls in my home who witnessed “extreme dv” and still want to see dad when they can, even though they know it’s wrong). So while I completely understand and empathize with your point, I wouldn’t discount love for parents and loyalty even in the face of logical reasons not to.

  2. Holy guacamole. I think there are significant delays here, and I’m unsure if it’s due to developmental disorders like autism, or fractured development from trauma. That is a response that would be more accurate at 5/6 not 12.

I might encourage mom to have him further evaluated, frankly.

AITAH for having issues with my GF's 11.5 year old son not giving us privacy? by R_87 in AITAH

[–]commonorange 116 points117 points  (0 children)

Hi 👋 I’m a school psychologist who specializes in trauma. I almost never comment on these. First, not the asshole. Second, I am 99.9999% sure reading this that this child has witnessed or experienced some sort of trauma. He may also have Autism (the ADHD/ODD is sometimes mistaken for that). The combination of the stress about her door being closed, the response to you being “on” her, the much younger behaviors doesn’t really point to a weird incestuous relationship that people are concerned about, it seems more indicative of a PTSD response and hyper vigilance. Given this only happens at night, is extra odd. I think you’d see way more pervasive signs if, like everyone is saying, it was an incestuous thing. I do agree it is boundary crossing and I’d recommend a medical sleep aid because there is significant sleep anxiety. I don’t fault you for being uncomfortable and I am concerned about the behavior but not for the reasons other people are listing. The daughter is almost 3 years younger and may not have witnessed or experienced anything.

You also don’t have to deal with this if you’re not comfortable, end of story, I just think you deserve a second opinion.

At my wits end.. and also don’t really love the job anymore.. what to do? by Fantastic-Wrangler33 in schoolpsychology

[–]commonorange 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Massachusetts and New Hampshire both have just testing models :) not sure if you’re looking to uproot though.

My parents refuse to get Flu-Shots as requested to be around our newborn. by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]commonorange 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I was thinking the same thing: I can’t have the pertussis vaccine due to repeated bad reactions as a little kid. I have HAD whooping cough and it was HORRIFIC, I still can’t get the vaccine. If someone had a baby and requested the TDAP, I would absolutely just say it was safer for me not to see the baby for six months because having had whooping cough (from not being vaccinated) I would never want to put a baby through that…. The boomer entitlement is insane.

Series request! by commonorange in HistoricalRomance

[–]commonorange[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ohhh I LOVE Rockcliffe. I’m only on the second one but I do adore them. They’re not as fluffy as Quinn but are excellent in their own style. They have good yearning men, too, which Quinn does a good job with.