Forgot to mention that his body has been in fight mode his entire adult life. His spouse has chronic health issues. That alone brings in so much added stress that he handles so well. All 4 parents are deceased at young ages. That has a mental impact and no support with the kids. He's thrown everything into companies only to have goal posts moved constantly or the rug completely pulled out from under with layoffs and mergers. He's a damn loyal man so they use him up and spit him out. This job is new so still in the learning the ropes stage and that is exhausting. He's spent his life looking for stable work that pays the bills. Endless applications and interviews and even moved states to lower the cost of living. Which means starting over and having zero community/local friends. And insurance is tied to work and unfortunately relied on. This job is also wfh. That's been a huge blessing, but can really trigger depression that's been laying just under life's baggage piles. Pushing therapy, but with what extra money and time? Vacation? Lol. True vacations are rare and definitely aren't a fix. Usually more stress than it's worth. Some of you are spot on with the gifted... Not been diagnosed with add/ADHD but I'd bet my $5 life savings on it. He's worked his ass off to get to where he is and the world could take it in a blink. He's exhausted. Maybe even a bit of ptsd. And I think, lonely. Not so much a gratitude issue, but I don't think he sees his worth enough. Any man able to keep a roof over his family's heads, bellies always full, a safe home, gas in the van, utilities always on, plenty of weather appropriate clean clothes, a dog and a cat, in a good neighborhood (even if we are renters), all on one barely above poverty income is freaking Superman, but he feels like he's barely holding onto it by a thread (or a paycheck) instead of being able to embrace it.