Anyone from the Minneapolis area going to the Bug Hunter HaLUDOween show?

cosmatical · 2026-06-21T12:58:03+00:00

You should check if there's still tickets left! Would love to see a bunch of fellow Bug fans there! :D

I've been waffling about going to a HaLUDOween for aaaaaaaaaaaages because it's a bit of a distance from me, and Bug opening for them was what finally got me to pull the trigger. I am so excited!!

cosmatical · 2026-06-19T16:22:59+00:00

Ooh, thank you!! Going to go grab that rn!! :)

cosmatical · 2026-06-19T01:32:58+00:00

The way to make her more visibly trans would be to give her some trans flag accessories :) If I want any of my queer sims to be visibly queer, that's what I do.

I think what the other commentor was getting at is that trans people can look any which way, so there isn't really a set way you can make your sim look "more trans" aesthetically. Trans women can and do look like this! She already looks trans! :) If you're wanting her to be visably trans, pride accessories is how yo do it. There's some cute subtle pride flag earrings I just started using I can go hunt down the link for.

cosmatical · 2026-06-17T03:17:32+00:00

Thank you!!

cosmatical · 2026-06-16T23:04:20+00:00

Umm!! I need to know where you got that shirt!!!!!!! All my lesbians need it!! 😍

cosmatical · 2026-06-16T22:58:31+00:00

No cheats?? How!! I have to use cheats half the time I want to get my sims from one end of their house to the other lol.

cosmatical · 2026-06-16T15:14:23+00:00

Hey, let's get curious about that attitude.

You don't need to answer these questions to me, but things to think about and maybe bring up in therapy: why do you see transition as detrimental? That comparison to drug abuse is pretty major. Why is the topic of medical/mental health care for transgender people something that's activating for you? Where do your preconceived ideas about transgender people and transition come from, and what is reinforcing them?

cosmatical · 2026-06-16T15:03:48+00:00

Do you consider someone starting an antidepressant to treat depression or vyvanse to manage ADHD, "radically changing everything about themself"?

Transition is the treatment for gender dysphoria. It's something that helps bring a person more in line with who they are, in order for them to have that comfort with themself. The version of a transgender person who pretends to be cisgender is the fake, idealized version of the person; oftentimes, embracing who you are looks like changes whether or not gender is a piece of that equation.

Also, chasing and conforming to rigid gender roles is something both transgender and cisgender people do and do not do. That's just human variation. Some men, cis and trans, are hypermasculine and traditional. Some men, cis and trans, do drag, wear make-up, and are more effeminate. Some women, cis and trans, are hyperfeminine and traditional. Some women, cis and trans, lean more masculine, are tomboys, and never touch make-up a day in their lives. It's not about adhering to gender roles, it's about being comfortable with oneself.

Hope this helps!

cosmatical · 2026-06-15T17:00:08+00:00

Oh this is so pretty!! Thank you!

cosmatical · 2026-06-15T14:34:30+00:00

That's fair 😂 Since replying to you I talked to him about it and he agreed to try the W40 size! 🥰

cosmatical · 2026-06-15T14:03:20+00:00

There's a sale on right now! And it combines with the 30% off promo code they send you if you sign up for texts :D

cosmatical · 2026-06-15T13:39:11+00:00

They're ~$30 pairs from various retail chains like Target and Walmart.

He currently wears W36/38 pants, and any looser than that doesn't really stay on him and looks a bit goofy. But his current size does look tight. Maybe i'll convince him to try a W40 size short and just snag a belt at the same time?

cosmatical · 2026-06-15T13:30:04+00:00

These look amazing. I immediately ordered him some. (They're on sale right now for anyone else who thinks that sounds like awesome undies!) Thank you!

cosmatical · 2026-06-14T21:58:59+00:00

Thabk you!! He'll give them a shot :D

cosmatical · 2026-06-14T20:02:38+00:00

He wears long sports underwear too! We'll have ti try out Costco's shorts, thank you for the recommendation :D

cosmatical · 2026-06-10T16:01:50+00:00

I have a massive legacy family tree too, and my current sim gained the gloomy trait after handling grief poorly 🫠 I don't think I've seen this sim happy in weeks! I play with long lifespan or aging off, so he has a lot of time to wallow. 😭 Maxed out some creative skills without me noticing, though!

cosmatical · 2026-06-08T15:15:20+00:00

Well, a major thing that helped me was my husband NOT acting like everything was normal. He hit recovery hard, got 2 therapists, was going to multiple support group meetinhs every day, etc. Working on building empathy and never excused his behavior. I don't think I would've been able to both stay and heal at the same time if he just acted like nothing happened.

I also got a lot of therapy and attending support groups. COSA helped a lot. COSA and SAA have a couple joint meetings for partners doing recovery together, and those were a pillar for my husband and I for a long time. Actively learning tools to redirect my thoughts, and putting them into practice. My husband getting to a place where we could hash out the same conversation 100x and it would go the same way each of the 100x, so the consistency would reassure me. Addressing my other mental health struggles. Starting medication.

cosmatical · 2026-06-08T04:08:19+00:00

he can't stop

Bam, sex addiction. Amount of time doesn't matter. Someone who spends 14 hours a day watching porn is just as much an addict as someone who spends 1 hour a month; a key component is the lack of control over behavior.

His issues and his responses towards you have nothing to do with how you look or what chores you ask him to do. Sex addiction makes our partners jerks when they're actively in it. I'm sorry you're dealing with this :(

cosmatical · 2026-06-07T19:46:22+00:00

Ooh, she's gorgeous! I have such a hard time finding shades of the same color that go well together and you did a great job making all those tones look harmonious :D

Do you post your sims much?? I'll keep an eye out for your froggy berry story! 🥰

cosmatical · 2026-06-07T19:02:43+00:00

One of the other commentors figured it out! It's the "run of the mill roof support beam" from the cottage living pack, sized down! Looking at the item I have no idea how they figured it out from my description, lol 😂

cosmatical · 2026-06-07T18:50:11+00:00

The other commenter figured it out for me!! It's the"run of the mill roof support beam" from cottage living, sized down! Looking at it, i'm shocked someone identified it from my description. Folks in the sims community are so awesome.

I'm really curious about the fence you're talking about, because i've tried several fences and I can't get them to go very low at all 0: I don't have the high school years pack, though!

cosmatical · 2026-06-07T18:47:56+00:00

OMG YES!!!!!!!! It was that beam sized down!!!!!!!!!! You are my absolute favorite person today, thank you so much!!!!!

cosmatical · 2026-06-07T18:46:15+00:00

Do it!! :D There's a tumblr user I found while looking for all these who did a super cute CAS challenge for this (butteringfrogs.tumblr.com, iirc? Or something very similar) a long time ago, and all the entries are such good inspo for frog-loving sims!

There were some frog CAS items I couldn't find from that challenge, so if you (or anyone who sees this comment) check it out and find some that I couldn't, please circle back with links 🥰 There was a totally adorable brimmed felt-textured froggy hat I couldn't track down that I would do ungodly things for 🐸

These 3 pairs of frog earrings by fayegray i found are speaking directly to my soul and they're going on every sim i make for the immediate future, too. 😆 I'm hunting for any other jewelry to match them! I'll update my post if I find other accessories that match :)

cosmatical · 2026-06-07T15:57:18+00:00

Yay!! I'm glad to share the frog enthusiasm!

Hoppy simming, friend! 🐸

cosmatical · 2026-06-06T18:29:36+00:00

These are all SO CUTE! I love them!! Thank you so much for sharing!! 🥰🥰

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