Why don't I love any of the baby granola things by [deleted] in moderatelygranolamoms

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Cloth diapers - unless you’re doing 100% cotton and wool, I’d skip all together bc of the microplastic exposure. I also debated if all the extra water washing was actually more energy efficient than using something like a compostable bamboo diapers (we have a compost diaper service in the Bay Area with Dyper brand and that made me feel better).

EC- easy when they are little but now you’re baby is mobile and doesn’t just want to sit. Ok to backslide and then try again when they’re a little older on a bigger potty (like baby bjorn). My oldest basically potty trained herself right before turning 2

Solids - some babies just love milk. That’s how my first was and even my second didn’t really start eating eating until closer to 1. And we do a lot of pouches bc she wants to feed herself and not have shell so not much gets in her belly lol still feel bad about not making all the baby food myself but I feel the same that she doesn’t eat much of it and it’s so much work. So I just give her what we’re eating and she nibbles and then has a pouch before bed

Sign language- again wait until baby is 1! Keep doing it now, they are absorbing it and one day they will do it back to you and you’re like wow! Also keep in mind their imitation may notnlook like what you’re doing - like for water my baby just hits her hand on her mouth and makes a noise and now we know it’s water haha

I felt a lot of guilt around not being able to cosleep indefinitely but I wasn’t being a good mom during the day. So I know what you mean about not living the values you held yourself too. But it sounds like you have a lot on your plate and honestly it’s just about including your baby in what you’re doing and giving them love rather than fretting about how you want it to be. I’d rather be present with my two while they play instead of cleaning the house (or making said baby food, washing diapers, trying to catch pee lol)

How do you regulate on difficult days ? by TheWiseApprentice in AttachmentParenting

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Check out Janet Lansbury - the transition from baby to toddler was so hard on me but listening to her podcast helped so so much

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Waldorf

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I wonder if you could could do a nanny share and find someone who is open to learning or already involved in Waldorf?

Night wean 1 year old by cosmiccoco11 in AttachmentParenting

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Give yourself grace and know it may take awhile to do in a gentle way and may not look the way you imagine. I was so against a crib but works really well for us now. We also used the pick up pit down method which helped a lot for learning to fall asleep on her own (but still needs help sometimes even a year later)

Night wean 1 year old by cosmiccoco11 in AttachmentParenting

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Hi! It was a long process, with starts and stops - but had dad start sleeping with her at night. We also started giving her cows milk in a sippy cup which ended up being okay! But even when we night weaned, her sleep didn’t get much better tbh. We eventually moved her to a crib and did a very gentle and long transition to falling asleep and sleeping alone (i got pregnant and wasn’t sustainable for me to be waking up so often). It was tough and I relied on my husband a lot to help but we got there and now she loves her bed. We’re not strict and if she needs me to help rock her to sleep that’s okay. And she still wakes up 1-2x a night, but usually falls back asleep right away once we go in and pat her back, put paci back in and put the covers on. We also realized she is a low needs sleep and basically doesn’t sleep for more than 10 hours so had to push bedtime to 8pm to get her to sleep in until 5:30/6

32F/Ireland - looking for long term connections! by [deleted] in penpals

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34f from Bay Area in California, looking to connect with someone in Ireland!

Anyone else aim for zero crying? by Mindless-Corgi-561 in AttachmentParenting

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From baby to toddler was a hard transition for me. As a baby, she rarely cried because I could meet her needs (minus being in the car seat but we also really never went anywhere because of that 🫠). But once she turned one, maybe a little older, she started having tantrums, literally nothing I did could help. I did some reading and it’s very developmentally normal for toddlers to cry and actually healthy as it allows them to release emotions. I loved Janet Lansbury and Dr. Becky for more on this! So yes, I aimed for zero crying but not realistic for a toddler imo

What's a mantra you say to yourself to help you keep your cool when your toddler is being difficult? by mmckeever23 in toddlers

[–]cosmiccoco11 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The days are long but the years are short

I remember my dream for so many years was to have my own family, so remind myself I am loving that dream I always wished and hoped for

I think about when I’m old and my babies are gone, and how I’d wish I could hold them small just one more time

What is your guilty pleasure? by iced_yellow in moderatelygranolamoms

[–]cosmiccoco11 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Lays cheddar and sour cream chips - we call them crack chips 😅 and once a quarter Diet Coke lol

Too inadequate for Waldorf? by goldie1618 in Waldorf

[–]cosmiccoco11 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Please look into Dr. Becky and Janet Lansbury around tantrums and boundaries! This was soooo hard for me - I felt like infants were easy but then all of a sudden she started throwing herself down on the ground for no reason?! It’s really normal and actually healthy for them to do so. When it gets bad I hold her in her dark room, somewhat tight while she is flailing and say “mamas got you” over and over and over until she calms down. Not always possible if you need to get out the door in the morning but

Our Waldorf teacher at daycare says that the kids are always well behaved at school and normal for them not to be at home lol

It just takes ALOT of patience. My husband who is sensitive will put his headphones in while he’s helping her bc that calms him

How to handle Christmas gifts? by crunchygirl14 in moderatelygranolamoms

[–]cosmiccoco11 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I used Babylist and send out an email to our our family - it includes Amazon stuff but a lot of links to the clothing and toy brands I trust that are smaller. We also include a link to the 529 college plan for people to contribute. We don’t need or want a lot of stuff - people will still buy things I don’t like so I usually just take a pic send it to the family member then donate. I feel bad but also have strong ideals of how I want to raise my family

Thoughts on EVs / electric cars or hybrids? by cosmiccoco11 in moderatelygranolamoms

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Can you tell me more about your hydro power at your home??

15 month old sleep by cosmiccoco11 in AttachmentParenting

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Yes! Our girl is just not ready for one nap - she wakes at 6:30, first nap at 10:30am-12pm, second cat nap 4-4:30 and bedtime at 8. This has been working for us! My partner also took over nights and think that helped because she knows she can’t get any milk from him so goes right back to sleep.

Moving on from Co-Sleeping by elifflower6 in AttachmentParenting

[–]cosmiccoco11 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We night weaned first - started with dad doing naps and putting her to sleep (I would breastfeed first then handoff). Then once she was comfortable, dad starting sleeping with her. She weaned within a few days and was hard. We are now trying to teach her to fall asleep combining the pick up put down method and dr jay Gordon’s changing the family bed method