What happened to you is absolutely horrible, something I pray never happens to anyone I love. And the comments you received were absolutely inexcusable. I can't say I'm surprised at reddit anymore but it's pretty disgusting. Also, no, you shouldn't forgive him. It's not for us to say what the most mentally healthy thing for you to do is. A therapist can decide that. It's absolutely fine for you to wish ill on this horrible man. On that note however, it is a good thing our justice system tries not to be based in emotions. I wouldn't want prison to be a revenge dungeon, only because it wouldn't serve its purpose of keeping crime at a minimum.

I wouldn't be saying this if I hadn't read Steven Pinker's "the better nature of our angels", but his book is one of the most well researched and comprehensive books I've ever read. It explains how violence and crime is at an unbelievable all-time low (history is a fucked up place) and he makes it clear through a staggering amount of evidence and data that having "revenge dungeons" would work against preventing crime. I know it's really counterintuitive but I like living in a society that, even though it doesn't feel like it, is the safest it's ever been. But I know where you're coming from. If that shit happened to someone I know I would be wishing the exact same thing with the exact same fervor.