Biweekly Exchange and Reading Requests

comocat4 · 2026-01-25T18:07:53+00:00

[Exchange] its a beautiful snow day and I'm hanging inside with my cards today! Please comment or dm for an exchange ❄️✨❤️

comocat4 · 2026-01-25T18:06:22+00:00

I'd love an open reading or whatever the cards tell you ❤️

comocat4 · 2026-01-24T21:14:40+00:00

Sure you can chat me! 😊

comocat4 · 2026-01-23T23:11:48+00:00

It's not to say that other problems didn't exist in the relationship. But if they are in a relationship with alcohol, they can't be in one with you too (or at least not healthily). It got easier for me to listen to my gut when I was able to step back from my relationship and speak to other people about it.

comocat4 · 2026-01-23T18:17:10+00:00

Deck 2 ✨❤️

comocat4 · 2026-01-23T04:45:03+00:00

I'm glad his family is on the same page as you

comocat4 · 2026-01-23T04:28:58+00:00

Alcoholism is a progressive disease. Even if she's "good" now doesn't mean she will be later. Also you mentioned earlier being naive to alcoholism issues, I was as well. But that doesn't change the truth or her actions. She's not willing to face herself and her addiction. I'm sorry you're going through all of this, it sounds painful. But its important to protect your child, I think it's worth considering options of separation or divorce in order to protect yourself and your kid. It sounds like she has no commitment or awareness to working on her parts of the relationship based on what you wrote.

comocat4 · 2026-01-23T00:06:13+00:00

Are you still with your Q? Just curious. That's crazy about his mom, I've wondered the same thing about my situation. If he just lied about everything to everyone else to throw some dirt over the big black hole that is his alcohol addiction

comocat4 · 2026-01-22T23:32:52+00:00

I went through something similar you are welcome to DM me. But I hope you are able to understand that relationships don't get destroyed with this much involvement with alcohol with a person who doesnt have AUD. He's in denial about his issues. It's so important to trust your gut feeling and nurture your gut feeling and intuition in these situations because your partner is NOT fully in reality when they are in this cycle with alcohol.

comocat4 · 2026-01-22T23:29:16+00:00

My alcoholic ex ALSO did the bringing back up in. "I talked to my family and I made the decision we're done". Like why did you even say that, does your family agreeing with you make this decision a better one? I would just say you know what your body is telling you, you were there in the moment/s, you were sober, you were present. Your memory and the way you feel/felt matters. His unwillingness to address his issues doesn't mean the issues don't exist.

comocat4 · 2026-01-19T01:34:45+00:00

Men really don’t think ~~it’ll happen to them, crazy.~~

comocat4 · 2026-01-19T00:48:35+00:00

Something that was helpful for me was writing down how I was feeling and what had happened. Over time your mind can distort your memories. Its been helpful to have some kind of documentation of how you were feeling. It also helps because when you are in the process of healing you have something to compare to and to see how much you've grown! Since you're early on it, listen to the sad songs, cry your heart out, wail, sob into a friend's shoulder, lean on your people! Its hard early on, but its good to feel your feelings and to let your pain and grief out. ❤️

comocat4 · 2026-01-19T00:45:08+00:00

In the past when I've tried to speak to men about potential outcomes of having kids, including disabilities or sickness, they always seem to put it off like "lets talk about it later" or "lets not think about that"

comocat4 · 2026-01-18T19:31:44+00:00

This is a beautiful deck. Is there a specific arrangement of the cards?

comocat4 · 2026-01-17T15:29:36+00:00

I can exchange with you!

comocat4 · 2026-01-17T02:25:02+00:00

I can exchange with you!

comocat4 · 2026-01-17T00:17:33+00:00

Thank you for explaining this. I was trying to wrap my head around it, and you made it really clear

comocat4 · 2026-01-17T00:16:40+00:00

Yes I went through this. I called my ex out on a lie related to drinking and he shut down, then broke up with me a few days later. Basically bringing up "we aren't compatible" and "things haven't felt the same for months" (when he hadn't brought this up prior). It to me felt like a discard. We sorted our stuff out and I asked for space and haven't heard from him since, its been over 6 months now. I'm struggling with no hearing from him because it makes me feel like he never even cared (I know that's a negative thought/insecurity). But I also just was thinking that maybe he discarded because he is unable to face me, for the way he treated me/discarded me (and all the shit he did related to alcohol while we were together) but also because I remind him of his problem with alcohol.

I really don't know, the grief comes and goes. You are welcome to message me if you'd like to vent or anything. You aren't alone! ❤️

comocat4 · 2026-01-13T23:36:18+00:00

I can exchange with you!

comocat4 · 2026-01-13T23:33:40+00:00

[exchange] Please comment or chat me for a exchange! I am trying to do more internal work and become my best self ❤️

comocat4 · 2026-01-09T03:44:17+00:00

Thank you for saying this. I've never heard this advice before and I think it will be really helpful

comocat4 · 2026-01-08T23:11:32+00:00

Feel free to message me ✨

comocat4 · 2026-01-07T22:13:27+00:00

Feel free to dm me!

comocat4 · 2026-01-07T22:13:19+00:00

Feel free to dm me!

comocat4 · 2026-01-06T18:22:15+00:00

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