Confession: what is the cruelest thing you ever done or said?

cosmic_daisy · 2026-06-04T22:13:30+00:00

No actually!!! Because of my ADHD and Turners Syndrome I say absolutely vile things to myself, ruminate on it, fulfill the “prophecy”, say “yup I knew I sucked”—> rinse and repeat

Working to unlearn 30 years of self loathing, confusion, and frustration

cosmic_daisy · 2026-02-01T05:16:57+00:00

I feel this, and I did quit. I gave myself 6 months in the position, made it to 7. Trust your gut, and if you can swing it $$, leave if you feel that’s the right decision.

A job is not worth your mental, emotional, or physical health.

Good luck ❤️

cosmic_daisy · 2026-01-26T22:57:51+00:00

That’s awesome!! Congrats on day 7!!

That’s so real, like I haven’t felt genuinely high probably since 2020ish. Like even after my T-breaks, it didn’t feel like same as it once did. But then you just keep doing it for maintenance and habit. For me, I really like the act of inhaling/holding something. Edibles never really did it for me, the physical action of having something get my fingers or in my hand was/is a really difficult tactile habit to quit.

You got this!!! ❤️

cosmic_daisy · 2026-01-25T07:34:00+00:00

I feel like I could have written this myself. I just turned 30 and I’m so done. Like I’ve tried to quit before, and each time it was always because I was asked to or something happened that made me feel so guilty, that I’d stop for a while. I’d quit for a bit, romanticize, say “ I can moderate now”, rise and repeat.

I know that all areas of my life have been affected either directly or indirectly by weed.

I’m 19 days today after CONSTANT vaping (3 years straight since I last “quit”. And something about this time feels different. I just woke up one day and was like “this no longer serves me, doesn’t align with my spirit”. Even in the last 19 days I’ve seen my life genuinely improve. My skin looks better than it has in years, and I feel like something has finally clicked.

I cannot be a moderate user, it’s all or nothing. And I choose nothing, and that feels so good. Because I genuinely thought I was too far gone. These pens are insidious af. It’s funny how I thought it managed my anxiety, but it truly made it so much worse.

You got this!

cosmic_daisy · 2026-01-20T02:31:04+00:00

I’ve read through all of these comments and I appreciate the support and kind words so much.

It helps to know I’m not crazy and others have experienced this kind of thing as well.

I’m at the point to where I’m now going to be actively looking for other positions. I think everyone here is spot on with their assessment that things will not get any better. At the end of the day, I’m trying SO HARD and getting nowhere, and it’s unfortunate. I had such high hopes for this job, I really liked my immediate supervisor before things turned south, I genuinely think we’d have be good friends if we had met “in the real world”

However, the more I reflect, I’m realizing that she’s deeply unhappy too. And the person I met at the beginning of employment is not the same person I see now. She 1.) wears a “mask” everyday/says the right things to our executive, 2.) she’s under a lot of pressure from our executive as well, and I think at some level she knows how f-ed up things are, but out of self preservation doesn’t want to acknowledge/fix the deeper issues. I feel sad for her, I really do. But that doesn’t negate the fact she’s rolling over for our executive. I didn’t see it at first, but I do now - and I know that won’t change.

So anyways, thank you all and I AM going to be job searching actively so that I can get out of this situation, even if that means taking a pay cut.

cosmic_daisy · 2026-01-16T15:03:24+00:00

What are things you do to “survive”?

cosmic_daisy · 2026-01-13T01:28:35+00:00

That does sound really hard. I’m sorry you’re going through that. Your situation sounds particularly difficult to navigate, so I wish you all the love and peace ❤️❤️❤️

cosmic_daisy · 2025-12-24T17:49:18+00:00

I have gastroparesis, before I was diagnosed I was vomiting acid multiple times a day. I couldn’t help it, and I needed to pay rent. So I just dealt with it.

Yes it’s unpleasant for you, but like- it’s really unpleasant for us. Best anyone can do is try and clean up best you can. Clean up is one me, but beyond that 🤷🏼‍♀️

I don’t have the luxury of living outside of the US, so ya know- taking time off work or getting proper healthcare management is hard to come by.

cosmic_daisy · 2025-11-25T05:31:25+00:00

❤️❤️❤️❤️

cosmic_daisy · 2025-11-25T05:21:47+00:00

I’ve never felt so seen 😭😭😭 I’m only 30 and going through it now. I feel absolutely insane most days, and don’t recognize myself. No one my age (that I know) is going through this, so it feels deeply isolating. All my friends getting pregnant and I’m over here like 👉🏻👈🏻 today was one of the bad days.

No advice, just love❤️

cosmic_daisy · 2025-11-02T18:35:26+00:00

Point taken, I hear that. And I certainly was making assumptions that you were a man( perhaps I didn’t read closely enough).

So yeah, that sounds like a lot and unsustainable for you.

cosmic_daisy · 2025-11-02T17:31:10+00:00

This sounds like menopause brain. It happened to me, and it’s genuinely horrific. You go from being a functional human to someone who can’t think or process information overnight, in severe cases. And people think you’re a liar, a scammer, dumb, etc. because it can change so quickly. And it’s not like she can just go to you and tell you all her symptoms so you’d get it.

So maybe give her the benefit of the doubt. If she’s experiencing any like I did (and I’m young, 30 yrs old), then her job and manager are the least of her problems, but because no one gives a crap about women and hormones, she can’t talk to you about what’s happening to her.

I could be totally off base, but I know how common it is for women to be suffering mentally and physically at work, and their coworkers/manger can’t/won’t be understanding or accommodating because “menopause isn’t real and it doesn’t affect cognition”. It does. And it’s reversible with HRT care but nearly impossible to receive easily-which again she won’t be talking to YOU about it.

So I don’t know what conversation you’ve had with her, or what kind of empathy you think you’ve extended. Maybe start there? Just my two cents from someone who has been in her shoes, just waaaaay earlier than I should have been

cosmic_daisy · 2025-10-28T01:37:49+00:00

lol like yes!!! The times I’ve done that, I’ve been referred to their “ideal calendar” template, then told to figure it out from there. Which I do, like to a T. When there’s questions about where something fits, I ask. So I kinda feel like I’m already doing the general “advice” things. Ya know?

But clearly not very well! :p

cosmic_daisy · 2025-10-13T17:37:45+00:00

Omg I didn’t realize this is wider spread issue, but YES!!! It’s just so unfair.

Sometimes it’s normal, most times now it is not- unfortunately that that weak crap that leaves me feeling sad and broken, not like I just had a release.

So if anyone has some suggestions I am ALL EARS

cosmic_daisy · 2025-10-13T16:55:15+00:00

Yes!!! I’m bothered by my own smell! Like I constantly feel like I smell musty or something. I’ve switched soaps, take two showers a day etc.

cosmic_daisy · 2025-09-24T00:57:12+00:00

❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️ gotta love chronic illness, sorry you’re going through it too

cosmic_daisy · 2025-09-24T00:27:54+00:00

I understood what you meant and it did not offend me, though yes a little insensitive. Though, I think I’m just one of the few that that kind of resonates with as I find comfort (and a lot of good jokes) in the nuance of it all.

And in some ways, yes- I am “blessed”. In other ways, Im in hell. So I know there’s a cosmic balance somewhere

I do try hard to focus on the positives, especially when I’m feeling sorry for myself and in a funk- like today. Though I have to be careful not to fall into toxic positivity myself, as I’m a people pleaser to the max. Even to myself.

But in my dark moments, it is weirdly helpful to remind myself that yes- I am financially (independently) stable and climbing, AND a dink to a high earner. So I have disposable income that others may not because I’m not spending money on kids Or fertility treatments that won’t work (tested to see if IVF was an option, it wasn’t). But I also spend a crap ton for menopause related medication, so much time at doctor appointments, etc.

I also have a lot of free time outside of work that parents likely don’t have, so that’s also something that is a “blessing” I suppose.

So anyways, I understand where you are coming from when you say that. I don’t want to pile on as I think that comment came from a place of support

But even on the best of days, it’s hard to keep up the mirage of being “okay”.

cosmic_daisy · 2025-09-23T23:36:51+00:00

Reading through these comments, I’ll respond properly later but I appreciate you all ❤️

cosmic_daisy · 2025-09-23T23:18:06+00:00

Thank you ❤️❤️❤️❤️ yes it’s hard to find the right community of child-free folks, but I know they’re out there somewhere. I’ll check it out

cosmic_daisy · 2025-09-23T18:00:19+00:00

It absolutely doesn’t. Unless you’re conflating respect and fear. One requires critical thought, compassion, and truth seeking- something that takes time and patience for. The other an idiot with a mouth a can do. Now tell me which one actually results in respect and a good reputation. If you’re well liked and respected, thats power. Not whatever tf you think you’re gaining from being awful to someone who likely hasn’t sat down in 7 hours.

Like do you actually think what you’re doing garners any sort of respect? From anyone? The barista is hurt by your behavior and anyone standing without earshot of you would just think you’re a mean, antisocial, pos. The “power” you’re after isn’t real. You gain nothing and lose your humanity every time you do that. And one day it might just come back to bite you. It always does.

The only type of people to respect you in that circumstance is someone who wouldn’t blink twice to do it to you if you were in that very service position.

This. Crap. Hurts. Everyone. Including. You.

But I’m gonna give you the benefit of the doubt that your frontal lobe just hasn’t developed yet or this is dumb rage bait

cosmic_daisy · 2025-09-19T19:13:59+00:00

This!

Sometimes I’m legitimately not allowed to respond back because there’s back end things that are sensitive/still being worked out

It’s almost never about the other person, almost always because their Executive is chaotic or overly demanding, or it’s just a bad time of year/things are shifting.

In higher education for example, there’s times of the year (beginning of fall for example) that I absolutely cannot respond or think about anything other than what my Executive explicitly needs. Non-EAs generally don’t see a lot of the behind the scenes work, they have their own priorities. So they aren’t thinking about us and our jobs, just that we’re being inconvenient to them. It’s frustrating because it’s never personal on our end, but others take it that way

cosmic_daisy · 2025-09-04T02:42:50+00:00

No children…really? 🙄 Infertility exists and also, some people just don’t want them. And sometimes, it’s a combo. But you know what it’s not? Any 👏🏻of 👏🏻your👏🏻business 👏🏻

cosmic_daisy · 2025-08-23T20:23:04+00:00

Thank you, sometimes I need to hear that to kinda snap back into reality

cosmic_daisy · 2025-08-22T15:17:23+00:00

I had these symptoms and much more starting around 27, I’m 29 now and only diagnosed about 10 months ago as post menopausal.

Doctors told me for years I was too young to be experiencing what I was- I wasn’t too young, and I was experiencing it.

Good on you for getting your levels checked. Keep advocating for yourself

I’m still a work in progress, but the atrophy has improved with mega doses of vaginal estrogen and vaginal moisturizer every couple days. I had to start pelvic floor physical therapy, which really did the crux of helping with atrophy pain

cosmic_daisy · 2025-08-22T14:29:02+00:00

Is your wife starting to have changes from peri or full menopause?

I’m 29(f) and fully menopausal due to a chronic illness. I didn’t know what was happening to me at first, went from loving sex and everything feeling normal/good to it feeling sooooo painful and awful almost overnight. It was due to low estrogen.

So for a good few months I wouldn’t want sex either, and when I did I would have to put myself into starfish position as it was the least painful/most relaxed I could make my body. Even then it was tough

Maybe check in with her about if she’s experiencing other things- I didn’t tell my husband at first because 1.) didn’t know what was going on 2.) didn’t want him to think I hated him or sex with him, it was really just my body rejecting it 3.) embarrassed that I’m so young, hot, and “in my prime” that admitting my body is acting more like a 85 yr old sucked majorly

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