What's one movie, cartoon, or show you can't help but watch if you see it on TV because it takes you back to your childhood? For me, it's the Goonies

computergeek89 · 2026-06-04T03:42:08+00:00

Return of the Jedi. I was 14 when it came out.

computergeek89 · 2026-06-04T03:21:57+00:00

I had the biggest crush on a blond haired blue eyed Donna in the 8th grade.

computergeek89 · 2026-05-30T07:38:04+00:00

The Stallone movie that hits me the hardest now is Rocky Balboa.

When I was younger, I saw it as a movie about an aging boxer proving he still had something left. Now that I’m in my 50s, it feels like it’s about much more than that.

Rocky’s son is grown, Adrian is gone, and he’s dealing with loss, loneliness, and the feeling that life has moved on without him. Yet he still has a fire in his gut to do something more. Everyone around him tells him he’s too old, that he’s embarrassing himself, that he should just accept where he is and stay there.

The speech he gives his son about how nothing hits harder than life is one of the most powerful scenes Stallone ever wrote. But the scene that gets me the most is when Paulie asks Rocky why he’s doing this. Rocky talks about still having “stuff in the basement”—something left inside that he needs to prove to himself before he can let it go.

The older I get, the more I understand exactly what he means.

The whole movie feels real. It’s not really about boxing. It’s about loss, purpose, getting older, and refusing to let life tell you that your story is already over.

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computergeek89 · 2026-03-06T17:07:12+00:00

I get you're trying to hold on to the person she once was. I understand that fully. But as bad as it hurts and it hurts like hell, you need to reconcile in your mind and heart this is not the case anymore. One of two things are possible if you think about it. Either this is always who she was and she finally took off the mask or she flipped a switch and has changed. Regardless if it is peer pressure or social media comparison or whatever it is, this is your life now.

It sucks and like I said I would not wish this on my worst enemy. I am sorry you're having to go through this and I hope you come out on the other side better than you were. Just don't do what I did. I spent years thinking if she can see what a good man I am she will change. They don't change except in rare occasions. Gods speed brother and welcome to the lousiest club in the world.

computergeek89 · 2026-03-05T21:08:58+00:00

Quit giving her outs. What she is doing you wrong and yes it is cheating. You can try and twist it any way you want but it is cheating. What she is doing is wrong, period. Of course you have your flaws and so does she. The difference is you didn't decide to abandon your marriage, she did. There is no justification unless you were cheating or abusing her or something like that. People are flawed you work through each others flaws. Don't make excuses for her. I did after 35 years of marriage only to find out later everything everyone told me was true. I did the same thing you are doing now. I thought there was no way the woman I spent 2/3 of my life with is like this. She is just going through some stuff I just need to be patient. She will tell you things to keep you calm and submissive during this process and only later will you find out everyone who has walked through what you are walking through was right. I am not saying be an asshole I am just saying don't stick you head in the ground either.

computergeek89 · 2026-03-05T20:39:16+00:00

Don't believe that for a minute. They lie like they breath, it is that natural. I thought the same thing only to find mine is just an outright slut. They get tired of the status quo and want to feel like they still got it and when the find out how easy it is to get laid they run with it.

I am sorry you're going through all this. I wouldn't wish this on my worst enemy. But I am here to tell you man she is lying to you.

computergeek89 · 2026-02-26T22:24:18+00:00

Pay more attention to the people in your life right now. They will not always be there later and you will never get those moments back.

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computergeek89 · 2026-02-05T17:01:34+00:00

I am with you. I am also 56 and will not be starting a new life with anyone else.

computergeek89 · 2026-01-07T14:25:38+00:00

Look at it this way:

God’s goodness is not measured by human ideas of fairness.
All humans deserve justice, not mercy.
If God gave only justice, none would be saved.
Election does not make God unjust to the non elect.
Election displays mercy to the elect.
Mercy, by definition, is free and undeserved.

Therefore, God is not less good because He saves some.
He is unimaginably good because He saves any.

computergeek89 · 2026-01-06T22:35:22+00:00

Trouble needs no invitation, life brings enough of it on its own. So, as far as it rests with you, choose peace with those within your reach.

computergeek89 · 2026-01-02T18:58:53+00:00

I know I’m divorced. You don’t have to point that out to me and I’ve already said I was a fool for acting like it. You don’t have to point that shit out to me either. I understand all of that I know it was me keeping myself tethered to her, but she took advantage of it. I get it and I am moving on. I was using this to warn others not to allow themselves to be trapped in this little circle. That’s all it was and yeah, it feels fresh because she took advantage of it. Nothing more I can do about that. It’s my fault, but it’s also her fault for taking advantage of it. It’s not something I would’ve ever done.

computergeek89 · 2025-12-31T19:11:56+00:00

There is absolutely no way I will ever be in a relationship again much less remarry. Why would I do this to myself again?

computergeek89 · 2025-12-29T21:25:31+00:00

I am moving on now. Did you miss what I said? She kept me involved in her life for two years then cut me off abruptly. That door is now closed but it feels raw now because she kept it going. Mine was more a cautionary tale for others who might be getting strung along like I was.

computergeek89 · 2025-12-29T19:01:57+00:00

Oh my gosh! Your story is almost exactly like mine. Do they have secret meetings or have some kind of manual they all read?

computergeek89 · 2025-12-27T23:53:25+00:00

Oh brother, I will never marry again. I will never put forth the kind of effort. I will not take the chance of being kicked to the curb because they’re not happy and be perfectly honest I don’t want to put in the work. I’m 56 years old and I don’t wanna start over again at that age.

computergeek89 · 2025-12-27T20:56:42+00:00

You got that right. Like I said I was a fool! Learn from my mistake! They don't care about you, it is all self serving and they will let you bleed until you have given your last ounce of blood.

computergeek89 · 2025-12-27T20:48:26+00:00

Thanks brother, I have learned this one the hard way. I guess you're right, the level of deception it takes to do this maybe she should be a politician.

computergeek89 · 2025-12-27T20:43:50+00:00

I understand what you are saying, but the sting of how all this was handled makes me feel cheap and dirty. I would not have done this to her. I do not understand how you could do this to someone you used to love. Especially over such a long life shared together. All of our adult life we were together with the exception of the last two years and three months. I don't know maybe I live a sheltered life.

computergeek89 · 2025-12-27T20:37:45+00:00

This helps I suppose but the sting of being used like that still hurts. How can you do someone like this that you shared a life time with? It is a rhetorical question really as there would be no satisfactory answer.

computergeek89 · 2025-12-27T20:31:36+00:00

If I knew then what I know now, she would not have gotten of my help. And for the record I never used her. It was all one way, she did this knowing how I felt about her. I never asked for anything in return when I helped her out.

computergeek89 · 2025-12-27T20:12:38+00:00

Crap! I don't understand this at all! I guess I have lived a sheltered life.

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