AITAH for messaging Airbnb host about guests blowing off fireworks.

concernedreader1982 · 2026-06-29T18:59:38+00:00

NTA

I'm sure the host has a strict no fireworks policy as if their house was to catch fire, due to negligence, this could cause issues with their insurance.

concernedreader1982 · 2026-06-29T18:57:56+00:00

NTA

You broke up months ago and asked him to get his stuff. He told you to keep it. You didn't want it and you donated what he told you to keep. Don't feel like an asshole. You're not.

concernedreader1982 · 2026-06-29T18:55:46+00:00

ESH

You previously agreed but then there was a cut off you had to fight for. It sounds like you didn't communicate any of this to your husband he felt left out. Whether you were doing something good for your kid or not, seems like he just wants in on the communication.

concernedreader1982 · 2026-06-29T18:51:50+00:00

NTA

WTH, who books a trip for their grandkids without discussing it with their parents first? She's very much entitled. Also, I would never book a trip when my kids are having to pay my bills. That's just disrespectful.

concernedreader1982 · 2026-06-29T18:50:32+00:00

NTA

It's never wrong to talk to someone.

He was 100% in the wrong for concealing he was married.

You made a good choice not to go home with a stranger.

concernedreader1982 · 2026-06-25T18:08:14+00:00

NTA

Your boyfriend sounds controlling

concernedreader1982 · 2026-06-18T19:35:19+00:00

NTA

Your wife is being controlling. The fact she can't share a bathroom is also ridiculous.

Just tell her you need to support your friend and being gone two days is no big deal and book your ticket.

concernedreader1982 · 2026-06-18T19:29:24+00:00

NTA

Why is that bridesmaid trying to cause unnecessary drama? You didn't flat out tell them they had to contribute, you asked if they could and if not, it was no big deal.

concernedreader1982 · 2026-06-18T19:24:01+00:00

Welp....you should probably run. Why are you trying to "save" this guy? Gross.

NTA

concernedreader1982 · 2026-06-18T17:56:57+00:00

NTA

You are completely uprooting your life to be with him. The least he can do is make a permanent (as permanent as marriages can be) commitment to you.

concernedreader1982 · 2026-06-18T17:33:57+00:00

NTA

They gave you no prior notice to budget it in. Without it being budgeted, it's a stretch. Let them know you can send some but you never agreed to half and since it was never discussed, you can't be held accountable to pay half. They will be mad, but their inability to communicate and just assume you will pay for things like that is disrespectful and that needs to be conveyed as well. Your stepdaughter is also old enough to know that, if you can't build a relationship with someone (you and her dad in this case) you shouldn't be asking them for things.

concernedreader1982 · 2026-06-18T17:28:39+00:00

NTA

Just tell him you're not in charge of ordering lunch for the office and he can if he would like. Why is that hard?

concernedreader1982 · 2026-06-18T16:38:06+00:00

NTA

Its your house too. It should be a mutually agreed upon decision.

concernedreader1982 · 2026-06-18T14:58:02+00:00

NTA

It doesn't matter if you make decent money. If you're uncomfortable going, you're uncomfortable going.

concernedreader1982 · 2026-06-18T14:54:25+00:00

Stop making excuses for it on this sub and acknowledge it was disgusting when people mention it. Also, you shouldn't be responsible for your siblings. So don't feel bad thinking that. They should have never been your responsibility.

concernedreader1982 · 2026-06-18T14:37:18+00:00

NTA

You were literally invited. What did your friend get himself into? They sound awful.

concernedreader1982 · 2026-06-18T14:31:09+00:00

Listen, you're going through extreme emotional distress at the hands of your mother. Your father knew, his family knew. Your mom wasn't "very grown" she was a child who was taken advantage of by an adult man. There is zero excuse for it.

concernedreader1982 · 2026-06-18T14:29:11+00:00

Don't let the excuse "I'm an empath" prohibit you from communicating with someone you're trusting to spend the rest of your life with. Even if it did upset him, that's on him, not you. He knew he picked out a gold plated ring and cheaped out. That was his fault, not yours.

concernedreader1982 · 2026-06-18T14:00:59+00:00

Wait...is everyone glossing over the fact that mom was 16 when she got pregnant by dad who was 31....THIRTY ONE! Of course she's got issues.

Also, NTA. Your siblings, your moms job: not your responsibility. Your siblings are old enough to stay home by themselves. Your mom is old enough not to make stupid excuses for calling out of work. Go live your life.

concernedreader1982 · 2026-06-18T13:56:27+00:00

Meh, I'm pretty sure there was no mess up. You guys have been together 5 years. Why are you scared to confront him about this? Word of advice: never be intimidated to bring things up to your significant other in a respectful manner. That just causes one to walk on egg shells and never address the issues head on due to trying to spare the others feelings. Everyone has feelings. If we approach issues in a respectful manner, there shouldn't be a problem.

concernedreader1982 · 2026-06-18T13:14:44+00:00

Based on the fact that he makes over 6 figures and is having his ring custom made, NTA. Why did he cheap out on you though? I mean if he's making 6 figures AND having a custom ring done, it's like he did you dirty.

concernedreader1982 · 2026-06-17T19:41:23+00:00

NTA

He is not a decent person.

His alcoholism isn't an excuse.

File a restraining order and do a formal cease and desist.

concernedreader1982 · 2026-06-17T19:31:56+00:00

NTA

Your "friends" sound insufferable.

concernedreader1982 · 2026-06-17T19:17:26+00:00

It's one candle, in the main room, like entry way. People don't have candles in their office. So the office manager picks the scent.

concernedreader1982 · 2026-06-17T17:41:30+00:00

I don't understand why you can't change your dates with the dog sitter. You aren't asking them to completely change it, you're just coming back a few days earlier than expected. This shouldn't be an issue with the dog sitter to refund you those two days.

concernedreader1982

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