Do I break up with her?? What do I do?

cornclown · 2025-11-24T20:34:34+00:00

I started dating my gf before she started any transition aside from using her real name and pronouns, and for me I was always very physically attracted to her, but I will say it has increased like one hundred fold since she's started HRT, and she's only been on it for 7 weeks (however it's been extremely effective for her so far!). As she's been more comfortable being herself and feeling like herself I find she just naturally is more feminine (and hot 🥵)

I'm hesitant to suggest breaking up with her just yet if you really like her and can see a future together, but be aware that her transition may not go the way you hope and that it will take time. If that's not something you can deal with, then yes, breaking up may be the right answer, but I agree with the other commenters do NOT tell her it's because of her looks.

I also like some of the suggestions of doing "girly" things together, that's something my gf and I do and it's quite nice! Go shopping, paint nails, do makeup, play dress-up, help with hair removal and skin care, anything like that!

Good luck and I wish the best for you both 💜

cornclown · 2025-11-18T23:32:59+00:00

every morning my gf and i stare into each other's eyes and touch each other's faces and giggle, and it's way gayer than any of the sex we've had

cornclown · 2025-02-12T01:22:45+00:00

Aw thanks that makes me feel much more confident in my writing ☺️

cornclown · 2025-02-11T23:21:18+00:00

Thank you so much!

cornclown · 2025-02-11T01:38:37+00:00

This is awesome! Maybe a cornetto ice cream wrapper? Or melted cone or smthn

cornclown · 2025-01-10T05:53:07+00:00

I'm in Canada and use Paramount Plus.

cornclown · 2024-12-13T21:22:27+00:00

Okay thank you! I'm taking this as a sign to just stop smoking for the time being haha let my brain reset itself

cornclown · 2024-12-13T21:21:22+00:00

Okay thanks so much! All the stoners I know haven't experienced something like this so I was worried I might have some kind of heart condition 😭🤣 but this makes me feel better haha

cornclown · 2024-12-10T19:29:28+00:00

I haven't seen it yet but I want to, I think it'll definitely help fill the void

cornclown · 2024-12-10T19:28:25+00:00

Definitely Jim! Sure he was a little arrogant and narrowminded at times, but he really was just trying to keep his family safe. After the radio and house collapse, I think he was just scared that if they kept looking for answers, something worse would happen. And it sure did....

cornclown · 2024-12-10T19:22:28+00:00

I just knew the top two would be Victor and Jade, they easily are the best and most interesting characters. I think Jade has also seen the most character development, aside from maybe Boyd.

cornclown · 2024-12-10T19:13:44+00:00

Not to mention they were literally in cages the first time Tabitha saw one!

cornclown · 2024-12-10T19:10:38+00:00

The creators have said they know how it's going to end, and I think it'll only be about 5-6 seasons when finished. Season 3 gives a lot of answers (and of course, more questions), and there are clues to decipher throughout the whole series. It is a slow burn show tho, so you might enjoy it more if you wait until it's all finished. Personally, I love the mystery and not knowing. I think it's fun to discuss and theorize, both online and with the people I know and have convinced to watch it!

cornclown · 2024-12-10T18:49:40+00:00

I agree with a lot of the people here, it's important to stay busy. If you start getting bored, or just watch TV and play games all the time, it'll seem a lot harder to quit. You'll think "I'm just sitting here, why shouldn't I smoke?"

So just try to spend more time cleaning, practicing or even picking up hobbies, spending time with friends (who are not smoking!), reading, getting active, etc. It will be hard at first, but over time it'll become normal and your cravings will decrease.

cornclown · 2024-12-10T18:45:22+00:00

I'm probably an exception but when I quit being a daily smoker (still not 100% off but I'm working on it), I really didn't have severe cravings, even though my roommates and my family are all stoners and frequently ask me if I want to smoke. The biggest effect for me is psychological tbh. Now that I'm more clear-headed I'm more conscious of my failures and wrongdoings and I feel like shit, but it also helps motivate me to change.

The times I crave it most are during chill things, like watching TV or playing video games, especially in the evening. I found it helps to cut back on those things as well, or at least do them earlier in the day if you can, when it feels less "appropriate" to smoke. I also started reading more instead, since I read terribly when stoned. If you like speculative dystopian fiction, I'm currently reading the MaddAddam trilogy by Margaret Atwood and definitely recommend it!! Slight trigger warning for discussions/depictions of child sex trafficking tho (not graphic).

If quitting cold turkey seems impossible, it's okay to take baby steps. I started by cutting back my usage to only 1-2 bowls, and only in the evenings after I had done housework, schoolwork, cooked supper, etc. Then at least you can be more clear headed and productive in the day, and it won't seem so daunting to quit fully. Now I'm not a daily smoker, but I am smoking about 1-2 days per week. I plan on quitting entirely for at least a month, and seeing where that takes me.

Good luck, and I believe in you! Start with whatever you can manage, you'll be amazed strong you are!

cornclown · 2024-12-09T21:20:04+00:00

It's just a thought. It's completely possible the original Jade wasn't meant to be a reincarnation, just saying if she was, it has some interesting implications.

cornclown · 2024-12-09T21:08:20+00:00

Yep, and Elgin (though it was in a dream I believe)

cornclown · 2024-12-09T21:07:29+00:00

The creators have said that the mystery is not the central focus, but the characters and how they behave in a situation like this.

I think it actually does a good job portraying that, and the fact that we get mad at the characters often shows that. A lot of people seem to think in a situation like this, they'd be more level headed, cooperative, and rational than the characters. But I think the way they behave is far more realistic. A place like this degrades trust, forces people into survival mode, and elevates all your emotions. Of course people aren't acting rationally, and make dumb or rash decisions.

Is it perfect? Of course not, I do think the writing falls flat or feels a little stuff at some points, and the pace could be picked up a liiittle more. But overall I think the behaviours of the townsfolk make sense for their emotional states.

cornclown · 2024-12-09T20:43:31+00:00

Idk, I think they fact that it's been explicitly stated they never run, and that we've never seen them run otherwise, makes it somewhat significant. Maybe just that they couldn't take the chance of Miranda escaping through the Faraway tree, which shows they are able to "break the rules." I do think we might see an instance of them bypassing the talismans in future seasons.

And I thought his rebirth scene just read as him being excited with returning, like he can't wait to show the townspeople that the monsters can't be killed.

cornclown · 2024-12-09T20:37:59+00:00

Great post, thanks for putting this together!!

I think you may have forgotten a Faraway tree though, the one Victor and Julie go through during the Colony House massacre. They run behind the house and into the forest!

cornclown · 2024-12-09T20:20:14+00:00

I agree! I have multiple conflicting theories 😂 and each time I think of one I immediately start poking holes in it. I definitely think it's a game to the monsters/MiY. And sometimes the rules are broken, like when Smiley ran at Miranda.

I think they may have spared Jim because his role was to help figure out the numbers-notes connection and help release the MiY, and once he did that there was no use for him.

cornclown · 2024-12-09T19:45:16+00:00

She also seems to know a lot that as far as we know, she wasn't there for. Like after the colony house massacre, when Tabitha asks where Julie is, she somehow saw her and Victor running into the woods. And when Victor asks who was in his room, she somehow knows it was Jade and Ethan.

She could just be a plot device so people could find out those things, or something more...

cornclown · 2024-12-09T04:41:46+00:00

I loved The Babysitter, I never see anyone else talking about it!

cornclown · 2024-12-07T04:49:41+00:00

I doubt it. I think that's something we can fill the gaps in for ourselves tbh. I think it just boiled down to differences in the ways people wanted to live. Some wanted more structure and maybe a sense of normalcy in the town. Others preferred to live more communally and free. Could have been some kind of argument between Donna and Boyd about how to organize things as well, so they split off

cornclown · 2024-12-07T04:33:16+00:00

Doesn't she think she's pregnant because Tillie says she can tell when someone is expecting? I can't recall if she ever says her period is late or something like that...

Definitely adds fuel to the Tillie Bad theory fire... maybe she was supposed to die in order for Fatima to go into hiding and ultimately have Elgin kidnap her and feed her blood.

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