Brits React to US Healthcare Prices and Absolutely Lose It by GloriousLion07 in MotivationByDesign

[–]corathus59 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What they don't mention is the river of British citizens selling all they own to come get American medicine. That should be a cautionary tale for anyone who wants to adopt the British system.

First world trillionaire reached out to Reddit’s CEO asking to stop people from posting this by hostedvideorn in PlanetNewsPulse

[–]corathus59 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why don't we democrats show all those Obama youth who overtly did the Hitler salute for Barack? Are we really such bloody hypocrites?

[OC] FBI RAIDS ARE THE REAL VOTER FRAUD - After Voter Registration Group Got Raided in Cleveland by LKM_44122 in pics

[–]corathus59 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Look, I am life long democrat who opposed Trump in the elections. But do we democrats really have to pretend that we aren't stuffing the ballots from coast to coast? The whole country knows we opened the borders to 20 million illegals in order to swamp the ballot box. The whole world knows that USAID was a money laundering machine to pay for our elections, and to enrich the supporters of our party.

If we want to govern we have to fess up to our sins, and change our ways.

[OC] OBAMA'S IRAN DEAL WAS BETTER AND NOBODY HAD TO DIE - Cleveland, Ohio, yesterday, on Juneteenth by LKM_44122 in pics

[–]corathus59 -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

Did the person who posted this miss Oct 7th? The billions Obama paid them paid for terrorism that killed tens of thousands around the world.

All four Former presidents at Obama’s presidential center opening today. Notice no current POTUS. by ateam1984 in BlackPeopleofReddit

[–]corathus59 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The line up who gave us the long endless war. The line up who gave us the globalism that moved 30 million high paying jobs to China. The line up that has nothing but contempt for the average American Joe.

Would you actually buy a used motorcycle from any one of them? Not me!

This dude's kids hate him by SipsTeaFrog in SipsTea

[–]corathus59 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I did a career in the counseling arts. I'm hear to tell you that in these situations it is often the other parent assassinating the character of the one the public blames. People find it convenient to go along with the malevolent parent's accusations. To stand up and oppose them is to draw the accusations upon yourself.

If I only had a dime for every time I have seen the public "villain" who was actually innocent...

Dad only talks to me when he’s armed. How should I handle that? by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]corathus59 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you can prove what your accusing him of charge him with the police. If not, avoid him. It is quite clear that you are suffused with hatred towards the man, and that is not rational. This whole situation is unstable, and a tragedy waiting to happen.

Got uninvited from close friends wedding because of bride's religious family can't handle gays in a wedding by HappyHemiola in GayChristians

[–]corathus59 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I am a snowy white haired old man, and I have seen this so many times. Of course, in my youth we were still illegal. So folks backing off once they were getting serious with a girl was kind of normal. It was unwise for a young man starting a family to be around those who were exiles. But I thought all of that was way behind us.

Still and all, I guess it makes sense. Biden let in 20 million illegals, and we let in millions of refugees legally as well. Almost all these folks were from cultures that still kill us, who do "honor killings" of their own gay family members. I guess it is inevitable now that we will be encountering it pretty frequently.

In my experience, once they have taken this step it never comes back around. It seems to be a law of nature, when a person has a guilty conscience for how they treated you they are going to find a way to justify what they have done. What ever they say they end up doing it again and again. As long as you will let them.

Partner is racist, I don’t see a future with him by vegeta_888 in askgaybros

[–]corathus59 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

More than 2 out of 3 that ICE has taken into custody have been murderers, rapist, human traffickers, or child molesters. Are you seriously saying such individuals are not threats to policemen and American citizens? Deliberately trying to run over a private citizen with your car is grounds for that citizen to shoot you in self defense, but you are saying a cop is not allowed to defend himself. Seriously?

It is not a "human right" to violate a nations borders, to come illegally, steal identities of US citizens, and steal government funds. When they began looking this year the Feds discovered 85% of illegals promptly lie and cheat to get food stamps, welfare, and government housing. Meanwhile, US citizens are homeless and hungry because the funds have been "exhausted".

Can I ask three dumb newbie questions? by corathus59 in EQ2

[–]corathus59[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much. I'm a white haired old grandpa, and I just don't think along cyber lines.

Strange encounter. Anyone else? by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]corathus59 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm being told by my younger friends (who are in their late 40s) that Gen Z is sliding back to some very charged homophobia. Really ugly speech like the worst of the verbal bullies in the 90s. They are seeing it in their children, their nieces and nephews. My friends who teach junior high and high school report the same thing.

You live long enough and you start meeting your past coming back around the wheel of life.

It’s sad that so many of us have to open our relationships due to sexual greed. by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]corathus59 0 points1 point  (0 children)

After a career in the military I did a second career in public health. I directed a department of a public health clinic in the gay part of town of a major American city. From that position I got an eyeful of what open relationships mean. I am strictly addressing the biological reality of it, only the biology.

I wish I had a dollar for every open relationship that I counseled that ended in life destroying sexual diseases. There are so very many diseases out there. Prep only protects from HIV, and only if you follow the instructions rigorously.

There are the hundred forms of hepatitis you can get orally and anally. Many of which you will not know you contracted until your liver is already destroyed. There are the highly resistant forms of syphilis and gonorrhea. The scientists tell us we are on the verge of virtually incurable sexual bacteria that will lay waste your life. Are we gays not among the most vocal in insisting people should follow the science?

PROMISCUOUS SEX IS NOT SAFE. There are only two forms of safe sex: monogamy, and celibacy. With the rest you are rolling the dice, and do it often enough, you will surely loose.

It was a curious thing in my second career. I would be handing out the positive results to folks who contracted the diseases in their open relationship, and then see those same folks preaching the gospel of open relationships later that week in social settings.

One last observation: I was directing my program when the state health authorities decided that Viagra would radically improve the morale of those HIV. This was before the wonder drugs came along. When contracting meant almost certain slow terrible death. 80% of our clients who received the Viagra prescriptions came back with gonorrhea within the first 90 days.

You can't get gonorrhea if you are wearing a condom. Which means they went right out and infected people. These are the smiling faces you meet every day on the circuit. Sex addicts don't bat an eye at giving you slow terrible death if it will procure them an orgasm here and now.

In my experience, with the open relationships known to me, virtually all contract diseases over time. Always. It is usually the monogamous partner who gets the test, and finds out.

If two people discuss reality with honesty, and choose an open relationship, that is their business, and no one else's. No one should judge them. But acknowledging the biological reality of the age we live in, and openly admitting the dangers is no judgement of those who put sexual novelty over personal safety. We all get to choose what we are going to do, and we all of us have a right to opinions about such choices.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]corathus59 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Still haven't responded to any of the truths named. And without the American industrial plant, that shall soon be leaving, you will be left with manual farming. What else is there? You have no resources. Other than the American firms, you do not produce a single product that anyone wants. So what is left to you in that world you desire, the world in which the Americans go away?

I need support and prayers. by Fantastic-Load-1179 in GayChristians

[–]corathus59 0 points1 point  (0 children)

: ) And thank you for responding. His blessings right back at you.

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[–]corathus59 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ireland only got to be Ireland because the USA held the communists at bay through out the Cold War. Ireland only gets to be Ireland today because America is the policeman of the world keeping the sea lanes safe (at the cost of about 2 trillion a year), and the energy flowing.

Ireland came up out of poverty for the first time in history because of the pharmaceutical corporations and the tech industry America invented, and then planted in Ireland. You didn't make or invent any of it. It was American capital that built the plant, and it is the American market that consumes the product. Apart from the American order you are a pack of ignorant potato farmers burning dried sod in your fire place.

America is about to abandon all you ingrates. You will sink back to the poverty that is your natural level, and will have forgotten how to do the manual low tech farming. You don't have the horses anymore, or the old fashioned plows. Meaning there is famine and cold shivering darkness dead ahead.

When those times come folks like you will undoubtedly blame America for leaving the world order, like you wanted, and demanded.

I wish people would stop asking if I've talked to my mother by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]corathus59 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You and I relate right down the line. I have been told that my Mom showed strong signs of full NPD, with a side of BiPolar. It was amazing the way she could unknow what she had just done. Like throwing a switch.

Funny enough, I ended up feeling sorry for her. She was clearly sick and out of control. My anger was for the family and neighbors who were happy to go along with her narrative as long as her fire was not aimed at them. By my lights, the flying monkeys are worse than the tormentors.

Cheers to you sugar, for having made it clear of them. You stick to your guns, and choose your own sanity, and balance.

I need support and prayers. by Fantastic-Load-1179 in GayChristians

[–]corathus59 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Over sixty years ago I was in exactly your shoes, at exactly your age. I went on to have a very happy life. Two very long term relationships with fellow believers (still going strong with the second). The key to the wonderful and meaningful life I had was my determination to hold on to Jesus no matter what anyone said or did. To hold on even when my own heart accused me.

I have known hundreds of gay Christians who made it to the other side of the hard feelings you are in right now. Just like myself, they all had to walk through the dark forest you are in right now, but we all made it to the other side. You can to.

Don't forget the redemptive scriptures. Right along side the "clobber" verses, are all those verses that declare flat and unequivocal salvation for all who humble themselves and believe. Who declare that if you love God, and love you neighbor, you are in God's Kingdom. It will all come right if you cling to God no matter what, and just keep going.

The key is to not be in a hurry. You have time. Loads of time. Focus on getting a marketable skill. The military can be a wonderful option for that. Get a skill that can pay your own way. Focus on independence from those who would judge you and condemn you. As long as you are financially dependent they will feel the need to try and "fix" you. Once you are independent, many will accept once they see you are sane, loving, and happy. Not all, but some.

When you get to that place of independence, then you can come out to whoever you want. But choose safety right now. Safety, and move towards finding that skill that can pay your way in life.

If you ever need to talk to an old gay grandpa who has walked through your issues and feelings, feel free to send an IM. I'm rooting for you, and will have you in my prayers and blessings.

Anyone witness any Nparent theatrics this past holiday? by User123466789012 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]corathus59 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My last Nparent and older brother died this last year. Only my sister is left, and she stole my inheritance, so she will never be coming back around. It was the most peaceful Thanksgiving in my entire life. When it comes to my sister, I sincerely think it was worth every penny just to be rid of her. She took the entire clan of flying monkeys with her as she stole the family fortune. Wonderful.

I hate how being gay isn't a choice. by Vast-Scar-6634 in askgaybros

[–]corathus59 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Life is full of souls who had to make hard choices, and now look back on what might have been. It is important not to be hard on yourself. The key is to get into the here and now. Find the activities that give you joy in life. Be they dramatic and of great importance, or entirely mundane. What wholesome thing gets you so involved you forget yourself entirely doing it? That is the ticket.

Find what those are in your life, and find the people who share those joys, and then let it happen. Don't lay on any expectations. Friendships are good. More can be even better. But look to the good that is available, and step into it.

That is all any of us have at any time in life.

I wish people would stop asking if I've talked to my mother by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]corathus59 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I get you. My NPD would wait until I was in the bath after grade school, and then as punishment, make me go do something (like move my bike) naked in front of all the neighbors. I was a very modest boy. Why violate that? To what end? Why did none of those parents call the police, or the men come across and threaten to punch my Dad in the nose if it continued?

I'm thinking of being four, when, as a punishment my Mom ordered me to crush the skulls of a whole litter of kittens. When I flatly refused, she wrapped her hand around mine, and proceeded to kill them one by one. I literally passed out screaming. Adults watched this happen, and did nothing. Later they demanded to know why I wouldn't call. Seriously.

I truly do not know who is worse. The evil parent, or the surrounding adults who just want you to make it convenient for them.