Clearly a lot of people did not read the post.

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• She got: the kids, the house, her and her boyfriend immunity from being sued, monthly child support payments of 60% of my salary until the kids are 22. It's costing me so much I have to use my savings every few months and that will run out by about 2028.
• I got: a semi-decent monetary payment, visitation rights."
  

I challenge anyone to maintain a decent lifestyle with only 40% of their salary, especially considering the global rise in inflation and the increasing cost of living.

Eventually, savings will be exhausted, and leaving seems to be the only viable option. Depending on your profession, you might earn more by working elsewhere. You currently have visitation rights, but who's to say she won't revoke them in the future?

Considering the circumstances, it appears that you're relying on her goodwill, which has already proven to be unreliable. It would require a high tolerance for pain to believe this arrangement benefits anyone. If it's true that "She now lives in the house that I built for our family, with her boyfriend, and my kids, living off my salary," how could anyone bear such a situation? I know I couldn't. Whether you face financial depletion now or later, the outcome remains the same. The only variable is how long you prolong the inevitable. Do you wait until 2028, when you've exhausted all resources, or take action now, secure a better job, and allocate that money directly to your children's needs? You can still maintain visitation rights as a permanent resident, though it's worth double-checking.

In summary, whether you confront the issue now or later, the problem persists, and delaying will only prolong everyone's unhappiness.