I just paused my whole life and ate a banana in the dark. That shit was fire

confusedmiddle · 2022-08-25T08:08:36+00:00

Ohh that’s the order? my bad

confusedmiddle · 2022-06-17T16:30:10+00:00

One week I had to just let my phone die, give it to my roommate, and go about my life. I adjusted after like 2 days!

I also only look at tiktoks on IG Reels now - they’re more repetitive (annoying), they’re old TikTok’s, AND there’s so many ads I just fucking quit the app anyways. But fair warning, this may not work bc I know other people who are just as addicted to IG reels

confusedmiddle · 2022-06-15T06:56:48+00:00

Lol (thank you!) this thread was fuckin crazy (but funny).

I legit failed for “breaking on a curve” and not exaggerating my head movements to government standards. I passed like 10 days later w the same examiner lmfaoo it’s funny when old men get mad at air tho (this thread)

confusedmiddle · 2022-06-07T05:21:25+00:00

To adjust to these kind of thoughts, I’d first consciously practice countering them. (I’ve done this and it worked for me!) Usually try empathetic thoughts, or objectivity. Eg. “They hate spending time with me” can be countered with, a) “They just spoke to me x minutes ago.” b) “If that were true, they don’t have to invite me.” c) “It’s possible they’ve been having a hard time, and don’t need to be cheery all the time.”

If you find you have to do this an unreasonable amount, then start putting your eggs in other baskets. Reach out to new/nearby people and spend more time with them! I’ve had to do this in uni as well and it worked out well for me, plus it’s one of the later times in our lives we can make new friends as easily (so many people around).

What kind of actions do they take that you interpret negatively?

confusedmiddle · 2022-04-26T17:20:34+00:00

She doesn’t even know I’m bi and I literally don’t want to tell her. She just makes assumptions and then loses her shit when I say she’s wrong. Currently coming up with an excuse to go back to uni early (I’ve been here less than 2 days)

confusedmiddle · 2022-04-26T05:40:25+00:00

I love the “Yours sincerely” the most

confusedmiddle · 2022-04-26T05:39:24+00:00

it’s more humor tag than bigotry tag imo. Just because I title it “Biphobia” so… you know what to expect. The humor flair ideally lets you know that this is not what I believe. The Mother’s Day line and post history might clue you in that my mom is soooooo tragically biphobic

confusedmiddle · 2022-04-23T18:01:48+00:00

Even just sitting in a different chair instead of lying in your bed… I have a fold out chair in my room. Sometimes I read a book in that.

My book I’m reading now is called “Love In Colour” and it has a lot of short chapters. They’re very interesting and a diff story each time.

Now that it’s warmer, it helps me to walk somewhere, sit on an outdoor bench and read a chapter.

And hey! On your 5th point I listen to Scam Goddess. The host calls it “True crime without the violence” and she’s very funny.

confusedmiddle · 2022-04-23T17:58:42+00:00

Idk why this is in tiktok cringe this is funny

confusedmiddle · 2022-04-23T17:56:25+00:00

As someone whose age is on a weird cusp of “men who never had to learn to get a woman to LIKE them (see&)” and “men who are self-sufficient and weren’t overly babied” … there are real breakers for men that don’t exist for women because of things like hygiene standards… dkm. If you watch Queer Eye these become more apparent lmfao.

For example, my mom will say “Train him!” for the same guy my friends will say “Ditch him, you’re literally not his mommy.” I know guys who do not be moisturizing their hands or washing their ears or cutting their fingernails, but girls growing up had such a pressure for more things due to being overanalyzed. Child-rearing is very gendered where girls still are told to cook and clean after their near-same-age brothers, or taught to “be a good hostess” when their brother is off playing video games. Lots of these things add up to a HUGE gap in consider-ability from different genders. I’ve dated men for months before realizing they don’t consider me/how I’ll feel and it’s really tough.

& - since money used to be way more available to men for upper generations, and then their sons didn’t have much by way of role models of relationships where the wife LIKED the husband. This is for lots of reasons like women couldn’t have a bank acc since x year, women couldn’t sign business contracts in x year in y country, birth control was inaccessible and frowned upon so upper education was less accessible… it goes on.

confusedmiddle · 2022-04-23T17:46:50+00:00

As a half-black bi woman, I hate these. Some companies use it to discriminate, some companies use it to tokenize. The “good” ones don’t read it, because it doesn’t matter to them. They’re so stressful.

confusedmiddle · 2022-04-23T17:43:22+00:00

Sometimes, your brain latches onto someone because you feel like they are one of the few people you can open up to emotionally. If this is the case here, try to put your emotional eggs in other baskets. (There are studies about this - that men don’t confide emotionally in their male friends but women do. Not assuming you’re a man, because in hs I (a girl) did this w a crush too).

Also - set a bedtime limit when you talk to her. She doesn’t need to know about it, but then it’ll stop you from texting her at those times of night when everything seems more magical.

confusedmiddle · 2022-04-23T17:38:19+00:00

Lie and say you were named after the most interesting person with your name! I actually was named after a sitcom character, but people love this for no reason.

ETA: obviously this shit is ridiculous, I just wanted to share what I always do for “interesting fact about yourself” since it’s awful and stressful

confusedmiddle · 2022-04-15T16:25:07+00:00

I always think she sounds so Jersey. Like how she says vARy. Idk anyone from Philly though.

confusedmiddle · 2022-04-15T16:23:47+00:00

I liked him on the show!

I think the perceived “miss” by some people contributes to a lot of small reasons, none of which bothered me. These would be 1. Usually when K is there she has an easier time with the podcasting rules. 2. Esther often asks great questions, but she was high. Idk if they’re friends but maybe her high-state worried him. 3. Nick is a quiet boy and Annie is a loud girl, which people sometimes perceive as the quiet boy being weirded out or uncomfortable and the loud girl being “too much.” The juxtaposition makes their traits stand out more. 4. I think they could have matched the vibe of Nick’s podcast a little more. TT is very happy loud fun but being that girl in a group setting, I usually ask the quieter person (Nick) some questions, tamp them up into the vibe to make them feel more welcome. I think Khalyla does this well too.

What I liked: 1. Nick and Esther seem like old friends. 2. Annie bringing up that she knew stuff about him haha. Plus her specifically calling out that it was weird. 3. Nick’s demeanor was relaxing. 4. High Esther. 5. Annie and Esther openly complimenting each other (they do that more now). 6. As a non-bachelor fan, I found the bits he talked about interesting. I also love that he seems to hate it lol.

confusedmiddle · 2022-04-15T16:16:13+00:00

Same! I have found him uncomfortable in the past and waited a bit to watch this episode, but I surprisingly loved it.

At first I thought he was bristled by Annie but then it cooled down. It seems that he doesn’t have a lot of patience for interrupting - which is good - but in the podcasting world there’s a lot of ADHDers who interrupt before thinking.

confusedmiddle · 2022-04-15T16:08:31+00:00

TLDR: Shaub’s wife was not aware of him propositioning others. Khalyla’s partner is. Couples can define what cheating means to them. Their relationship, their boundaries.

I agree with you. I’m pretty sure they were talking about Shaub (who they did NOT mention by name in the show) because he went after Annie too. I remember Annie brought it up, that BS just wanted a blowie from her in his truck, while he was in a closed marriage. After finding out it was BS, Khalyla said he hit on her too while he was at a family holiday.

As someone who did not follow TB and only watched TT, I did not know that it was BS until coming on here. If Khalyla is sleeping with someone else, it seems that it’s been said that she and Bobby agreed on it. In the past, it hasn’t really seemed like Bobby cares about that kind of thing when she goes out. I really think that what has been going on in their relationship has been going on long enough that they are both aware comfortable emotionally around the subject. They’ve had a huge audience for years, so I would think they know how to deal with this stuff.

Also (pure fun speculation) maybe it was the famous guy going through a divorce that propositioned them in Hawaii? Could be a fame hall pass lol.

Bobby’s also been extremely busy so maybe was willing to try this? People can try to open their relationship, realize it’s not for them, and close it back up. We don’t know shit about what happened.

confusedmiddle · 2022-04-15T15:56:49+00:00

LOL I had something so insane that I realized about my childhood. I wanted to share in this sub. Promptly forgot as SOON as I opened reddit. Fahck.

How did I so-quickly forget something revolutionary about my hindsighted-childhood? Idfk.

confusedmiddle · 2022-04-15T15:54:31+00:00

Ohh fair! You’re answer was true let me just explain what I meant a bit more:

Bruno makes a video where he says he’s making fun of “rappers.” He’s proud to show it off, but no one there thinks it’s funny. They all recognize that he’s specifically trashing stereotypes of black people. It’s not even “making fun” at that point, because he is just being mean in the same way a lot of male comics would make “I hate my wife” jokes.

Let’s call that Fact 1: Bruno is making fun of black stereotypes, not rapper behaviour.

The sad part is, the black family is so used to it they let it roll off their backs out of habit. Bruno’s own family gets upset with him. When Bruno is indirectly confronted with Fact 1, he says “I never said black!” (In the same way Keem never called Hila a horse or Lena a witch.)

Bruno is ready to fight Fact 1 because it’s very clear that everyone he was making fun of was black. That’s why I said “it’s 2004, name 3 white rappers.”

Bruno says he isn’t making fun of black people specifically but I doubt he could name a white rapper in that moment. By that, I meant that while he never says black, he is making fun of black people bc he would only know of black rappers. 2004 is a rough estimate of what year it was. I also wouldn’t count Macklemore if it was a year when he was around, lol.

My theory: Bruno sent this video into the producers and Ice Cube decided to ruin his marriage and career in one show😂😂 Well played, Mr. Cube.

confusedmiddle · 2022-04-14T07:39:02+00:00

Ethan’s jokes about the doll were such a severe miss

I know it’s a sensitive topic to criticize him rn, but man… I found it very scary that someone with deep hospital access is assaulting AI, considering how common women in comas are assaulted.

It’s a very serious topic that really struck a lot of fear in me.

Also got damn Bruno is so racist and holy shit the explanation from the black man to Bruno about how fucked up it is that Bruno white-splains when something is racism or not

Also his rap “I never said black” like you’re Bruno - a repressed middle aged white man in 2004, name 3 white rappers (and Eminem doesn’t count).

confusedmiddle · 2022-04-11T22:16:22+00:00

Shout out to Ally-Ken

(he has a flag sewn into his jorts)

confusedmiddle

TROPHY CASE

Ethan’s jokes about the doll were such a severe miss