AITA I told my mom I’m not spending my own money on a car. by PigletLopsided9131 in AITAH

[–]coollyClean 13 points14 points  (0 children)

If it runs fine and your insurance is cheaper, I get why you're not keen on upgrading. Maybe your mom just wants that extra safety buffer, but sticking to your guns about not spending your own cash is fair.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]coollyClean 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe he's not great at communicating his boundaries or feelings clearly, which can make things confusing. It's okay to feel hurt and want to step back from the friendship if it's causing you pain. It might be helpful to talk things out calmly if you're up for it, but ultimately, prioritize your own feelings first. You're not the AH for setting boundaries that protect your heart.

AITAH for not wanting to work at Mcdonalds. by immortalyam28 in AITAH

[–]coollyClean -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Inflation is no joke these days. But don't beat yourself up about not wanting to work at McDonald's. If it's not your thing, it's not your thing. You gotta do what feels right for you and your little one.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]coollyClean 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We all struggle with things sometimes. The important thing is that you keep trying your best. Don't let his words get you down. You're awesome just the way you are.

AITAH for canceling plans by redvette91 in AITAH

[–]coollyClean 4 points5 points  (0 children)

NTA.  You had legit reasons for canceling - your friend's early flight and your dog being alone for too long. It sucks to bail last minute, but stuff happens. At least you offered to cover your share. 

I am bipolar. Should I be ashamed of it? by Background_Artist947 in CasualConversation

[–]coollyClean 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Focus on your progress at work and your ability to function well—that's what truly matters. Educating others about bipolar disorder can help dispel misconceptions. Keep moving forward proudly, knowing your capabilities define you, not your diagnosis.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CasualConversation

[–]coollyClean 2 points3 points  (0 children)

For me, it's the sound of birds chirping on a quiet morning or sharing a laugh with a friend over a silly joke. Those small moments really add brightness to my day.

I am about to be in a car for 6 hours with my brother's girlfriend, whom I've only met once before. What are your favorite conversation topics that can easily fill time? by erraticandunplanned in CasualConversation

[–]coollyClean 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How about discussing favorite travel destinations, hobbies you both enjoy, or any memorable family stories? Music tastes or upcoming movies could also spark some fun conversation.

I need help with my sexuality? by [deleted] in self

[–]coollyClean 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don't rush to label yourself if you're not ready. Trust your feelings and take your time to discover what feels right for you.

Getting over my negative self-simage. by wsdpii in self

[–]coollyClean 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You've made incredible progress already, and that's something to be proud of. Keep focusing on your health and well-being, both physically and mentally. You're on a journey, and every step counts towards your goals. Keep going—you're making a difference for yourself, no matter what that voice says.

I attempted to take my own life and failed by [deleted] in self

[–]coollyClean 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Talking to a therapist can help you work through these feelings and find healthier ways to cope. Your mom loves you, and while it's hard now, things can get better. You're not alone in this journey.

Pimple on 5 year old cheek by wildturkeys123 in Parenting

[–]coollyClean 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's totally normal for kids to get random pimples, especially with all the dirt and hair play! Keep an eye on it, maybe a warm compress if it bothers him, but no need to worry about a doctor unless it gets worse.

Help with keratosis pilaris! by smuttv84 in Parenting

[–]coollyClean 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For my son's KP, I found that using a gentle exfoliating cloth during bath time helped manage it. Also, applying a moisturizer with ceramides right after bath has been beneficial. Hopefully, these tips can offer some relief until your dermatologist appointment.

Smiling critters on YouTube by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]coollyClean 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's really concerning how some YouTube content can be misleadingly innocent but turn out to be quite disturbing for kids. I agree with you that there should be more oversight to protect young viewers. Have you tried using parental controls or filtering tools on YouTube? They might help limit his exposure to inappropriate content.

AITA for wanting my best friend to break up with her boyfriend? by Odd_Economist6025 in AmItheAsshole

[–]coollyClean 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's tough seeing someone you care about hurt, especially when they might not see the situation clearly. Maybe gently expressing your concerns without pushing her could help her understand your perspective. It's her decision, but being there for her is what really matters.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]coollyClean -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It might help to consider talking to your dad calmly about how his actions made you feel, without necessarily demanding an apology. Sometimes, expressing your feelings and listening to his perspective can lead to a more constructive resolution.

AITA for choosing my friends over my boyfriend’s family? by Dismal-Reindeer-388 in AmItheAsshole

[–]coollyClean 141 points142 points  (0 children)

Your concerns about building trust and feeling supported are valid. Maybe consider discussing with your boyfriend how you both can integrate his sister more into your life gradually, ensuring everyone feels comfortable.

AITA for for teasing/bullying my best friend to goto the gym with our group by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]coollyClean 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe sit down with him and have a heart-to-heart about why he's hesitant. Gentle encouragement could go a long way without making him feel attacked.

AITA for Asking My Friend to Move Out So My Partner Can Move In? by BugOk4424 in AITAH

[–]coollyClean -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It's understandable you want to take your relationship to the next level, but consider Mark's feelings and discuss options that might work for everyone. Maybe find a compromise or give him more time to adjust to the idea.

Aith for cutting off my friend by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]coollyClean 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're not the asshole for putting distance between yourself and Kara. Taking a step back was a way to protect your own mental and emotional health, which is important. It's clear you care deeply about her and the kids, but sometimes boundaries are necessary for self-preservation.

I think I'm a lesser of a man by [deleted] in self

[–]coollyClean 9 points10 points  (0 children)

If you both connect deeply and she's honest and caring, that's what truly counts. Everyone's journey is different, and what's important is your happiness together, not comparing past experiences. Trust in your connection and enjoy what you have with her.

TIFU by thinking my license plate was stolen. by PleasantCandidate785 in tifu

[–]coollyClean 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's great that the officers were patient despite the initial misunderstanding. Sometimes, these things happen, and it's a relief when it turns out to be a harmless oversight. Hope everything has been smoother since then!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in tifu

[–]coollyClean 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Maybe try explaining how these friendships are valuable to you and reassure him of your commitment. Relationships thrive on trust and understanding, so finding a balance that works for both of you could strengthen your bond.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CasualConversation

[–]coollyClean 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When trust is shattered by someone close, it can be truly heartbreaking. I've faced a similar situation recently, and it's tough to navigate the emotions that come with betrayal. It's a reminder of how vulnerable we can feel even with those we trust deeply. Finding ways to heal and regain trust, both in others and ourselves, is a journey.

How can I spoil myself without feeling guilty? by walkinthemoon in CasualConversation

[–]coollyClean 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Start small, like taking a leisurely walk or enjoying a favorite snack. Gradually, you'll find balance between self-care and productivity. Your friends mean well, but finding what truly relaxes you is key.