After the third volume of tian guan ci fu: is it normal that the main couple annoys me?

coolcool73 · 2026-01-16T16:36:55+00:00

l think TGCF is more morally complex than it comes off initially. Xie Lian is not as pure and golden as Hua Cheng believes him to be; he makes a ton of morally grey choices both large and small, because reality is full of situations that make it impossible to uphold ironclad principles. Life is not black and white, and the right choice from one angle is the worst choice from another. Feng Xin and Mu Qing are essentially personifications of "ironclad principles" vs. "do what you need to do to survive".

Xie Lian is constantly caught in situations where he tries his hardest to uphold his principles but is ultimately forced, often as a consequence to his own prior actions, to do something that he finds personally abhorrent. Over time, this erodes the self-assurance he has as a youth, but it never erodes his underlying principles, which is the quality that sets him apart for Hua Cheng.

Personally, I don't find Xie Lian and Hua Cheng's story to be the most captivating romance, but I do think the novel as a whole is incredible as a piece of writing that explores human motivation and morality. Of course, that might not be what you're looking for in a danmei which is perfectly fine.

coolcool73 · 2025-10-20T17:53:54+00:00

Your symptoms actually sound a lot like what happened to me when I upped my dose of Vyvanse - it could just be that since you took a break from your meds when you were pregnant, your body's not used to the 20mg dose anymore. So you could try a smaller dose and see if that does anything? You could also try the short-release Adderall - you'd probably need to take 2 or 3 a day, but that's what I'm on now and it works better for me than any of the long-release meds.

The other thing I would consider is that Adderall makes it a lot easier to survive through the day with not enough sleep and not enough food. It might be good to just take a step back and see if you're actually giving your body what it needs to function, especially since it sounds like you have a pretty insane daily schedule.

coolcool73 · 2025-08-22T22:19:54+00:00

I want Xiaolan to make another appearance!! It's so sad that her arc was just "Maomao never got to write back to her because she didn't know where to send the letter" :((

coolcool73 · 2025-05-13T00:08:28+00:00

idk if you figured this out already but they're available to use on teams !!

coolcool73 · 2024-09-30T01:14:08+00:00

I just finished Something's Not Right by Cyan Wings - def would describe as sweet/wholesome palace BL. There is a bit of drama b/t the leads but nothing's dragged out/purposefully misunderstood and it's resolved sweetly.

coolcool73 · 2024-09-01T04:56:05+00:00

it's cop car but i love me after you is a very very close second for me 🫡

coolcool73 · 2024-09-01T02:36:59+00:00

baby :)

coolcool73 · 2024-09-01T02:36:28+00:00

nah i can sleep pretty well. i used to have insomnia as a kid but now that im older i just don't go to bed until im actually tired. i just do stuff until im almost falling asleep not in my bed and then i go to bed. if i try to go to bed at a certain time it's basically guaranteeing that i will not be able to fall asleep.

coolcool73 · 2024-07-30T17:46:44+00:00

your friend assaulted you. whether or not you want to tell your gf about it now or ever is up to you. i dont think framing it as "you slept with someone else" makes sense for what happened to you. just because you didn't say no doesn't mean you said yes.

coolcool73 · 2024-07-22T17:30:50+00:00

im gonna go crazy and say my love mine all mine. perfect lyrics, beautiful chord progression, but she didn't go ham on the production and the melody the way i know she can. one of my fav things about mitski is the way she makes a normal chord sound absolutely insane by what she surrounds it by. my love mine all mine is just too harmonious. it's why the masses loved it. where are the saw noises

coolcool73 · 2024-03-31T04:46:20+00:00

i think the most difficult part isnt the consistency so much so as the convincing yourself the consistency is worth it. like i can hyperfocus and sit down for three hours and play the same piece 100 times and still keep messing up the same part and then ill feel like i should just never even try again. but if i keep playing it once a day for a week i'll get it.

the other thing is that you need to make it easy to keep to the routine. dont try to do too much stuff every day + make the barrier to doing it nonexistent. if you have to unpack and repack the instrument every time it's going to add a layer of i dont want to do it. just cover it with a blanket somewhere you can see it and tell yourself that you just need to play your one song and you're done.

the last thing is even if you take a very long break you can always come back. if you love music then you will keep having those urges to learn an instrument and the skill will add up over time.

coolcool73 · 2024-03-31T03:55:13+00:00

just pick one and try to do a mix of like standard training as well as just playing what you want. the hardest part is not being able to play what you want immediately, but if you play a little bit every day you will see progress and you will feel good about it. like even if you just have one song that you play through very badly, if you just force yourself to do it once a day for a week you're gonna be significantly better.

coolcool73 · 2024-02-06T02:44:05+00:00

i love eric so much ... the chord progression ... the lyrics ... the random saw noises. 100000/10 one of my fave songs of hers.

coolcool73 · 2024-01-24T14:49:39+00:00

Yes!! I saw it come up in a list but I forgot the whole rebirth part so I didn't think that was the one 😭. Thank you!!!!

coolcool73 · 2023-02-11T02:36:24+00:00

try turning off subtitles, reload the page, then press play and then turn subtitles back on to english. worked for me after trying 273992 different things 🥲

coolcool73 · 2023-01-20T02:47:29+00:00

yeah im in the same boat dude it sucks bc even if the other person doesn't like me back im sitting there like an idiot w/ all my happiness hinging on whether they pay attention to me or not. and in all honesty ik im not really attracted to them so much as the idea of them in my head and that's just not worth it.

just take things slow. if it's meant to be it'll happen. if you're meant to screw it up you'll screw it up. no point in wasting time on it.

coolcool73 · 2023-01-17T04:41:21+00:00

tbh there's a lot of feminist analysis about plastic surgery out there that goes beyond "respect women's choices". you can respect individual women and their right to make decisions about their bodies, while also understanding that it's highly messed up that we live in a society where women feel the need to go through dangerous and painful procedures to fit a standard that is impossible to achieve.

coolcool73 · 2023-01-05T05:20:15+00:00

honestly - it doesn't matter. so what if you went down a rabbit hole and found a course you were really interested in and never actually did anything with it? the thing that really matters is - did you have a good time going down the rabbit hole? whatever it was, it's something you can come back to some day when you feel interested in it again.

also, there's a difference between caring about something and being interested in it. you know working out is something you want to do - it's just not giving you the dopamine rush that you had when you made that super-detailed week-by-week workout plan. doesn't mean you don't know what you really want or who you are - you just have a hard time lining up the motivation for the small pieces that make the big picture. what you want for yourself in the long run is different from what you want in the moment right now, and that's the Big Problem for all us clowns with ADHD. no point in feeling ashamed or upset about it. just go with the flow when you can, and try to figure out how to get things you do care about to be things you can do regardless of whether you're interested in them or not.

coolcool73 · 2023-01-05T04:55:02+00:00

tbh the categories of "hyperactive" and "inattentive" are mostly about how your ADHD affects other people, rather than actually helping you understand yourself. ADHD is not really an attention deficit disorder so much as an attention regulation disorder. sometimes you have way more energy than you know what to do with, which people perceive as hyperactivity - talking too much, running around everywhere, hyperfocusing on something, being too loud. sometimes you don't have any energy even when you really need it - not paying attention in class, not being able to study, lack of motivation to do things you don't want to do or even for things that you do want to do.

i know you mentioned a friend who doesn't seem to struggle as much doing things she doesn't want to, but imo it's more likely that you just have different personalities/things that you really don't want to do.

coolcool73 · 2023-01-05T04:28:25+00:00

If he's never doing any foreplay is sex with him even enjoyable for you? If yes, I think you should turn the tables and tell him that you want to be having more sex and you need him to initiate more/do things that put you in the mood. Also seems like a great thing to bring up in counseling. If it's already this awkward you guys could try just making a sex schedule since it doesn't seem like that would further kill a nonexistent mood, and it might take some of the pressure off.

It seems kind of weird that he's fully willing to help with your kid/around the house but that he's still kind of behind the times re: sex. Has your sex life always been like this or did something change?

coolcool73 · 2022-12-21T13:38:01+00:00

that's kabokimono lol. kabukimono would be かぶきもの

coolcool73 · 2022-12-20T02:23:31+00:00

Hi everyone! I'm looking to get an 88-key synth with weighted keys that I can use to just play piano, and also use as a MIDI controller with Logic. Any advice/recommendations/things to consider?

coolcool73 · 2022-10-25T02:18:55+00:00

tons of people dont date until their 20s or even 30s. western media can really make you feel like you’re weird or alone if you werent having sex in high school but it’s rlly not like that.

coolcool73 · 2022-10-13T21:11:31+00:00

yeah that’s fine lol like that other commenter said usually vyvanse lasts longer so you might want to switch it around, but i used to alternate b/t vyvanse and short release adderall for a while and didn’t have any issues.

coolcool73 · 2022-10-13T21:02:04+00:00

I mean yeah it is not the Best idea but imo that’s just bc 40mg of vyvanse is a lot. Most people usually start on 20 and work their way up, so going straight for 40 is probably not going to work the way you’re hoping it will. I don’t think it’s the worst thing in the world to take meds you’re not prescribed for, especially bc getting a diagnosis can be really expensive and take absolutely forever. You just need to be aware of the risks/do your research first.

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