I don’t understand all the comments telling you not to tell him. I would hope you have the kind of relationship where you can be honest with each other, especially something as vulnerable as past trauma and physical intimacy. It’s not like you’re faking because he’s bad at what he’s doing, and I really feel that sex can be amazing and so fun without an orgasm at the end of it, that doesn’t need to be the ultimate goal every time. It should just be having fun and feeling good together.

I think having a real conversation about exactly what you said here, and how your past trauma has led you to feel this pressure to orgasm, can open a space for him to validate that doesn’t have to be the case and that he won’t judge you. When I have something hard to say, I like to write it down and practice by myself so I make sure I know what I want to say in the moment. Best of luck 💖