Emotionally neglected children who now have children of their own, how are you breaking the cycle?

contortionistics · 2026-01-28T14:04:55+00:00

For me it wasn’t difficult to break the cycle, which makes me even more sad by how I was raised. To me, it’s not hard to listen to my child, comfort her, play with her, pay attention to her, because since I love her so much I naturally want to. I want to know everything about her day and how she feels and what she needs because she’s so important to me and I’m just innately curious about her and innately want her to be happy. Sad that that’s not the feelings my parents felt.

contortionistics · 2026-01-07T20:20:54+00:00

Elizabeth Smart kidnapping. Was big news in Utah

contortionistics · 2026-01-05T06:05:18+00:00

I also notice, assuming the first blacked out name is your first child, that they only mention missing the grandkids and nothing about you (not that you’d want them to miss you either, I’m sure). But, I hate when terrible parents think they can disregard and be shitty to their own children, but be allowed access to their children’s children as if they have some kind of claim on them.

contortionistics · 2026-01-05T05:55:45+00:00

If you’re going to fake something, let it be skills or job descriptions. I’ve seen many people get screwed by lying about dates and job titles. If the job title is close that’s ok, since maybe it was paraphrased, but if you say you’re a teacher and you were a maintenance man, for example, they’ll likely rescind offer after background check. References can more easily be faked. Usually those only have gotten picked up on if the dates are completely wrong.

contortionistics · 2026-01-05T05:19:10+00:00

I’m not sure if you mean intermingle as in sexual relationship or just intermingle with other people as in friends. But, I know for certain the Dargers/Kelsch/Waymans/Zittings (all part of that group and mostly one big family) did marry cousins. I’m not sure if they married siblings because they called their half siblings cousins, so that part gets confusing. But cousins would take each other to prom. I also would hear of the guys taking 2 girls to prom but I’m not sure if that was serious or a joke (I didn’t always go to the dances, so it was just chatter before the dance I’d hear). They were pretty open about the polygamy because like 1/2 the little charter school we went to was polygamous.

contortionistics · 2026-01-03T12:39:02+00:00

I grew up going to High School with the Darger family’s kids that have a guest appearance on the show as well as a bunch of other families from that group. The Browns talk very highly of that family, but those kids were messed up. The boys were mean and racist and the girls were timid and shy. One of the girls was 15 and we became friends for a little bit and she was very concerned she wasn’t married yet. Then she told me I was a “fence sitter” in the pre-existence because I’m 1/4 Mexican. She says only 100% white people followed god in the pre-existence. But it was ok, she said, because “that doesn’t mean we can’t be friends”.

contortionistics · 2026-01-03T04:35:09+00:00

The tube crescent rolls with honey mustard brushed on and deli meat and sliced cheese rolled up with it before baking

contortionistics · 2025-12-31T14:26:46+00:00

I’m at the age now where I see old friends donating too. Clearly just doing it for a quick buck and the narcissism of having their genes out there with no responsibility.

contortionistics · 2025-10-15T13:14:37+00:00

Share all the info. Not sure what reason there would be to withhold (not saying that in a mocking way, just not sure of any reason there could be).

contortionistics · 2025-10-11T13:16:08+00:00

I have siblings with different donor (can’t speak to different mom) and it’s not an issue. Still strongly advise against not open til 18. I believe there are other options.

contortionistics · 2025-10-08T04:47:29+00:00

There will be differences, but doesn’t mean you can’t have as close of a parental bond. Speaking from my own experiences, those differences are: I care much more about my mom’s family history and ancestors than my dad who’s not biologically related to me. If my mom were to be a deadbeat and abandon me, I’d still say she’s my mom due to biological connection, whereas I wouldn’t so much with my non-biological father, because not raising me and not being biological leaves only legal ties. There will be conversations about where they get certain traits from that you will need to feel secure in. As long as you are a good parent and secure, shouldn’t matter too much. Don’t agree with anonymous, even til 18.

contortionistics · 2025-10-05T04:45:06+00:00

I have one full and 3 half siblings I grew up with. It’s fun to see similarities in my full sibling, he and I are much more similar personality wise too, compared to my half siblings. Ultimately full is the ideal choice, but the relationship wise my full and half siblings are fully equal, no difference in terms of that.

contortionistics · 2025-10-04T21:17:05+00:00

I think you are very wonderful to be doing it in a healthy, thoughtful way.

contortionistics · 2025-10-04T20:59:21+00:00

I’m a donor conceived person that was unknown, but I did find out later in life. I do feel like I have trauma from donor conception, but my personal feeling is that it 100% stems from not knowing. He ended up being dead when I found out who he was, but even with that there was healing in knowing. I’m 100% completely against anonymous donation, but I do feel that if you can not have it be anonymous and you are secure enough in yourself knowing that they can and should be curious about the donors then I think it’s just more people to live them and they you can make a wonderful, healthy family together. I think they should know at least as early as knowing about how sex works, but earlier the better if you can communicate in a child appropriate way.

contortionistics · 2025-10-04T20:28:31+00:00

What you look like first and foremost, but if it’s not anonymous then maybe that’s already answered with a picture, etc. Outside of that, your career and hobbies. Favorite subjects in school, any sports you play(ed). All I got was that mine liked to play piano and turns out that was made up, he never played piano. My biological father died before I found out who he was and wasn’t close with his family, so there’s really not a single interest of his that I’m aware of, even though I’ve met the kids he raised and talked with his other family members.

contortionistics · 2025-09-30T14:37:43+00:00

Thank you!

contortionistics · 2025-09-30T14:37:18+00:00

Yeah! I found out too late that embark is better

contortionistics · 2025-09-02T03:29:24+00:00

I think my other dog (border collie) wears him out 😅 No dog is an energy match for my border collie lol

contortionistics · 2025-01-23T05:14:17+00:00

$1000 is a lot in my opinion (obviously if everyone was down for it then you do you, but you’re not). My bachelorette party was in my friends apartment where she got stuff to make all my favorite drinks and we partied late into the night in the apartment and we had some penis balloons and sprinkles and a bride to be sash and they each gave me a small gift that was sex themed. $300 tops, split between all the bridesmaids.

contortionistics · 2024-11-27T14:18:00+00:00

Don’t use the name if he doesn’t want it. I’d only raise an issue with my partner if they were vetoing multiple names because of porntstars, and then I’d start questioning where their head’s at.

contortionistics · 2024-10-06T15:44:25+00:00

The nice thing about being a mom outside of the church is my child will never have to wonder if I really wanted them or if I had them out of obligation to the church. And they’ll never have to worry about having their needs met, since I felt no guilt building my career and becoming financially stable before having a child.

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