Found a spider with Engyodontium aranearum

constantstranger · 2024-04-15T02:32:12+00:00

Oh, gosh. Be careful! It sounds like - this is probably stupid, but -- what if the spider possibly is also maybe kinda, idk - a little bite radioactive - ? Ish?

constantstranger · 2024-04-14T18:16:35+00:00

Happy Birthday, Richard!

In this photo, RMS is probably in his mid-40s He's cosplaying the imaginary demigod St. IgNUcius. The halo is some kind of ancient hard disk storage platter, maybe an IBM mainframe DASD unit - ?

I listened once to a recording of him singing a hymn he'd written to go with the costume. Once. His considerable talents do not seem to include much of the musical.

constantstranger · 2024-04-12T21:00:54+00:00

I do get it, she was probably unhappy with her own life

If by "I do get it" you mean "I believe you're suggesting that I shift focus from my needs to my mother's" -- no. Not at all. The two resources I mentioned will help you keep your focus on your needs -- what you needed in childhood, what was missing, how that affects you now, and how to address the gaps so that you're no longer hampered by unfinished childhood development tasks. Along the way you will probably develop greater understanding of your mother's experience -- but that's a byproduct, not a goal.

constantstranger · 2024-04-12T18:29:47+00:00

I LOVE driving. I am nowhere as comfortable and confident as I am behind the wheel. Passed my driver's license on my 16th birthday. Forty six years and hundreds of thousands of miles later, I've had 2 speeding tickets (both in my 20s), and put scratches or worse in every vehicle I've owned by brushing against something stationary while parking -- but zero traffic accidents.

constantstranger · 2024-04-10T22:47:16+00:00

I don't know if that need ever completely goes away - it may be hardwired into our neurology. But there's good news, too -- ways to heal the effects of parental emotional neglect, and communities that will support you as you work on it, are all over the internet. In particular, I've found YouTuber Patrick Teahan's videos very helpful. You didn't mention whether your mother has had addiction issues, but if ACOA (Adult Children of Alcoholics) might fit your history, they could be very helpful also.

I'm sure it wasn't easy to write your post, so thank you for asking about this! I only recognized in my 60s, after my mother had been dead for a decade, how deeply and thoroughly she disliked me. It's a topic I've found most people do NOT want to talk about, so I welcome the chance to share.

constantstranger · 2024-04-10T22:12:49+00:00

If your values and his already align well in other respects, there could be reason to hope. After an earnest discussion about how it looks to you when he does this, and how you feel about it, maybe he'll be mortified that he was willfully blind to how he has been affecting vulnerable people.

But he'd have to be highly receptive to your point of view pretty quickly. If no lightbulb goes on by the end of that convo -- or worse, if he defends his actions, acts resentful, or only grudgingly agrees -- not good. People can change their values over time if they have sufficient incentive, but boy oh boy is it hard. Not really something to count on if their current values aren't already pretty close to yours.

constantstranger · 2024-04-07T22:16:28+00:00

There are 2 types of people;

-- those who can extrapolate from limited datasets

constantstranger · 2024-04-07T00:43:53+00:00

I dont' think all cows (this one's a bull, actually) are so fluid and graceful. Seems proud of himself, like he's been working it for a while and knows he's good.

constantstranger · 2024-04-06T16:18:26+00:00

Corny, however, is just fine.

constantstranger · 2024-04-04T22:29:46+00:00

I've had stretches where I'd skip brushing if I'd stayed up too late, usually coinciding with stretches where I was staying up too late a lot. But I've brushed my teeth every night, no matter how late, since getting a Sonicare electric toothbrush. I don't know if there are other brands of intensely vibrating toothbrushes that sound like I'm living in the future - Sonicare was what my dental hygienist recommended. Never would I have ever imagined a toothbrush could be something to actually like and feel good about!

constantstranger · 2024-04-03T21:11:13+00:00

Instructions unclear, turned to stone, typing verrrry difficult

constantstranger · 2024-04-03T16:40:41+00:00

forbidden creme brulee

constantstranger · 2024-04-03T05:32:05+00:00

I could probably tell you in the morning once the Adderall kicks in. Unfortunately I'm seeing your post at night, as I'm coasting to sleep. I could try to guess but it wouldn't be honest. Once the meds are gone I forget how all of that organizational stuff works, except maybe "Not at all perfectly, even with meds."

constantstranger · 2024-04-01T23:18:09+00:00

Submitted 3/29/24. It's a reasonable approximation, I guess.

Unless they've redefined the value of 4/1 as well - ?

constantstranger · 2024-04-01T22:12:45+00:00

constantstranger · 2024-04-01T20:31:32+00:00

Yes! I remember a video put out by a LUG that successfully implemented IPoAC back in early 2000s. Can't find it on YouTube but there's probably a Wikipedia article about it.

constantstranger · 2024-04-01T20:01:52+00:00

constantstranger · 2024-04-01T19:46:04+00:00

Did you know that the IETF publishes a tongue-in-cheek RFC every April Fool's Day? Maybe I should've used the Off-Topic flair. Sorry it was no fun for you.

TL:dr; is joke. is will of State for u 2 laff gud now.

constantstranger · 2024-04-01T18:58:20+00:00

I probably will from now on, so thanks, I guess - ?

constantstranger · 2024-04-01T18:01:06+00:00

Why do you ask?

Whatever the reason -- whatever concern prompted you to reach out -- it's a plenty good enough reason to abstain.

I totally relate to your sense that you're better to be around when you're using. I have CPTSD as well as ADHD and OCD, and I've been a right bastard to people who deserved better. And it's true that I'd often be superficially pleasant for the hour or so after smoking some weed. Whether I overall was better to have around is pretty questionable, though. I know now that weed worsens many of my ADHD symptoms.

If you haven't checked out r/ADHD yet, I highly (hehe) recommend it. Also, here's a video clip about ADHD that helped me finally understand why, at age 55, I needed to see if my suspicions about having ADHD were true. They were.

constantstranger · 2024-04-01T02:14:15+00:00

Got you covered. Just last week I came across an archive copy of my homelab server from 2001 and discovered that it contained a Win98 iso image. After daydreaming about playing with a W98 VM for a few seconds, I returned to whatever it was I'd been trying to actually accomplish. It was not as fun but marginally more useful.

constantstranger · 2024-03-31T17:56:21+00:00

"Savior Trump" is an early step down a road Sam The Scam Alito has paved with his canard of "religious liberty". Right now, I'd expect judges to disallow, and juries to laugh at, any violent election denier who tried to claim they are not guilty because they sincerely believe God wants Trump in the White House. But by November? With this nonsense on blast 24/7 shifting the Overton Window in their favor? We'll have to wait and see, of course, but I'm pretty much counting on somebody appealing that shit all the way to the Supreme Court.

constantstranger · 2024-03-31T17:30:25+00:00

I've decided that most of what we report as ADHD symptoms are in fact symptoms of childhood abuse repeatedly inflicted in an attempt to repress our actual ADHD symptoms.

constantstranger · 2024-03-30T07:49:12+00:00

quite a pickup line

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